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Father of my baby chooses his girlfriend over son

Dee - posted on 09/06/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I am a mother of a perfectly healthy beautiful baby boy. When I found out that I was pregnant, the father of my baby & I weren't together anymore. We broke up in November and we were still sleeping together until December(when I found out I was pregnant, I was 3 months pregnant) I did not tell him about my pregnancy until my cousin told him about it and he told me that he didn't want any part in it. Then in January he changed his mind and decided that he wanted to help me, as the weeks go by he was happy and excited but we never got back together. Towards the last week of January he didn't talk to me and I found out that he is dating another girl (via friend of mine) I tried I talk to him to ask him what was going on and what he wanted then he told me that he didn't want to support me and he didn't want the baby AT ALL, he wanted me to get an abortion and wanted me to take drugs to get rid of the baby, but I didn't. He kept my pregnancy from his new girlfriend & she was clueless until May, when she found out she still stayed with him because she said it was a thing of the past. The father of my baby and his mother even tried to bribe me into getting an abortion in which I denied of course. I was so sad and hurt and going through so much pain it was so difficult for me to cope... He would always put me down and say rude things to me.



On may I gave birth to a healthy baby boy. It was the happiest day of my life! When the father of my baby had found out that I've giving birth he wanted see the baby.. I didn't reply nor acknowledge him.. Till now he has been giving mixed signals, one day he would want to see the baby thn the next he wouldn't want nothing to do with him. His girlfriend gets mad if I tell him how the baby is doing. Now he told me he doesn't care about the baby and wants me to leave him and his family alone.. I don't know what to do? I am so lost and hurt by this.. I don't know how someone can be so rude and disrespectful.



His girlfriend doesn't want me speaking to the father of my baby nor telling him how he is doing. I'm just so annoyed by this

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Atasha - posted on 09/06/2012

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Here is what you need to do... Find support. Be it family, friends, mommy groups or whatever! You are strong and don't need baby daddy approval! Your son means the world to you? Then prove it! Make his life as wonderful as you can. My first daughter's dad was the same way and I moved on. She is now 10 and very happy! I will admit that yes, I was hurt and ashamed, but I grew up and raised my daughter the best way I knew how! I gave her the love and support of her mommy. Don't contact your ex or his gf with any info about your son. If he comes to you asking about baby, tell him to buzz off. Until he makes repeated attempts to see or contact his son, I say live and let live. Maybe one day he will see the error of his ways, but until then LOVE the ONE MAN who will LOVE YOU FOREVER... Your precious baby boy!!! Good luck with all your life has to offer, and don't even for a second regret your choices. A good life comes with mistakes and no regrets! I hope this helped make you feel better and congrats on your new little family!

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