feeling alone anyone else?

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hello i'm new to this site and new to being single. it's only been a month. for the past years my kids have been my whole life and now i am forced to go back to work, and raise them almost on my own anyone have any suggestions on how to get over myown feelings and help them?

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Brittney - posted on 10/13/2009

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Take everything one day at a time....Enjoy your kids because you dont know what tommorow brings.....Remember that you are a whole without a man....You have to be strong in front of your kids....God will bless you when the time is right with that "right" one....When one door closes another one opens

Monika - posted on 10/13/2009

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Hey there, trust me with time it will get better .I was marride for 17 years and have 5 wonderful kids to feel alone sometimes is normal but just hang in there and do one day at the time and one day everything is forgotten,just thing about those kids and it will get better...

Valerie - posted on 10/11/2009

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You just have to be strong and press forward. My boyfriend left me during my pregnancy. I get so lonesome and betrayed. Then I look at my little boy and nothing else matters except the two of us. Just us, he has me and I have him. That's all I need to keep going.

Gonzalez - posted on 10/11/2009

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Hi sweetie i feel lonely too. I recently lost my husband of 11 yrs. he passed away April 26, 09 due to heart rejection.Its been really hard for me and my 2 children 9 yr old son and 14yr. daughter. Im trying to stay strong for them and taking on both roles. My best advice sweetie is to keep busy. I am currently going to school 3xs a wk, working and trying to keep up with my kids. I still get lonely and i know its gonna take time for me to heal from all this but hey i have my children who keep me strong. Im all they have now so I need to keep it together whithin myself the best way possible. Remember it's ok to cry, feel overwhelmed and stressed but always remember your children need u and look up to you.Also it helps if u have family,friends or sum type of support system you can go to during these times. Good luck sweetie and take care.

Valarie - posted on 10/10/2009

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it's going to take a lot of time to help make u feel better sweetie i have had a lot of time to get over it and it still hurts and i still get lonely sometimes but it does ease up after a while :D

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Me and my ex broke up when my daughter was 3 months old, she is now 3 years. We had been together for 7 years and honestly the thing that kept my mind from thinking about how lonely and stressed out I was, was working and doing things with my daughter outside of the house. It took about a year to get over my ex and the absolute hardest thing was when he got a new girlfriend and I was still single. Just remember to stay busy with a social life (playdates or girls nights out) and keep focused on raising your kids. that is what helped me. It has been ok, but then about 2 months ago my boyfriend of almost a year dumped me for no reason (seriously he said he didn't know why and hung up!) when he had just told me the day before that he wanted to marry me. I also found out that same week that my ex (Jade's father) had gotten his slutty girlfriend pregnant and was marrying her. Then I got laid off!
Once again I went through the loneliest point in my life. I stay busy and try to find the positive. Being single and no job means I get to spend more time with my daughter and not worrying about what some one else wants to do that day or spending money he shouldn't be. I don't have to answer to anyone and I can take care of what I think is important.
One day you will find someone who treats like you should be treated!!!
(Sorry for rambling!)

Bonnie - posted on 10/08/2009

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Getting over your own feelings is a process. If you are newly single, give yourself some time to heal. In the present, staying focused on your day to day responsibilities will help. Just keep moving forward. As long as you are doing the best you can for your kids the rest will fall into place in time.

I know that all that may sound a little cliche, but in my experience it is nothing but truth. Good luck with everything.

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