First time single mom - confused and depressed

Contis - posted on 11/08/2011

You know, I am bipolar too and I can relate to alot of your feelings. I think in your heart you know what the right thing to do for you is, and I would say just don't fight your instincts, because they're always right.

Rosanna - posted on 11/07/2011

um the key words were actually recovering drug addict give him the choice its you and the baby or they life he lived make it very clear thats not what you want to have in your life yet alone an innocent child i beleave everyone comes into your life for a reason you just need to figure out why and some times wont be years till you do, it was your time to have a special pride of joy come to you embrace all the feelings you get with it if your worried about doing it alone have you got a support person like close friend mum or dad etc or even find someone you can relate to and connect with on here, i hope you find the peace and time to embrace this beautiful experience happening to your life

Tracey - posted on 10/31/2011

dear Sabrina, I totally agree with the other two letters but having been in a situation similar to yours ,I would like to point out that it can also be a very positive life changing experience too.i got pregnant at 40 and i was the same as you, always very careful.having my son hs changed my life completely to the point that we even moved abroad to start a new life.It paid off.
I am a much more confident, brave person for having had my son and i hope it will be the same for you.He was the best thing that ever happened to me.The other lady is correct if you are bipolar you must be very aware of postnatal depression.hopefully you have a good relationship with your doctor?Make sure you are being monitored.
Please try not to be scared, the body is a fantastic thing and get,s you prepared for the coming event.I wish you all the best of luck and if you need to chat I,m here.
PS I initially felt the same way as you do now.take care tracey xxxx

Andrea - posted on 09/05/2011

Stay strong and alsways remember that the people in this group are here to support you!

I have three kids from three dads that decided once I was pregnant that it wasn't what they wanted after all. I am 28, wroking on my degree and working part-time. Its not an easy task but once you get into a routine its not a difficult task. You sound like a very smart and strong woman. And just like a woman you can make it through this speed bumb in your path. There is an immense amount of parenting books and parenting classes(sometimes you really have to dig for the classes) I recommend reading and attending as many as possible. I attended as many classes as I can and my kids are 9,7, and 18months. There is always something new to learn and you never know who your going to meet. One day you are going to meet a wonderful man you will love you and your baby:)

JuLeah - posted on 08/29/2011

You are wise enough to know that if you partner with an addict you will be partnered with an addict.

You will not ever be able to count of him for financial, emotional, or physical support.

He will drain you in all ways. He will not co-parent. There is nothing you can say or do that will ‘fix’ him.

Put support in your life now. Get child care lined up, emotional support, medical support (symptoms of bi-polar and pregnancy hormones don’t always mix well)

ALL first time parents freak out a bit and I’d question your sanity if you didn’t freak out a bit too. You are responsible for another life and that is a big big deal.

Read parenting books, take classes. Learn about child development. Learn about nutritional needs and issues.

Figure out now what you will need to finish school after the baby is born.

Get into parent support groups ….

You can do this; we all figure it out regardless of the circumstances. Our kids come to us when they are meant to come to us. Ya just need to arm yourself with education.