Any pro spanking moms?

Molly - posted on 03/23/2010 ( 1315 moms have responded )

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Hello, I would like to chat with other like minded moms or dads who are pro spanking.

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Allison - posted on 03/24/2010

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I am also pro spanking...there is a BIG difference between beating a child and spanking a child. Mine (both girls 7 & 4) get spanked..I was spanked....I think the entire Generation X was spanked and I do believe that we are all normal, well-adjusted adults because of it. Many of today's parents are afraid to discipline their children for fear of being charged with Child Abuse....THERE IS A MAJOR DIFFERENCE!!! And America is going to Hell in a Handbasket because of it!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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I am pro-spanking, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." I am a single mom of 3 boys, and I spanked all of them. I wanted them to know I was boss, and not worry about them getting wild or physical with me when they got to be bigger than me.

Angela - posted on 03/27/2010

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I just have to reply to this thread.
I have twin 3 year olds, and I have been known to swat a bottom when necessary. And I work for Children and Youth Services, so I know what abuse really is- a good old fashioned over the knee spanking is acceptable. I recommend you all check your state Laws, as some states have actually outlawed corporal punishment. And I am glad to see that none of you will be raising the next spoiled brat who thinks they deserve the world handed to them!

Renee - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have to say I am pro spanking , if you get control of them when they are little then when they get older you don't have to worry about them running the streets and getting into trouble with the law.

Kara - posted on 03/23/2010

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Hello there...i am a mother of 3 and feel that today the kids are becoming out of control and we have lost control so pro spanking?? I say...YES!!!!! LOL nice to meet u..



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Sandra - posted 2 days ago

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Yes, I have let Deddie after I have spank her bare bottom just lay across my lap and cry.

Sandra - posted 2 days ago

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I began by thinking spanking was wrong and abused a child. This was a wrong appraoch to take. I did change my attitude toward spanking. Now days, I take out a chair and sit down. I take my daughter over my lap. Take down her little panties and swat a few times.

In my option, a spanking is utterly rendered useless unless those pants come down.

Caroline - posted on 09/19/2014

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Thank you, Morgan for responding and for your considerate advice. The next time I find it necessary to administer a spanking I will leave that child over my lap and as you put it, let him\her "cry it out". I think it may be better for me to sit on the bed when I spank. As is usual with me, I usually pull out a chair before putting the child into positionand as such their head and feet are dangling on either side of my lap. If I'm going to leave them there for a while perhaps the bed will provide some additional support for them - or is that defeating the purpose ?? - what do you think ??

By the way, I totally agree with you, that a spanking is no spanking at all unless that childs pants have been taken down.

Thank you again, you sound like a very confident and competent woman with excellent parenting skills. - Best Regards, Caroline.

Morgan - posted on 09/18/2014

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Yes, it does make me sad sometimes buy it is part of my job...sometimes I let them cry it out over my lap.

Caroline - posted on 09/17/2014

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Yes, I give my children spankings and usually in the traditional position. Still and regardless of how well deserved that punishment was, I always feel guilty and a bit sad that it had to come to that. This is particularly evident when I'm walking out of their room and can hear them still crying a bit and my first instinct is to go back and hold and comfort them again. Do any other Moms experience these feelings ???

Cara - posted on 09/13/2014

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Moms,

Look at the research. Research shows that physical punishment (spanking) contributes negative to the development of children.

Maybe you turned out fine because you were spanked, but you could have turned out better had you not been spanked.

Do you feel like spanking is the only thing that works? Do some research. There are other, more effective strategies that don't involve hitting. Doesn't that sound GREAT?!

If you want an excuse to hit your child....go ahead with all your reasons why spanking works. Just think about what kind of person you are that you have to argue reasons FOR hitting a child. That's just wrong.

Amanda - posted on 07/07/2014

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nope I use to spank but am not teaching my daughter its okay to hit when done something wrong.. I do time outs for minor offenses and longer time outs for major offenses... For minor offense its 6 mins cuz shes 6 yrs old and major offenses she'll be in the time out till I let her out

Sheila - posted on 07/02/2014

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My 16 year old daughter is taller than me but my 18 year old daughter is about 3 inches shorter.
Most of my 16 year olds spankings are for coming in after curfew time and she gets a spanking about 5 or 6 times a year.
My 18 year old does not have curfew times but she encouraged the younger daughter to go out till 90 minutes after curfew time so she really took a voluntary spanking.
Spankings up to now have been done over my knee.
From now on I think they will have to bend over for their punishments.
I was spanked until I was 18 and I had 2 spankings when I was 18.
I also had a bare bottom caning when I was 19 for smoking ( 8 strokes ) and I stopped immediately.
I have got a cane but I hope I don't have to use it.

Sheila - posted on 07/02/2014

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I have 2 daughters one is 16 and 1 is 18.
My younger daughter is subject to curfew times and the other is not.
Last Friday my 2 daughters went out together and we went out and expected to stay in a hotel for the night.
I felt unwell in the middle of the evening and we went home.
Expecting us to be out both of my daughters arrived home 90 minutes after my younger daughters curfew time.
Next morning my younger daughter came down stairs in her night dress knowing she would get a spanking.
About a minute later my older daughter came down in her night dress.
I put her over my knee and took her knickers down and smacked her bottom 32 times ( double her age ).
I knew my older daughter had not broken any rule but she said she had encouraged her sister so it was fair she should be punished,
I put her over my knee and gave her 36 smacks on her bare bottom.
My hand was a bit sore at the end but I am happy in a way that my older daughter took her punishment.

Natalie - posted on 06/29/2014

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My parents never used any form of violence in my upbringing, or actually punishments of any sort at all. I grew up with very good understanding and respect for authority, never been in trouble with the law or anything like that, was actually a straight A+ student all through my master's degree. Never had a situation with my own daughter (now 6) where I felt like I needed violence to manage her behaviour. Would never accept if another adult person tried to hit me, so the only situation I can raise my hand at someone is self-defence.

Foxtrotter - posted on 04/24/2014

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Definitely NO! I imagine I'd feel angry, scared, and powerless if someone older and bigger than me abused me physically. I have always used other forms of discipline, but not corporal punishment. I'm not saying that what works for my family should work for everyone. I just don't believe in physical punishment.

Kate - posted on 04/23/2014

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I am very new here, mother of 3 girls (7, 6 and 4) and all are spanked when warranted. I give one very fair warning and if the child does not change their attitude, do what is asked of them or so forth they are spanked on their bottom. Seems to be more often with my 7 year old lately - her mouth gets her in trouble - but her sisters are not far behind. I feel if I am strict with them now, while they are testing every limit, by the time they are older they will KNOW what is expected - demanded - of them and will obey the rules and become great members of the community. I would love the support of like minded parents!

Elodie - posted on 03/28/2014

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hello , I am a newby , I am a pro-spanking mom , please contact me to chat. I am Elodie 29 yo , daughter Stephanie 11 , and son Gaétan almost 10 , both are spanked on the bare bottom , but only for real bad bad behaviour , it happens maybe once or twice a year

Christine - posted on 03/20/2014

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Hello,my husband and myself are pro spanking.not for every infraction.When we feel its called for bare bottom over the knee they go .

Brittany - posted on 02/05/2014

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My 8 year old is accustom to me - mom - using bare bottom spanking from an early age.

Brittany - posted on 02/05/2014

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Spanking is my last resort. I have found spanking puts an end to the situation.

Tsuzukisan - posted on 01/26/2014

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Spanking is a last resort in my household. Maybe that's to a fault though since I am an extremely patient person, but definitely not soft spoken. My son definitely tries to push my limits sometimes and it takes a lot to push me too far and when he does, oh boy! He knows he did something deeply wrong. I don't like to spank, but when push comes to shove...

Shawna - posted on 01/25/2014

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I am a pro spanking mom. I have 4 girls. My youngest is 4 months so of course she is not at discipline age. I taught all my other girls discipline when they were able to understand. I didn't spank right off the bat but did time out when they were under age 3. I think spanking is a progressive discipline in a way. You don't spank a year old baby. They have to understand wrong from right and it is different for each child. My 10 year old didn't need many spankings and I don't remember the last one she got. My 9 year old on the other hand was harder to get through to. Nothing but a spanking worked for her. Every child is different. My 3rd child is now almost 7 and talking to her works best but she does get a spanking from time to time and she accepts it. She goes to her room and I talk to her and give her a spanking. I don't think yelling does anything. They know what spankings are for and one day they will probably discipline the same. Parents deserve respect and they won't learn it anywhere else. They see kids throwing fits in the store and they don't even think about it lol. Spare the rod and you will spoil the child. Parents in my opinion try to hard to be "friends" with their kids and make them their equal. A student isn't equal to their teacher.

Sarah - posted on 01/16/2014

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the problem is that everyone is so concerned about them being little adults, that they don't realize that they are children and a child's job is to learn as much as they can. And that it is our job as parents to teach them right from wrong and that there are consequence to every action . there is nothing wrong with spanking your child as long as they deserve it. the Bible say if you spare the rod you hate your child, a child with out discipline can not grow into a health adult, they do not know how to handle conflict and or understand bounders. with out this consequence you a bunch of parents who want to be there child's friend.. and that blurs the line of respect between parents. so with out this respect childern lose respect for all adult figures.

Tory - posted on 12/10/2013

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Yes, I am pro-spanking, though not as a first resort. I have four girls (though one is still an infant, so she's certainly never been spanked).

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2013

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I am very PRO spanking and so is my husband. We are not into full on beatings lol, but I truly believe "Spare the rod Spoil the child". They work our daughter is 5, she has had a few good spankings in her life, and due to that she hardly gets into trouble. She knows when we mean business lol. Our son on the other hand is a little more hard headed and will push his limit, but once he receives that butt whoopin he is an angle for at least a week or 2. I hate that now days we are supposed to let our kids run all over us, I'm sorry but these soft spoken "please stop" parents are killing our society. Empty threats don't work..... But I guarantee a few good butt whoopin's will =).

Nyree - posted on 08/17/2013

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I am a pro spanker... That time out crap don't work, I do believe in giving a child a warning so they will know the consequences of their actions..

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I think spanking should be a last resort. When I was a child I got my fair share of them (and probably should of got some more) but, I turned out just fine. Sometimes timeouts and a stern talking to doesn't work. I usually let my daughter get away with murder and when it comes down to the punishment I fold and let her daddy do the spanking. I believe spanking is a personal preference and should not be judged as harshly if the punishment is effective as long as it does not cross into the abuse territory.

Albaneze - posted on 07/21/2013

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Yes we are here!!! I only have a little 6 year old girl and she's almost my height! (She's 50.5in and I'm only 64.in).
I had to get her early with the spanking, I can't have her thinking that she disrespect me and hit on me like I'm on of the kids at school! If you love your kids they must be corrected otherwise they'll think that it's okay to do whatever cause for some kids time out is not enough! Especially when the act up when your not around and all their doing is showing whomever is taking care of the lm that they don't have any respect for authority and intern no respect for you! The represents you wherever they may be gotta teach them how to act. Cause if they act up with the wrong one that person might give them that ass whooping that was needed a long time ago!

Kalyn - posted on 07/16/2013

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I have 4 kids, when they were little my younger ones my twins. I had a problem with hitting every one and bitting. Since they were little talking and time outs were pointless. So spanking worked. Not a lot just a couple whacks on the butt. It showed If you hit people then they'll hit you backed. I got spanked as a kid and I'm well rounded. I didn't think it was abusive. When I got older I had lectures. My teen kids get lecture know instead of spankings. I hope I don't sound evil. But spanking is best discipline for Pre-school aged (3-7). Because they won't listen to talks them after being in trouble and time out let them plan what to do next to make you mad. I see a positive benefit to spanking if it's done right

Jennifer - posted on 07/14/2013

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This really is a great thing to see. yes i spank all 4 of my kids

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I'm as pro-spanking as anyone (or almost anyone), Lucy, but I seriously hope you're exaggerating when you talk of your kids not being able to sit comfortably for a couple of days. Frankly, if it's true, that's indefensible.

You say the paddlings and strappings have worked exceptionally well and that your kids both know what to expect when they break any of your rules. With all due respect, are your children slow learners or what? Why on earth do they continue to invite such discomfort for their bottoms?

I've read scads of online accounts like yours where spanking is supposed to be working like a charm. The only thing is, the kids are regularly being spanked. And if it's on the bare bottom with a paddle or a strap, your two figure to need some extra tutoring on the subject of Actions & Consequences.

Mysti - posted on 07/03/2013

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I think it has to do with the motivation behind the discipline. No matter what form of discipline you use (spanking, time-outs, loss of privileges, extra chores, etc), kids ALWAYS know when you have control...and when you don't. Any form of discipline you use when you are not in control of yourself is not going to be effective.

I was certainly spanked as a child. I certainly didn't like it at the time. But I never even once thought my dad (or mom) was hitting me out of anger, or because they didn't know what else to do. For me, the punishment (no matter what it was) always fit the crime, and was directly related to MY actions (or inactions). I think the mistake people make is when they lash out with discipline - ANY discipline - in either anger or desperation. Kids NEED to know their parents are in control. When that isn't clear, no amount of discipline in any form will be effective.

My daughter is 15 now. And now, she would FAR rather be spanked than hear a lecture from mom. :) But 10 years ago, talking rarely did any good. Over the years, different forms of discipline have yielded good results in various situations, and the effectiveness of the various forms has changed over time. And no two children are alike. I have friends with kids who are reduced to sobbing heaps just by a stern look...my kid was/is the kid who would give the look right back. It's all about first, being in control of yourself as parents, and second, knowing the individual needs of your child.

TIA - posted on 06/12/2013

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IT IS A CULTURAL THING. I REALLY STRUGGLE WITH IT BECAUSE I AM PART OF A GENERATION THAT WAS RAISED BEING SPANKED. HOWEVER, WE LIVE IN FEAR OF HUMAN SERVICES AND CHILD PROTECTION AGENCIES RIPPING OUR KIDS AWAY AND GIVING THEM TO STRANGERS. MY GENERATION IS THE FIRST IN MY CULTURE TO TRY THE NO SPANKING APPROACH SO UNIVERSALLY. WE HAVE NO EXPERIENCE WITH THE NO SPANKING METHOD AND MANY OF US HAVE WILD OUT OF CONTROL KIDS AND WE A RE STILL TO BLAME. WTF ARE WE SUPPOSED TO DO? SORRY BUT I HAD TO VENT.

Nicola - posted on 06/08/2013

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Karlita I don't think you have given enough details to make a judgement about you being an unfit mother. It seems like you need to try some different techniques though. Parenting is ugly. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. You can apologize as you go...hehe Try to exercise the child regulatory to the point of exhaustion.. make sure she has a somewhat fun daily routine and find ways to give her rewards for doing things right.. Seems like she will need lots of short term positive feedback and many different consequences for negative behavior. Don't keep dolling out the same punishment if it doesn't work. Find ways to be successful and keep putting all of your energy into making this a success.. You will get it..

Nicola - posted on 06/08/2013

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Spanking is one tool out of a million, that if used correctly CAN be beneficial. I don't get all of the hype? Have a nice day..

Cassaundra - posted on 05/25/2013

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I wish I had been that type of parent. I did the time out, talked about my feelings and their feeling, I give positive reinforcements and take things away when my son behaves badly. No matter what I do he still seems to misbehave in some environments. Especially, when a parent is not around.

Karolyn - posted on 05/22/2013

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Oh my, this thread is like a brearh of fresh air. I was in another and I have been "discussing" how some little 9 year old who hits his dads gf and is passing the behavior on to his 2 year old brother should get whooped.

Karlita - posted on 05/04/2013

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Hello. I just have a big question! What do you do when a 4 year old doesn' t listen to you no matter what! We tried time outs, spanks, send her to her room etc. we have a 10 year old and a 1 year old. We don't know if is jealousy or what! We take her to the store, she play with every single objec t that she can find, we ask her to stop and she laughs she is always fighting with her oldest sister. Today I had it because I asked her several times to listen to me and she dind't I put her to bed and she just had horrible tantrums, I had to spank her like 10 times on her legs and butt! She was still acting horrible and I kept spanking her. Now she went to bed crying I feel horrible and I'm crying none stop since she went to bed :(. Please be honest, am I a horrible mom? After she get in troble she stop crying and always said "I'm ready" so I talk to her, next thing I know she is doing the same thing. Her oldest sister is a sweet heart, but we can tell she lost it with her!my husband doesn't know how to deal with her anymore. Please help me!!! Any ideas

Lucy - posted on 03/23/2013

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I have 2 children - 13 yr. orld son and 16 yr. old daughter. Both are very well acquainted with the paddle and strap. I know in this day and age it's not the "right" way to handle children's disobedience but it has worked exceptionally well in our family. Disciplining them in this way only happens a couple of times a years, but, believe me it leaves a lasting impression, in more ways than one. My kids are well-adjusted, earn good grades, have many friends. They both know that when they break any of the rules of our household they can expect to be taken up to their room, put over their dad's knee and paddled or strapped until their bottoms are so sore that they can't sit comfortably for a few days. Believe me, we are not ogres, tyrants or child abusers. Just parents who expect our children to behave appropriately with respect.

Theresa - posted on 06/09/2010

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I am a pro spanking mom however I have limits and rules that help the situation stay under control. I give my children a warning the 123 but I never back down, I am consistent, if I get to three they get a spanking; most of the time by the time I get to 2 they have complied. I have a three lick rule that I don’t break regardless of the offense and it helps me keep a line drawn so I know I am disciplining not abusing my children. I have to admit I struggled with this in the beginning with my first child. When he was three he had hit his little sister in the head with a toy and I popped his butt and told him not to hit her. He looked at me and said, "Mommy you are not supposed to hit people." So I cringed...Was I reinforcing the behavior by spanking him? But as time went on I realized that there are times when spanking is needed to show I mean business. I am now a single mother of four and am proud to say my kids are well behaved. I use spanking when it is needed but I am not reluctant when it is.

Gina - posted on 06/09/2010

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YES. YES. YES. YES. YES. I am a pro spanking mom. I was spanked and I'm still alive, smart, happy and healthy. me and my kids' fathers have very bad tempers and are very stubborn and it really comes out in the kids to. and as a single mom of 3 who also babysits 4 other kids and all of them range from 1 to 6 years of age I need them to know that I am boss. I only spank my own but it shows the other that I do mean business and not to mess with me. As long as the line between discipline and abuse isn't crossed spank away.

Nareeda - posted on 06/07/2010

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i am a pro spanking mom, i am a single 23 yr old with 3 kids (2 boys nearly 6&7 1 girl 3) and i think if i didn't spank my child when they deserved it then my house would be a horrible place to live. the other day i was at the shops and my daughter threw a temper tantrum and through herself on the floor, i gave her to the count of 3 to get up and hold my hand or i was going to smack her bottom, i ended up having to smack her and i was abused by a lady telling me i was a horrible mother, yet on the other hand praised by an elderly lady saying it was good to see young mothers disciplining their children.. so i say "YES"

Jen - posted on 06/05/2010

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I am a pro spanking mom as well. I'm a single mother of two. I've got a 2 year old daughter who gets spanked when she needs to be. She knows when she does wrong so she needs a form of punishment that will show her that she's not in control and it will also keep her out of harms way. My other daughter is only 5 monthes so she has a while before she gets that sort of punishment. I'm glad that I'm not the only one out there that is a pro spanking mom. lol

Rotacha - posted on 05/20/2010

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Definetly a pro spanking mom!! It's biblical!! The bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child", now that doesn't mean beat your child til their near death (lol). My daughter is 10 now, but when she was a toddler I definetly popped her hands, or legs when she got out of control or disobeyed. Again I have to reference the bible, "Train up a child in the way he shall go, and when he is. old he shall not depart from it." With that said, I have spanked her in years. Now, all I have to do is raise my voice or use a certain tone and she gets right in line.

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I'm definitely a pro spanking mom. My girls got it more than a few times when they were young, first with my hand and as they got older and still acted up the belt was used to teach them a lesson. Sure helped! they are happy and healthy young ladies now.

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Hello!! Thank GOD you all are pro spanking moms as well. Kids today have no respect for authority and they are getting away with way too much. I have heard too many arguments that it hurts their self esteem but I don't agree. I was spanked (a lot) and my self esteem is fine. I spank my son when needed but I am honestly afraid to do so because people get too nosy and all it takes is one phone call. My son knows at home anything goes but out in public I am more reserved.

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