Any pro spanking moms?
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Allison - posted on 03/24/2010
I am also pro spanking...there is a BIG difference between beating a child and spanking a child. Mine (both girls 7 & 4) get spanked..I was spanked....I think the entire Generation X was spanked and I do believe that we are all normal, well-adjusted adults because of it. Many of today's parents are afraid to discipline their children for fear of being charged with Child Abuse....THERE IS A MAJOR DIFFERENCE!!! And America is going to Hell in a Handbasket because of it!!
Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010
I am pro-spanking, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." I am a single mom of 3 boys, and I spanked all of them. I wanted them to know I was boss, and not worry about them getting wild or physical with me when they got to be bigger than me.
Angela - posted on 03/27/2010
I just have to reply to this thread.
I have twin 3 year olds, and I have been known to swat a bottom when necessary. And I work for Children and Youth Services, so I know what abuse really is- a good old fashioned over the knee spanking is acceptable. I recommend you all check your state Laws, as some states have actually outlawed corporal punishment. And I am glad to see that none of you will be raising the next spoiled brat who thinks they deserve the world handed to them!
Brooklyn - posted on 03/18/2015
To Caroline, yes I feel the same way, I want to run back in their room and comfort them after a spanking. However now that they are 11, 13, & 15, my husband usually gives them their paddlings.Somehow seeing them grow in age has made me a softiee when it comes to delivering a good spanking even when I know how much one of them may need it. In my own defense, just know my 3 girls are very dramatic prior, during & after a spanking. I was once the same and now I see what I put my own mother through. However once I began going soft my husband and I agreed to begin the old "wait in your room until dad gets home"...this is like sentencing MYSELF TO THEIR SPANKINGS! Lol! I laugh, but it is so true. Listening to my babies wail, cry & plea for my sympathy to "not tell dad" is horrific. All I want to do is to hold them and promise I won't. But it is knowing my likelihood of making such a bad move that forces me to automatically text or call my husband and let him know he has a daughter to discipline when he gets home. This locks me into their fate with the paddle and keeps me from messing up whatever lesson one of my girls needs to learn.
Ps, I do still spank as well, for my 11 year old I still don't have too much of an issue with pulling her panties down for the paddle, but my two older girls for the most part I find myself just giving the occasional 3 to 4 swats to a still fully clothed fanny for disrespect or back talk, given on the spot and used more as an embarrassment tactic & as a reminder of what's to come if they keep it up.
Sandra - posted on 11/26/2014
I began by thinking spanking was wrong and abused a child. This was a wrong appraoch to take. I did change my attitude toward spanking. Now days, I take out a chair and sit down. I take my daughter over my lap. Take down her little panties and swat a few times.
In my option, a spanking is utterly rendered useless unless those pants come down.
Caroline - posted on 09/19/2014
Thank you, Morgan for responding and for your considerate advice. The next time I find it necessary to administer a spanking I will leave that child over my lap and as you put it, let him\her "cry it out". I think it may be better for me to sit on the bed when I spank. As is usual with me, I usually pull out a chair before putting the child into positionand as such their head and feet are dangling on either side of my lap. If I'm going to leave them there for a while perhaps the bed will provide some additional support for them - or is that defeating the purpose ?? - what do you think ??
By the way, I totally agree with you, that a spanking is no spanking at all unless that childs pants have been taken down.
Thank you again, you sound like a very confident and competent woman with excellent parenting skills. - Best Regards, Caroline.
Caroline - posted on 09/17/2014
Yes, I give my children spankings and usually in the traditional position. Still and regardless of how well deserved that punishment was, I always feel guilty and a bit sad that it had to come to that. This is particularly evident when I'm walking out of their room and can hear them still crying a bit and my first instinct is to go back and hold and comfort them again. Do any other Moms experience these feelings ???
Cara - posted on 09/13/2014
Look at the research. Research shows that physical punishment (spanking) contributes negative to the development of children.
Maybe you turned out fine because you were spanked, but you could have turned out better had you not been spanked.
Do you feel like spanking is the only thing that works? Do some research. There are other, more effective strategies that don't involve hitting. Doesn't that sound GREAT?!
If you want an excuse to hit your child....go ahead with all your reasons why spanking works. Just think about what kind of person you are that you have to argue reasons FOR hitting a child. That's just wrong.
Amanda - posted on 07/07/2014
nope I use to spank but am not teaching my daughter its okay to hit when done something wrong.. I do time outs for minor offenses and longer time outs for major offenses... For minor offense its 6 mins cuz shes 6 yrs old and major offenses she'll be in the time out till I let her out
Sheila - posted on 07/02/2014
My 16 year old daughter is taller than me but my 18 year old daughter is about 3 inches shorter.
Most of my 16 year olds spankings are for coming in after curfew time and she gets a spanking about 5 or 6 times a year.
My 18 year old does not have curfew times but she encouraged the younger daughter to go out till 90 minutes after curfew time so she really took a voluntary spanking.
Spankings up to now have been done over my knee.
From now on I think they will have to bend over for their punishments.
I was spanked until I was 18 and I had 2 spankings when I was 18.
I also had a bare bottom caning when I was 19 for smoking ( 8 strokes ) and I stopped immediately.
I have got a cane but I hope I don't have to use it.
Sheila - posted on 07/02/2014
I have 2 daughters one is 16 and 1 is 18.
My younger daughter is subject to curfew times and the other is not.
Last Friday my 2 daughters went out together and we went out and expected to stay in a hotel for the night.
I felt unwell in the middle of the evening and we went home.
Expecting us to be out both of my daughters arrived home 90 minutes after my younger daughters curfew time.
Next morning my younger daughter came down stairs in her night dress knowing she would get a spanking.
About a minute later my older daughter came down in her night dress.
I put her over my knee and took her knickers down and smacked her bottom 32 times ( double her age ).
I knew my older daughter had not broken any rule but she said she had encouraged her sister so it was fair she should be punished,
I put her over my knee and gave her 36 smacks on her bare bottom.
My hand was a bit sore at the end but I am happy in a way that my older daughter took her punishment.
Natalie - posted on 06/29/2014
My parents never used any form of violence in my upbringing, or actually punishments of any sort at all. I grew up with very good understanding and respect for authority, never been in trouble with the law or anything like that, was actually a straight A+ student all through my master's degree. Never had a situation with my own daughter (now 6) where I felt like I needed violence to manage her behaviour. Would never accept if another adult person tried to hit me, so the only situation I can raise my hand at someone is self-defence.
Foxtrotter - posted on 04/24/2014
Definitely NO! I imagine I'd feel angry, scared, and powerless if someone older and bigger than me abused me physically. I have always used other forms of discipline, but not corporal punishment. I'm not saying that what works for my family should work for everyone. I just don't believe in physical punishment.
Kate - posted on 04/23/2014
I am very new here, mother of 3 girls (7, 6 and 4) and all are spanked when warranted. I give one very fair warning and if the child does not change their attitude, do what is asked of them or so forth they are spanked on their bottom. Seems to be more often with my 7 year old lately - her mouth gets her in trouble - but her sisters are not far behind. I feel if I am strict with them now, while they are testing every limit, by the time they are older they will KNOW what is expected - demanded - of them and will obey the rules and become great members of the community. I would love the support of like minded parents!
Elodie - posted on 03/28/2014
hello , I am a newby , I am a pro-spanking mom , please contact me to chat. I am Elodie 29 yo , daughter Stephanie 11 , and son Gaétan almost 10 , both are spanked on the bare bottom , but only for real bad bad behaviour , it happens maybe once or twice a year
Theresa - posted on 06/09/2010
I am a pro spanking mom however I have limits and rules that help the situation stay under control. I give my children a warning the 123 but I never back down, I am consistent, if I get to three they get a spanking; most of the time by the time I get to 2 they have complied. I have a three lick rule that I don’t break regardless of the offense and it helps me keep a line drawn so I know I am disciplining not abusing my children. I have to admit I struggled with this in the beginning with my first child. When he was three he had hit his little sister in the head with a toy and I popped his butt and told him not to hit her. He looked at me and said, "Mommy you are not supposed to hit people." So I cringed...Was I reinforcing the behavior by spanking him? But as time went on I realized that there are times when spanking is needed to show I mean business. I am now a single mother of four and am proud to say my kids are well behaved. I use spanking when it is needed but I am not reluctant when it is.
Gina - posted on 06/09/2010
YES. YES. YES. YES. YES. I am a pro spanking mom. I was spanked and I'm still alive, smart, happy and healthy. me and my kids' fathers have very bad tempers and are very stubborn and it really comes out in the kids to. and as a single mom of 3 who also babysits 4 other kids and all of them range from 1 to 6 years of age I need them to know that I am boss. I only spank my own but it shows the other that I do mean business and not to mess with me. As long as the line between discipline and abuse isn't crossed spank away.
Nareeda - posted on 06/07/2010
i am a pro spanking mom, i am a single 23 yr old with 3 kids (2 boys nearly 6&7 1 girl 3) and i think if i didn't spank my child when they deserved it then my house would be a horrible place to live. the other day i was at the shops and my daughter threw a temper tantrum and through herself on the floor, i gave her to the count of 3 to get up and hold my hand or i was going to smack her bottom, i ended up having to smack her and i was abused by a lady telling me i was a horrible mother, yet on the other hand praised by an elderly lady saying it was good to see young mothers disciplining their children.. so i say "YES"
Jen - posted on 06/05/2010
I am a pro spanking mom as well. I'm a single mother of two. I've got a 2 year old daughter who gets spanked when she needs to be. She knows when she does wrong so she needs a form of punishment that will show her that she's not in control and it will also keep her out of harms way. My other daughter is only 5 monthes so she has a while before she gets that sort of punishment. I'm glad that I'm not the only one out there that is a pro spanking mom. lol
Rotacha - posted on 05/20/2010
Definetly a pro spanking mom!! It's biblical!! The bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child", now that doesn't mean beat your child til their near death (lol). My daughter is 10 now, but when she was a toddler I definetly popped her hands, or legs when she got out of control or disobeyed. Again I have to reference the bible, "Train up a child in the way he shall go, and when he is. old he shall not depart from it." With that said, I have spanked her in years. Now, all I have to do is raise my voice or use a certain tone and she gets right in line.
I'm definitely a pro spanking mom. My girls got it more than a few times when they were young, first with my hand and as they got older and still acted up the belt was used to teach them a lesson. Sure helped! they are happy and healthy young ladies now.
Hello!! Thank GOD you all are pro spanking moms as well. Kids today have no respect for authority and they are getting away with way too much. I have heard too many arguments that it hurts their self esteem but I don't agree. I was spanked (a lot) and my self esteem is fine. I spank my son when needed but I am honestly afraid to do so because people get too nosy and all it takes is one phone call. My son knows at home anything goes but out in public I am more reserved.
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