Any pro spanking moms?

Cheryl - posted on 11/04/2012

Loved your post Linda, just goes to show that you can have a bunch of kids and they can all be different. What works for one won't work for 10! lol

Sara - posted on 11/04/2012

hey im Sara im 22 with a 4 year old i spanked or slapped his hand up until he was old enough to understand that a time out was a punishment not a "distraction" and he's awesome lol

Linda - posted on 11/04/2012

Im pro spanking, but I think you have to do what works best for the child. My first son would get three warnings then a pop and that did the trick. He is well behave. I could go out in public with him and people would tell me how well behaved he was and that they didn't even know there was a kid in the building. It doesn't seem to work with my two youngest. They are terrors. You always know when they are in the building. But I love me some them :)

Cheryl - posted on 11/04/2012

Hi Molly, yup, I'm pro. But the instances are very few and far between. If you're spanking weekly, it's you, not him/her. Check out some of my articles on discipline at: urbanmommys.com. Then look at the comments and see how other moms deal. You can probably find a happy medium. Good luck, the fact that you are on the web looking to chat and find out how more experienced parents do it puts you in the top 10% of good parents. :-)

Robbyn Peters - posted on 11/04/2012

Kristal,

1. You only have a right to raise your children as you see fit within the boundaries of respecting their basic human rights. Their human rights supercede all other rights. I am arguing (as does the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child) that one of the basic human rights that children have is to be free from all forms of violence, spanking included.

2. I am quoting hundreds and hundreds of studies that constitute scientific validity not "a few stupid studies."

3. I did not say anybody was a horrible parent. I am criticizing the practice of spanking, not the general parenting abilities of most of the nation.

4. Arguing that because spanking has been used a long time, and therefore has merit is erroneous. It is a key contributor to violence in our nation.

5. Many children can and do grow up to be wonderful human beings, even when spanked. Again, this does not mean that spanking contributed to their well being any more than second hand smoke does.

6. Fighting all forms of physical violence, including spanking, contributes to preventing child abuse. That is the whole point.

Kimberlee - posted on 11/03/2012

Spanking seems lazy and dangerous . I wouldnt do it. I realize that not every parent who spanks is abusive but I also believe there are much better ways to teach a child right from wrong.



FYI- Since 1979 when the Swedes started the movement, 24 nations have joined them with laws banning corporal punishment of children.

Kattis - posted on 11/03/2012

Very much pro spanking. Spanking works and have never seen anything work as good as physical punishment.



I have two very well behaved girls. So why do I keep spanking if they are well behaved? Because they forget them self sometimes, and also as a reminder of what's to come, only much more, if they step out of line...

Kristal - posted on 11/02/2012

Robbyn, I think its funny you are asking what it is the pro-spanking parents are defending..It is our right to raise our children how we feel fit. When we have happy, healthy children..HOw dare you or any mother look at a couple stupid studies and say that these mothers are horrible parents.. I too looked at your website and you probaly rember me from another thread on this website.. I believe spanking has been used for a very long time and look how far this country has come.

The majority of these mothers on here have great children.>Have you physically been in their homes?? Meet their children sat and had conversations with their families?? NO YOU HAVE NOT!!!!! So u can sit here all day and say all these things you have read on studies about this but until you physicall see these mothers homes then in my mind you have no room to talk.. IM sorry but this is rideculius. Right now their are children out their getting abused, real horrible abuse , not a swat on the back side. THat is what all parents should be fighting..

Gail - posted on 11/02/2012

I agree with Kara, kids are out of control today, even the young ones, they threaten their parents, back talk, hit, curse at them. They should have been swatted when they were younger might have changed their ways, it definitely changed mine. I was spanked when I was a child and it makes you think twice of doing the wrong thing twice. I don't mean to beat the child but a good swat now and then with groundings, taking away things like computer, handheld games, gaming systems and tv. Sooner or later they will get the message. I have raised three boys and they are respectful of their elders.

Claire - posted on 11/01/2012

Kimberlee,



In no way did I take it personally. Merely stating my opinion on a pro spanking thread.



In saying that 99% do treat our children with compassion, etc, I also acknowledged that some who say 'I smack' on this thread sound borderline abusive to me. Surely this is clear statement and not in any way inconclusive to a reader. It's an observation.



Defining a 'feral' acting child: A child that does not respect others or observe niceties that one would commonly accord a human of their age. To me, a child that would repeatedly defy an adult's request for courtesy simply because they can. There are other observations that I don't have time to write.



'I find it hard to believe that someone with an education would subscribe to such barbaric parenting'.. To me, that sounded scornful.



Robbyn,



The psych warfare comment was simply explaining the feeling I had when assessing, dealing and defragging my daughter's behaviour. (Eventually changed with para CBT techniques, as mentioned).

Anna is not allowed to view these pages as some comments were abusive, both from non and 'pro' posts.

Anna has also acknowledged her 'psych warfare' behaviour was way out of context; inappropriate considering the conversations from which that behaviour stemmed and disrespectful to us both.



Unsure of whom you direct the comment about permissive parenting to, but I don't see it as a matter of relinquishing control or keeling like a failure. If I smack, it is intended to be the final say on a particular behaviour. This is explained to my child before and after.Using control alone does not a parenting skill make.

I don't/ would not feel emasculated about not smacking. I go long periods without smacking because it is not the only technique used in my form of parenting.



If you use a technique repeatedly, a child will become inured to that. Pavlov was showing the way! I know that last sentence will invite comment but I don't have time to expand that thought.

Jen - posted on 10/31/2012

I like your style Julie...xo Keep up the good work.

Julie - posted on 10/31/2012

I raised my 5 kids spanking them

and would do it all over DIFFERENTLY!

Children are children - not soldiers OR robots!

I wish I'd had more grace ... and understanding ... and patience -

ONLY if they are rebellious would I spank them but ONLY if I KNOW they are old enough to know the difference and not Tired - Hungry or SICK.

♥ love them ... kids want to pleass their parents...

Spend as much one-on-one time with them ... it really does make a dif.!!!

Robbyn Peters - posted on 10/31/2012

A loving swat. Do you want me to swat you with love? Don't you see confusion here? You are mixing violence with love. You are treating your child differently than you want to be treated. The argument is, it is just a little violence and it is mitigated with love. This is a very destructive idea.



To believe that giving up spanking is to be permissive, is missing the point. You can set boundaries without disrespecting your child by hitting them. Minimizing what you are doing (hitting) by calling it other words such as smack, pop, or spank is a serious problem.



Answer this question, please. Do you believe that you cannot raise healthy, respectful, empathic children without spanking them? Why are you unwilling to give up spanking? What are you really defending here? I believe you are defending yourself as a mother, and not a discipline practice that has merit. There is no study to show that spanking has positive long-term effects. Only studies to the contrary. There are immediate rewards with spanking, you get the child's attention and you relieve your own stress. That is about it.



To give up spanking requires mothers to accept that it is potentially destructive. It also requires mothers to accept that what they are doing has been unhelpful. It takes humility.

Jen - posted on 10/30/2012

Ladies, you say tomato, I say tomato....Look at the evidence in society. A lot of children,teens, twenty somethings, have been taught that happiness is all that matters. Great if one could be "happy" all the time. But as we all know, happiness is an emotion , not a state of being, and emotions are a risky thing to base you life around. That said, children do need to be happy, but there are going to be disappointments and consequences in life. The society of today tells you to give in to EVERY indulgence and desire that you have..."JUST BE HAPPY". That's crap! How about be a good citizen. Love others more than yourself and treat all people with respect. And if a little swat on the bum is deserved do it lovingly.

Kimberlee - posted on 10/30/2012

Nothing I said about hitting children was directed at any one person , if you took it as a personal attack then that's on you.



I believe hitting a child is barbaric and I won't apologize for it. I wouldn't expect you to apologize for your beliefs. Besides , the literature supports my position.



I have to say that I find it strange that you , Claire , write that you believe " 99% of us on this thread DO treat our children with compassion and empathize with our children. " and yet go on to state "Sure, some who have posted do sound a bit unhinged; borderline abusive,.." ...So which is it?



On top of it you're telling me that you don't judge non smacking parents BUT most of those children are feral. I find you contradictory and am having a difficult time taking any of your comment to seriously . All the justifications and explanations about your smacking and defragging your children aside , I disagree with you and I think it's very sad that as evolved as humans are , so many still continue to stoop to such a barbaric act as to smack ones own child.



Your novella aside , I stick to my initial assessment of corporal punishment ,..barbaric.



ps- - " as you so scornfully mentioned, Kimberlee, I didn't start smacking until she was four. .." ---- I didn't mention any such thing

Robbyn Peters - posted on 10/30/2012

Do you really want to relate to your children with "psych warfare?" That may injure her feelings of safety and security with you. It is a golden rule concept. Do you want me to use psych warfare with you? Of course not. So don't do it with your children. There are better ways. I mean that with the utmost respect, because I have no doubt when I read your blogs that you are a very engaged, dedicated, loving mom. If you can't come up with alternatives to psych warfare and spanking, ask your mommy friends for help. We are all in this together!

Robbyn Peters - posted on 10/30/2012

It seems true that some children are more aggressive inherently. Children are unique, to be sure. I wouldn't risk exacerbating that tendency by modeling aggression. Children are primarily right brained when they are preschoolers, so they learn from gestures and actions, much more than words. If you hit, it doesn't matter how you couch it, they learn to solve problems by hitting. They may not hit you, because you are bigger. But the research shows that children are more aggressive if they are spanked, and the more they are spanked the more aggressive. It isn't a good idea to parse out exceptions, like my child is different. Your child is at risk as well, and you don't know the effects you are creating, because many of these show up much later. Too risky.



Going overboard with spanking is not in the minority. Half of all preschoolers are "spanked" more than 3 times a week. That makes me cringe. That is an average. That means, some spank less and quite a few spank even more. Spanking is not worth defending. It is barbaric, and for many, many parents chronic. That doesn't mean you are a barbaric person. Spanking is a barbaric practice, however. We need to learn to stop doing it. Most of us do it. So it isn't like you are alone here. It is a societal norm, and it needs to be a thing of the past.



And please don't defend your right to hit your child, simply because other people (many, many other people) abuse the right. Spanking is an epidemic. We need to give it up for our children, and for the greater society and all children.

Claire - posted on 10/30/2012

Robbyn, Kimberlee,



First of all, Robbyn, I must apologise for being short with you in previous posts as i was a bit emo at the time. I believe in open discussion about smacking and I like to explain my position in it.



Kimberlee, I see judgement of our parenting as 'barbaric'. I do not judge non smacking parents for their decision not to smack and believe non smacking adults ought to accord us with that same respect. (Even though some non smack children I know are simply feral. I only know of three girls that are not smacked and well behaved. Out of about the 100 in our local community, that's pretty dismal, though).



I believe you have both mistakenly made generalisations in your posts.



99% of us on this thread DO treat our children with compassion and empathise with our children. I personally go to great lengths to decipher their needs, ensure they are looked after and find passive solutions before even thinking about a tap on their toosh.

I follow a rubric of assessment (around page 20 of this thread. Excuse the capitals- the children hid my glasses around that time :)) to determine whether a smack will be effective or not. This has been of great benefit to me with our eldest daughter (now 12.5yo) as she was extremely highstrung and rebellious from the get go. (Yes she was tested for everything under the sun by a few paediatricians).

Sure, some who have posted do sound a bit unhinged; borderline abusive, but they are the MINORITY and I certainly agree that they would benefit from individualised help. Come to think of it, a few non smack parents on here could to with the same!



I have never said my children are better behaved than non smacked children. Mine can be as naughty as the next errant child and I DO NOT believe that any child is different from the other in terms of their behaviour vs conditioning.

**Children act up regardless of being smacked or not.**



I also believe that children contain their fundamental personality by the time they are born. My oldest girl, Anna, was 'high maintenance' from the start and rebelled at every opportunity. True to my education, as you so scornfully mentioned, Kimberlee, I didn't start smacking until she was four. I was using all passive interventions I had learned and encouraged the woeful parents in our PASDS to focus on (Parenting Assessment Skills Development Service).

Oh Lord, was I wrong.

I began to have a feeling that 'Hang on, maybe my mum's parenting was right. Maybe a smack is a valid in some situations'.

Smacking did curb Anna's behaviour. No, it did not work all the time, not in every situation and not 'for good' (and before anyone jumps on that statement like a dingo on a lizard, let me ask you, does time out or re-orientation always work?). So my aforementioned rubric was developed and helped me to clarify what would work for Anna the most.

Bear in mind, at one stage, Anna was coming home with a mouth of attitude (thanks to three prominent non smack children and one smacked child in her class) and I would defrag her adopted behaviour from her ego every night for an hour a time. I used CBT techniques I designed to suit her specifically.



Regarding my other two children, Ruby, 3, and Joey, nearly 2, they have been aggressive before smacking was used (Ruby has been smacked twice and Joey once, just recently, for climbing out of the truck window and running in front of my husband on the tractor). Ruby in particular has been very physical. However, thanks to us all for being so diverse, I have not had the same psych warfare that Anna presented with at an even earlier age.



I believe that children are naturally aggressive anyway. I have observed both smack and non smack children being aggressive when left in unstructured play, not only in my training but also in the school where us parents volunteer.



To me, and to paraphrase another 'pro' smack parent on this thread, 'a smack is an natural enforcement of the words and passive interventions I use when they do not respond to either non physical actions'.

Kimberlee - posted on 10/30/2012

Robyn , I agree with what your saying . Especially regarding the perception that some pro-spanking parents seem to have regarding their own child's behavior. Though , I suspect that in truth these children are most probably more apt to act out aggressively and even hit other children. In part because they are modeling parental behavior and because they have not been taught more constructive ways of resolving conflict. Certainly their parents may have talked to them about not hitting , but children are more likely to act in ways they have watched their parents act.

Robbyn Peters - posted on 10/30/2012

I think that the need to spank is related to a need to control behavior. Mothers that hold firmly to the merits of spanking often talk about how "well behaved" their children are. I think it is better to understand behavior and maintain empathy for the child. When we try to understand and we don't worry about our own "authority," or a child's "bad behavior," we often can gain better insight into what the child needs.



Mothers take a lot of heat for their children's behavior. Our society is very judgmental of children and how well behaved (or not) they are. If mothers were more supported, I think a well behaved child would be secondary to a happy, confident child.

Kimberlee - posted on 10/30/2012

I don't spank and don't understand how anyone with an education could still subscribe to such barbaric "parenting".

Claire - posted on 10/29/2012

Kristi,



I take it my reluctance to actually investigate the links was with merit? Well, I commend you for taking the time to peruse the site and video. I'm a little short of patience right now so I thought it best to stay away, given that it was probably designed to attract inflammatory comments from us 'ill-educated' parents in the first place... :)



Hello Kathy,



I have never heard of the 'diaper position'. What's that, may I ask?

Kathy - posted on 10/29/2012

Both me and my husband are pro-spanking.



We have two girls that are four and six years old. We both spank them regularly, often using the diaper position.



We have to very well behaved little girls :)

Kristi - posted on 10/28/2012

Ok, yah...I got half way through the first video and was just shaking my head in disbelief. Were these children hand picked from the worst foster care homes in America? For crying out load! I wonder, did farm animals have temper tantrums in the middle of Target because you wouldn't buy them a new toy, even though you came prepared with toys, snacks, juice and their favorite stuffed animal and blanket in case they got tired? Did the 2 10 and 8 year old piglets fight all day over whose turn it was "enter your choice" even though you suggested other options, set a timer to take turns, took "it" away and then they keep fighting because they blame each other for getting "it" taken away? I guess only non-spankers and farm animals have off spring that "grew up right," according to your research.



I also don't understand that if only 65% of people believe in spanking, how are 95% of toddlers inn the US spanked? Maybe I just can't do the math.



As far as I could stand that blow hard, I "learned" that children whose lives are not free of "physical violence" draw scary pictures. My children draw quite well. Not only does my daughter draw flowers, she draws animals, people and most recently, she is designing clothing fashions. She is 13 and the clothing is colorful and appropriate. When she was in 2nd grade she drew a family picture of her 2 families with everyone holding hands. Yup, she's totally disturbed. My son draws pictures of super heros, animals, transformers, etc. both of them were spanked when it was called for. I can't draw worth a damn but I didn't draw thorns and dark houses all barred up. If I could show you my brothers tattoos you would freak out and he was NOT spanked. Your theories are bunk.



You can have a hundred degrees, I have experience and not just my own. Spanking done appropriately is not abuse, I don't care how many studies you do. I agree there are people who use it unnecessarily but people use lots of things unnecessarily, like antibiotics.



I wish I had the dignity to keep my mouth shut like Claire but I will stand up for my beliefs (not that she isn't) and your rhetoric just is insulting.



Forgive my typos as I am on my cell and it is very difficult to proof.

Kristi - posted on 10/28/2012

Claire, Claire, Claire! Can you forgive my absence? I see I have some catching up to do! I am going to go into this study with an open mind because Robynn asked so nice and with respect, much unlike any of the other spanker-haters. I will rejoin you as quickly as I can. Sorry for leaving you hanging! It won't happen again! Lol

Claire - posted on 10/27/2012

My children would eat your positive parenting and spit it back out, in no time. Do not misinterpret my flippancy.

1. They really would spit it back at you. 2. I employ many passive methods before warnings of what will happen.



I should make you aware that I have a Bachelor of Social Work (Psychology) and am an enrolled Division 2 Nurse. Most of us 'regulars' here have some form of community/ health diploma/ degree.

Ergo, I reject that for the majority, we are simply 'ill-informed' parents.



On that note, a degree won't save you when little Susie has manipulated you all day, dinner needs to be ready NOW, the toddler has done another DIABOLICALLY EVIL nappy and oops! The tween needs you to help with a 'forgotten' spelling test tomorrow. Unless of course, you're in the Time and Motion field.



I decline to comment on your leftist project. I fail to see how you can believe in the words you wrote here when the very name of the link and website are absolutely contrary to what was posted.



I feel. it is typical modern jargon to dress your real intention.

Jen - posted on 10/26/2012

Tammy you are certifiable....What ,I will not say...beat it!

Tammy - posted on 10/26/2012

Those who follow "spare the rod, spoil the child" do you know that is from a 1600's poem called Hubridias about sex! LOL! Link: http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/32895...

The part in Proverbs it was taken from was written by King Solomon, did you know how his kids turned out? Look up Rehoboam who was a feared & hated ruler? Great person to take parenting advise from who raised a son like that! LOL!



Also, if you follow the Bible so literally, do you eat pork? Does your husband shave? Do you stone people who are raped? It also says these things. Or, do you just pick & choose in order to justify hitting your children? Just curious...

Robbyn Peters - posted on 10/26/2012

Claire,



I agree with you about media. It discourages me, because the media always makes it a heated argument and they don't really develop a dialogue. They always trivialize people on either side of the argument. I do not want to make people that are "pro-spanking" anything negative. Mothering is hard enough, and I am not judging mothers. This is an educational campaign.



I understand what you are saying about the difference between extreme violence and smacking. Of course its different, by degree.



I only ask that you take time to go through the website and read some of the research. I encourage you to cast a vote on the site and also to write on the blog anything you like.



We are learning a great deal about the child's brain that I did not know about when I was a young mother. People who spank their children are not bad parents. But I do think that they are not fully informed about the impact that punishing forms of discipline have on the developing brain of a child. The risk varies, depending on the child and the parent, but there is risk involved no matter what. That is a statistical reality. It is not argued much in the scientific world. In fact, the science is so compelling that the Editor in Chief of the Canadian Medical Association Journal called for there to be a ban on spanking in Canada, because the research is so alarming, pervasive, and in agreement. Did you know they have banned spanking in 33 countries, because of the research and in an effort to curb physical child abuse and promote positive discipline?



As I child I rode in cars without seat belts, rode bikes without a helmet, and was around a lot of second hand smoke. That didn't make my mother neglectful or abusive. We didn't know any better back then. It is the same with spanking. The research has not been published widely enough, and many parents just don't know.



It is not an indictment against parents. The link between spanking and physical abuse is also very compelling. I won't quote all the research here, but if you go to http://stopspanking.org, I think you will find the research interesting. I am just asking you to be open. I am not judging you. I am a mother and a grandmother and have tremendous mercy for mothers. My belief is we need to support mothers to understand the risks and learn alternatives.

Claire - posted on 10/26/2012

Okay, you want us to comment on your project- so you can ultimately shoot us down or point your finger at our 'wrongness'- and what/ where exactly does this leave us 'pro' people?



As your pariah? The figurehead of 'childhood violence'?



Just call me Katniss Everdeen!



Robyn, I have SEEN violence and an occasional smack when used in context is FAR removed from that.

Furthermore, 'pro' people are never presented fairly in media- especially from those that are from the 'anti' side.

Robbyn Peters - posted on 10/23/2012

I wanted to share with you an incredibly important project for children and mothers.



Would you please “like” our Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/protectchildrenf...



We are trying to produce a documentary to help raise awareness on the negative effects of spanking. Our website is http://stopspanking.org



I understand this is a very controversial subject, and we are interested in what mommies think, whether for or against it.



Thank you!



Robbyn Peters Bennett

Leonor - posted on 10/09/2012

i was spanked... and im ok, too! and i do spank my 4 and 3 year old! they are nice kids, healthy, specially the older one, is polite! The younger has a heavy temper, and does a lot of drama; but is part of his personality! so i try to find out first what bothers him, if it some nonsense drama... then a couple of spanks will make his temper tantrum to slow down! Sad, but reality! I think that non spanking theory is just for finding excuses for your child misbehavior! I tried, God knows i tried! but the most you talk to them nicely, they scream the worst!! Is that familiar for you?? Also, i will not get mad if someone else preaches my children! Kids listen better to other people... i want my children to grow up polite and to learn to respect their grown ups!

Try - posted on 10/09/2012

I am pro spanking. My mother was very against it, and I was never once spanked growing up, and I always felt there was something off about that. Then when I went to college I studied child development and psychology, and now I understand how spanking functions as a punishment - and, frankly, how utterly abusive time outs are to a child.



I spank my kids, because I love them and I will never allow them to grow up like I did.

Kristi - posted on 10/09/2012

Magaret--



Would you mind pointing out where I said 2 boys should beat the pulp out of one another to resolve an issue. I abhore bullying. If you are referring to my post about the ONE fight I witnessed in like 11th grade then you missed the point of my post entirely. I was pointing out that pretty much everyone I knew got spanked as children and that if spanking caused aggressive behavior, there would have been a ton of fights. Whereas, from elementary on through high school...13 years, I had only seen one fight. If you read my post and could get anything out of it, you would also have picked up on the fact that I was making light because it was an older brother protecting his little sister and that that is a pretty normal thing to do. It was not because either of these boys were spanked as children. If you are going to judge me, read all of my posts...they go back quite aways because I believe in this issue and I will stand by my statements.

Margaret - posted on 10/09/2012

Kristi C,

sorry but I do not agree with your view of two boys fighting to sort out an issue. You might think it is okay that one beat hell out of the other one for the right reasons. You may have even watched it, well any of those who did should have known better and stopped it. You have no control over how bad one of them can get hurt, so I think your reasons for agreeing with it are so wrong.



That is agression and not spanking a naughty child.

Miranda - posted on 10/09/2012

Spanking when is needed is fine but should never become a habit, or it loses it effect, nor should it eva cross any lines. A smack should have the effect more so as a shock, not pain if ya know what i mean. And again if you do it too often, it will not have the desired effect it should. To stop the child in there tracks and detract them from the misbehavior they are doing. I never left any marks on my children, and never scared them emotionally with how they were brought up. Following: talking with them about what they did and how it was wrong ( So they understand ) and that it should never happen again. Kiss and hugs, and it's ova. Never dragged out and we all moved along. Does this make sense?

Claire - posted on 10/05/2012

Whooa!!!

Kristi - posted on 10/05/2012

Alegna--



Apparently you are the type of faux Christian who judges others and is full of pride. You must have missed the part about love one another as I (God) have loved you. God is love. Or do unto others as you would have them do unto you.



Mark 12:31



The second is this, Have love for your neighbour as for yourself. There is no other law greater than these.



Luke 6:31



Do to others as you would have them do to you.



Romans 13:10



Love does no wrong to his neighbour, so love makes the law complete.



1 Corinthians 13:4-8



Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride; Love's ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil; It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true; Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things. Though the prophet's word may come to an end, tongues come to nothing, and knowledge have no more value, love has no end.



Proverbs 10:12



Hate is a cause of violent acts, but all errors are covered up by love.

***Which is exactly what you bigots are full of



Matthew 6:14-15



For if you let men have forgiveness for their sins, you will have forgiveness from your Father in heaven. But if you do not let men have forgiveness for their sins, you will not have forgiveness from your Father for your sins.



Matthew 18:2-6



And he took a little child, and put him in the middle of them, And said, Truly, I say to you, If you do not have a change of heart and become like little children, you will not go into the kingdom of heaven. Whoever, then, will make himself as low as this little child, the same is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever gives honour to one such little child in my name, gives honour to me: But whoever is a cause of trouble to one of these little ones who have faith in me, it would be better for him to have a great stone fixed to his neck, and to come to his end in the deep sea.



Sounds a lot like beat the shit out of your kids and kill gays to me! NOT! I know you will repost with Spare the rod, spoil the children...who are you to interpret that "rod" means, whatever it is you use to beat your children? I did a search for a verse that says beat your children, specifically and I could not find one. If I'm not mistaken, a sin is a sin is a sin. So, under your philosphy that being gay is a sin and that those sinners should be put to death, why should you not be put to death for your sin? When God said laying with another man is a sin, who is to say he wasn't referring to a pedaphile raping a boy, that, I can see as worthy of being put to death. Last time I checked, YOU have absolutely NO RIGHT to judge anyone.

Alegna - posted on 10/03/2012

Kristi, it tells me to beat my children in the Bible and I will uphold the holy word no matter how many faux christians tell me different. I bet you're the type of christian that condemns the Westboro Baptist Church for spreading God's command that homosexuals be put to death.

Claire - posted on 10/03/2012

Alegna, Kristi,



Aye, and the reason why the anti smacking lobby want to outlaw smacking period.



Flippant comments can be taken out of context on here. Say something in passing and bam! Fruitcakes from the other side of the fence will be raining down on all of us!



Nevermind, Kristi. You n me still gotta a date with a twin engine Cessna...Hope I can doge them cakes on takeoff!:)

Kristi - posted on 10/03/2012

Thank you for NOT helping our case, Alegna. People like you are the reason spankers get a bad rap.

Alegna - posted on 10/02/2012

Spanking children is for pussies. I cane my 2 daughters when they start misbehaving and it works really well.

Kristi - posted on 10/01/2012

Jelena--



Hi! No, unfortunately no live chats, just moms who happen to fancy on at the same time and end up in the same room. It would be great if there was a live chat though! How old are your kid(s)? Did you join for help on anything or just to get involved? I love it here so far! I hope you do, too. : )

Jelena - posted on 09/30/2012

I am pro spanking too. Love to chat with other moms here. Is there a live chat on this site?

Zoe - posted on 09/29/2012

Hi there! Yes I am pro spanking. I have 5 children under the age of 8. A busy household to say the least. I am mother to 4 girls and one boy. I have a set of twin girls. I also have my niece that lives with me most of the time. I choose spanking to discipline my children. I also use time out and corner time as well.

Kristi - posted on 09/29/2012

Claire--



I don't have anything to leave behind for anyone! So we are good to go! LOL

Claire - posted on 09/29/2012

Kristi,



Thanks for your vote of confidence!

Please make a will first though. Biggles Flies South wasn't exactly comphrensive :):)

Onyeche - posted on 09/28/2012

Definitely. It is one of many ways to discipline. Time outs, denying of privileges, scoldings, punishments and yes, spankings.

Kristi - posted on 09/25/2012

Claire--



I'd fly with you! ; )

Andrea - posted on 09/25/2012

I feel like my dad went way over board to borderline abusive but I am still pro spanking. It seems like everyone against it thinks we're abusing our children because we swatted on the backside a few times. Its more emotional upsetting that's why it seems so awful from the outside prospective.

Theresa - posted on 06/09/2010

I am a pro spanking mom however I have limits and rules that help the situation stay under control. I give my children a warning the 123 but I never back down, I am consistent, if I get to three they get a spanking; most of the time by the time I get to 2 they have complied. I have a three lick rule that I don’t break regardless of the offense and it helps me keep a line drawn so I know I am disciplining not abusing my children. I have to admit I struggled with this in the beginning with my first child. When he was three he had hit his little sister in the head with a toy and I popped his butt and told him not to hit her. He looked at me and said, "Mommy you are not supposed to hit people." So I cringed...Was I reinforcing the behavior by spanking him? But as time went on I realized that there are times when spanking is needed to show I mean business. I am now a single mother of four and am proud to say my kids are well behaved. I use spanking when it is needed but I am not reluctant when it is.

Gina - posted on 06/09/2010

YES. YES. YES. YES. YES. I am a pro spanking mom. I was spanked and I'm still alive, smart, happy and healthy. me and my kids' fathers have very bad tempers and are very stubborn and it really comes out in the kids to. and as a single mom of 3 who also babysits 4 other kids and all of them range from 1 to 6 years of age I need them to know that I am boss. I only spank my own but it shows the other that I do mean business and not to mess with me. As long as the line between discipline and abuse isn't crossed spank away.

Nareeda - posted on 06/07/2010

i am a pro spanking mom, i am a single 23 yr old with 3 kids (2 boys nearly 6&7 1 girl 3) and i think if i didn't spank my child when they deserved it then my house would be a horrible place to live. the other day i was at the shops and my daughter threw a temper tantrum and through herself on the floor, i gave her to the count of 3 to get up and hold my hand or i was going to smack her bottom, i ended up having to smack her and i was abused by a lady telling me i was a horrible mother, yet on the other hand praised by an elderly lady saying it was good to see young mothers disciplining their children.. so i say "YES"

Jen - posted on 06/05/2010

I am a pro spanking mom as well. I'm a single mother of two. I've got a 2 year old daughter who gets spanked when she needs to be. She knows when she does wrong so she needs a form of punishment that will show her that she's not in control and it will also keep her out of harms way. My other daughter is only 5 monthes so she has a while before she gets that sort of punishment. I'm glad that I'm not the only one out there that is a pro spanking mom. lol

Rotacha - posted on 05/20/2010

Definetly a pro spanking mom!! It's biblical!! The bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child", now that doesn't mean beat your child til their near death (lol). My daughter is 10 now, but when she was a toddler I definetly popped her hands, or legs when she got out of control or disobeyed. Again I have to reference the bible, "Train up a child in the way he shall go, and when he is. old he shall not depart from it." With that said, I have spanked her in years. Now, all I have to do is raise my voice or use a certain tone and she gets right in line.

Gerta - posted on 05/18/2010

I'm definitely a pro spanking mom. My girls got it more than a few times when they were young, first with my hand and as they got older and still acted up the belt was used to teach them a lesson. Sure helped! they are happy and healthy young ladies now.

Courtney - posted on 03/28/2010

Hello!! Thank GOD you all are pro spanking moms as well. Kids today have no respect for authority and they are getting away with way too much. I have heard too many arguments that it hurts their self esteem but I don't agree. I was spanked (a lot) and my self esteem is fine. I spank my son when needed but I am honestly afraid to do so because people get too nosy and all it takes is one phone call. My son knows at home anything goes but out in public I am more reserved.