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Keitaa - posted on 09/13/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Okay Im Pregnant At 25weeks , My Baby Daddy Left The Picture When I Was Only Around 2weeks . I Really Want Him In My Baby Life I Honestly Want To Start A Family With Him . Im Not Going To Act Like Im Innocent Because One Day He Asked Was I Pregnant Still I Said No But I Was Hurting Because He Always Had His Daughter He Loved Her So Much But He Wouldnt Be There For My Baby Like That What Shoould I Do ? What Can I Say To Get Him In The Picture ? Please Help Me .

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Kristi - posted on 09/14/2012

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Oh honey, take it from the Queen of Codependancy and Desperation, you canNOT make him do anything he doesn't want to. And the more you beg, cry or plead the further away he is going to go. I have learned this the hard way and it took me forever to catch on. I became suicidal trying to make my 2nd husband stay around. I let every indescretion he had go. I was absolutely certain I would literally not survive without him. We each have a child from a previous marriage but he was more like a father to my daughter and I, a mother to his son. I already planned our retirement, so to speak. I had know idea how I was even going to brush my teeth without him. But the inevitable happened. My mother came from WA to NE to get me and my daughter because I could barely get off the couch by that point. I had gained about 40 pounds, which obviously didn't help my case.



Anyways, that was just May of 2011. Over the last year and few months I have started to figure out that I am capable of some things. I started Weight Watchers in July of 2011 and I lost 52 lbs since then. I put all my energy into making my daughter feel safe and happy again. She has been my crutch. When I didn't think I could make it one more day I just reminded myself that she loves me and needs me and I can't let her down. Watching her grow up and become her own person has been so rewarding. Is my life all unicorns and rainbows? Far from it, but she can't know that. Do I still miss my stepson and husband? Everyday. But I'm learning how to make the best of things. Like I've already said a million times, it is all about my daughter now, as it should have been all along.



You need to stay healthy and strong because your baby needs you and you need him/her. Take one minute at a time. Ivy made some good suggestions. Try to follow her advice. Start doing things for you, things that make you feel good. (I know, he makes you feel good, or at least he used to) It's time for you to look out for you, live for yourself, live for your baby. You and he/she are who matter most. Do right by your child and that will help you feel right about yourself. I mean it now, you have to keep yourself in check and under control. Your baby is in distress whenever you are. It is vital for you to stay well. You'd never forgive yourself if something went wrong with your pregnancy. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You can PM me if you need someone to talk to. Trust yourself. xo

Ivy - posted on 09/13/2012

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Look, I don't know if there is anything you can do to get him in the picture. You can contact him. You can offer to do a DNA test if he doesn't believe it is his (since you might have led him to think you weren't pregnant).

But, PLEASE, try to be okay without him for now (and the future if it doesn't work out) for the sake of your child.

You CAN be strong. Look for sources of help (government, family, friends, church, etc.). You cannot do it alone, but you need to ask for help and realize that there are so many people who are feeling alone like you. I'm a single mom, and I feel alone a lot. But, in that sense, you are NOT alone.

I hope that things work out the way you want them, but if they don't, I hope you can be strong and make the best life you can for you and your baby. Your baby deserves that, and YOU deserve to be happy (with or without this man).

Good luck--I'll be routing for you!

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Keitaa - posted on 09/16/2012

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It Was Both ! I Did Some Things That Got To Him And He Did Somethingss That Hurted Me Its Like He Was Never Serious With Me Its Like I Was Someone There When Noone Else Was And I Got Tried Of That And Start Doing Things That Would Hurt Him . . He Never Wanted No One To Know About The Baby Being His So I Told Everyonee And That Made Him Walk Fully Away .

Monique - posted on 09/16/2012

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When my baby daddy left.. I told him that his son will always be a part of him no matter if he will accept it or not.... I reminded him that he can always get ahold of his big boy and see him.... It took him a WHILE bfor he would come or actually see him but he is.... In my opinion... If he dont want to be there for his baby... then im sure u can find someone who will..... There are plenty out there who are trust worthy... but if you are lookin for a positive male role in the babys life i would talk to a gpa or a friend.... If u dont mind me askin... Did u send him away? or did he just leave..

Keitaa - posted on 09/14/2012

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Thanks Ivy and Kristi So Much YallAdvice Just Insprised Me So Much It brought Tears Of Joy To My Face But Yall Right Ion Need Him I Can make With my baby Im Strong I Aint Gonna Force Him Im Glad He Gone Cause Now Me & My Child Can be Happy Alone Im Going To be A Damn Good Mama To My Baby Im Going To Show My Baby How I Can be A Mommy And A Daddy To my baby Thanks Yall So Much And contact me At Anytime At my Email LovelyMee793@yahoo.com And Stay Strong Too .

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