how do you find the energy and spark to do everything yourself all the time?

Alana - posted on 03/30/2011

I have definitely been in that situation. My daughter has her bath after dinner to unwind, it certainly does relax her, shes 8 so bedtime isbetween 8:30 and 9.
Diet does effect energy and i have cut out alot of things. Such as soda's etc.
I find when im really really tired int he morning a smoothie wakes me up before coffee would.
Its also refreshing.

Always try and make a little time for yourself do somethign you enjoy even if its catching up on a good book and taking a nice hot bath... i find that if i cant unwind the end of the night it makes the next day very tiresome and hard to get thru :)

Crystal - posted on 03/29/2011

There are times when I think all moms feel that way. Know you are not alone. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself too! Remember, you can't be the best you can for the children when you are drained. Find some hobbies or time to yourself. Make sure you make a date with you! Go to the spa, get a massage, simply a day of peace and quiet at home, whatever sounds enjoyable to you. When you take care of you, you are able to find the energy and creativity to take care of others. Good luck!
In love and light,
Crystal | www.whydidichoosehim.com

Pamala - posted on 03/29/2011

It sounds like you need some "me" time You might be doing to much I know for a sigle om that is a oxymoran but if you can just fnd 15 min for yourself even if its after everyone goes to bed to do what you want for a minute and not have someone demanding soething from you it may help or if you an find a sitter and just take yurself out to lunch that way you can relax a little gl and I hope it works out for you I love my me time which s usually after all the kids are in bed if this doesnt work or your sadness gets worse I wuld talk to your doc about it

Alana - posted on 03/25/2011

I'd say sleep and diet are everything. AT one point i was working 7 days a week and a single mom always running around. I stopped drinking soda and energy drinks dropped weight etc.. felt so good...
I also used it as an opportunity to get my daughter into healthier things.. we make smoothies in the morning try to go for walks (unless im tired) i find reading books relaxing.. if you have problems unwinding.. i find a nice bath after the lil ones in bed.. karma sutra makes this relaxing bath salt oceans of the sea.. it really helps you relax.. :)

also making sure not to have things with caffiene depending on what time u usually try to sleep.. like i try not to after 7 just cuz it makes me awake longer :)

mornings are rough for me to wake up usually i set my alarm twice like i have to be up by 530 so i set one for 445 that way if i sleep a lil i'll still be up :) i read before bed it unwinds me, sitting in front of acomputer screen/tv keeps your mind going.

snack during the day break down those 3 meals a day to snacks in between.. orange juice is a good energy boost! and snack on healthy things during the day you'd be amazed how they can keep you going..

I drink the v8 fruit fusion in the afternoon.. it really helps me to keep going and im not utterly exhuasted :)

Nompumelelo - posted on 03/25/2011

Hi i can only say that's being a mother gal "motherly"

Amanda - posted on 03/18/2011

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Andee Dunn - posted 1 day ago

I agree with some moms here about the Good Sleep, Good Food (nothing processed), Good Schedule, and something to be passionate about (or a few somethings)!
I just want to add this:
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST!
As moms, and especially as moms doing it alone, it is vital to care for ourselves first - otherwise we cannot care well for our children!
Amanda, it sounds like you are "behind the 8-ball" right now - and probably getting more and more tired, uninspired, and generally unable to attend to all you would like to do.
There are many ways to begin to take back yourself (so to speak) and regain that happy disposition.
Some have been mentioned -
SLEEP - no less than 7 hours per night
WATER - 64 ounces on average per 24 hours (recommended - ounces equal to half your weight in pounds)
FOOD - mostly veggies & fruits, then some lean meats & fish, nuts & seeds, whole grains
EXERCISE - as little as 10 minutes a day of focused movement (with or without kids "helping") but do it daily!
RELAXATION - "me time" - again, as little as 10 minutes daily, but something you do FOR YOU and only you.

Changing all these may seem too much and all at once it probably is and won't stick to become your routine; but pick one - any one will do - to work on each week until you've incorporated all of them. And in roughly a month you'll feel like a new woman!

Thanks, Im going to try all of this. I admit I do not get much sleep and eat when I have time which is not that often

Beth - posted on 03/17/2011

I totally agree with the other mommys on bed time. I put Sloan in bed at 7:30 with a toy and a book. I don't even care if he doesn't go to sleep. He's safe and entertained and I only need to pay attention to the moniter. Also, you are in a great position being in child care. Trade one of the mommys so you get some you time. Take her kids for a night, and have her take yours. You could get 24 hours to yourself that way. If you aren't taking care of yourself, it's hard to be a good mommy. Hang in there. we all get burn out.

Andee - posted on 03/17/2011

I agree with some moms here about the Good Sleep, Good Food (nothing processed), Good Schedule, and something to be passionate about (or a few somethings)!
I just want to add this:
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST!
As moms, and especially as moms doing it alone, it is vital to care for ourselves first - otherwise we cannot care well for our children!
Amanda, it sounds like you are "behind the 8-ball" right now - and probably getting more and more tired, uninspired, and generally unable to attend to all you would like to do.
There are many ways to begin to take back yourself (so to speak) and regain that happy disposition.
Some have been mentioned -
SLEEP - no less than 7 hours per night
WATER - 64 ounces on average per 24 hours (recommended - ounces equal to half your weight in pounds)
FOOD - mostly veggies & fruits, then some lean meats & fish, nuts & seeds, whole grains
EXERCISE - as little as 10 minutes a day of focused movement (with or without kids "helping") but do it daily!
RELAXATION - "me time" - again, as little as 10 minutes daily, but something you do FOR YOU and only you.

Changing all these may seem too much and all at once it probably is and won't stick to become your routine; but pick one - any one will do - to work on each week until you've incorporated all of them. And in roughly a month you'll feel like a new woman!

Reni - posted on 03/16/2011

You are burned out. Need a vacation. Or even a staycation. U need one full week without kids. Then after you miss your kids, when you get home, you'll be smiling again!

Jessica - posted on 03/16/2011

i have a set bedtime for the kids. they go to bed every night at 7:30... no if and buts about it. i have a routine that i follow every night. dinner at 5:30. at 6:45 we get jammies on. at 7:00 we read stories all together in the same room every night. some sit on my lap, some sit on the floor. we read four stories and for a half an hour. then i put them all to bed and tuck each one in. i usually put my son to bed first because he stays in bed. then i put my baby to bed because she goes to bed really easy and then she isn't running around and i can pay attention the the two other ones. i then tuck the other two into bed. they usually cause me some problems so i have to stick them in bed a few times but the other two are already sleeping so i have less to deal with. then by 8 every night usually they are all sleeping soundly. i spend some time to myself and i try to go to bed at ten. i get up every morning at seven... my kids usually get up around 7 or 8. i then have enough energy for the rest of the day knowing that i will have some alone time at 8. it helps and it works. i know what you mean on the lack of creativity and inspiration! it is never ending! and there is a million chores to do and housework to get done every day. i just keep to a routine and a schedule and that helps a lot! it is hard work to get into the grove but once you start, it gets easier. i also want to sleep in sometimes... but i plant a smile on my face and act really excited when they get up, even though i certainly don't feel it. i just pretend anyway... well, i do for my little ones that i have to get up for. my older ones can get up on their own and don't need me to be awake for them.

JuLeah - posted on 03/15/2011

Good sleep (8 hrs at least) Good food, nothing processed, a lot of water ... purpose - something I am passionate about ... a cause ... there are many to pick from the world is in a bad place right now