How to change my daughter's last name to mine?

Lisa Marie - posted on 04/24/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I recently tried to change my daughter's last name. I wrote that her father's is not currently in her life and that we aren't married. They told me to that is not a valid excuse. Should I write another later explaing my whole situation? Or should I just learn to accept her last name as is?

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Contact your state's vital records office. Whom ever you spoke with was unprofessional in what she told you in valid excuse my ass. You have every right to change your daughter's last name.

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Lorin - posted on 06/02/2010

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It depends on the state. You can file abandonment papers with your court house depending on the required legth of time he has had no contact with your daughter and you. If you do not know where he is then it makes it easier since they cannot serve him the paper work and then its posted in the newspaper for the required number of days. If he then makes no contact to the courts the system then will consider it an aboandonment change the name. It is time consuming and there are court fees, but worth it. Contact your local courts or social service office for more info.

Michelle - posted on 06/01/2010

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Legally your daughter has to keep his last name but if she wants to use yours she can. Basically this is how it is done I just added my last name with a hyphen to my sons last name legally he has a right to have both last names and so that is what we do he has now chosen to drop dads last name but on all legal documents he has both when your child is 18 they can legally change their name without dads consent.

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I was just curious if you were able to make any heaadway on this, or able to see a judge. I hope so!

Amanda - posted on 04/28/2010

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I am in the process of changing my son's last name to mine. It's a very long process but to me it's worth it. According to my lawyer, it's actually not that hard if he will sign papers to let you change it but I couldn't locate my ex to even ask him. I tried to have papers served to his last known address but no luck. Now, I'm waiting on the judge to set a court date. It can be a long process but it can be done. If you think it is best for your daughter I would continue trying to get it changed.

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2010

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Keep trying! My sons father took off when I was still pregnant but last thing he said to me is that he was going to take my son and run away with him. If your daughter's father ever decided to come back he has parental rights, and could take her away from you. They are full of it that it is not an excuse. It is physical and financial abandonment. Two very good, legal excuses to get her name changed. Try family court.

Teresa - posted on 04/26/2010

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I have just gone thru this in Dec 2008. The father has to sign a document to allow the process or you have to hire a lawyer to represent you. Of course, the girls father would not sign the forms and agree. My children requested the name change (14 and 12) we had to terminate the parental rights of the deadbeat dad.

Jennifer - posted on 04/25/2010

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i know up here in montana that you have to wait a year of no contact before filing abandonment charges and its then you can change the last name.

Heather - posted on 04/25/2010

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Depends on the state. I know here in colorado and in Texas, both parents listed on the birth certificate must consent to a name change. If the father is not involved then you must petition the court, please note this cost me close to $1000, because I had to file the case, he didnt give me a valid address for the summons and I had no idea where he had run off to so I had to have the summons published in the newspaper, but I also had him removed from the birth certificate permanently, I am getting ready to shell out the last $58 to get his birth certificate permanently altered, receive new ones, then I have to get his SS card changed and all his medicaid information

Carrie - posted on 04/24/2010

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call the state and tell them you want to change her name to yours....if you are her primary caretaker then it would be easier for insurance purposes......there is a fee but there should be no problem for you to change her name

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