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How to tell my daughter her dad denies her.

Suzanne - posted on 04/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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my daughter is two and I dread the day she asks about her father he has never wanted to know her and 3 of his other children to other relationships but now has a 5th child to whom he is actually being a father to. I have managed to get in contact with all the other three children and they are all going to have a relationship but very hard to explain to your child why her father and his family say that she is nothing to do with them, don't know how say that in kind words :(( xx

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Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2012

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That is hard, but there's no reason for her to know that. Some things kids just don't need to be burdened with. All she needs to know is that she has you, and your family and how very loved she is. When she is older you can explain more in depth but right now, just tell her she doesn't have a Daddy and remind her of all the people she DOES have. :)

Suzanne - posted on 04/09/2012

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Thank you very much for your advice she is definately loved more than anything from all my family it is just hard when his family all stay about 5 minutes away :(( xx

Jennifer - posted on 04/06/2012

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You can always do what I do. Don't bring it up, show her as much love as you can and when SHE brings it up, just tell her she doesn't have a Daddy and remind her of all the people in her life who love her. My daughter is three and has started making "Daddy" comments so we've talked about the fact that not all families are the same. Some kids live with just Mom, some with just Dad, some with their grandparents, some with Aunts, Uncles, two Moms, two Dads etc but that what always matters is that she had people in her life who love her...and then we have fun listing all of her family! lol



When she gets older I'll have to go into more detail but I will always frame such conversations around the fact that not all families are the same and just how many people she has in her life that love her. When she's an adult I will give her his name and the last place I know of him living and she is free to go find him and ask him any questions she likes about why he didn't want to be a father. Personally I'm hoping she doesn't bother but it's natural for kids to be curious so it will be her choice. All I can do until then is be honest with her and make sure she knows how very very loved she is.

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