i dont no what to do about her dad?

Emily - posted on 04/18/2009

I am going to keep this short and sweet. My son is 3 yrs old. and I have been on my own since. I was 21 when I had my son. I love every min of it. I say dont worry about what he does or when he gets to see her, that is his lose, and worry about all the time you get to spend with that beautiful little girl.

Candice - posted on 04/17/2009

you said it babe. his actions speak for themselves. and in your question you answered MINE. thanks

Itzel - posted on 03/20/2009

FIRST you can do this

he is the one missing out, what ever you do  you need as much money as possible so get child support, you owe it to your baby , you can do this she is the most importannt person in your life , nothing else matters.

Angel - posted on 03/20/2009

Hello, my son nathan is 4. His father left me when I was pregnant and didn't even get to meet his son till he was 3 years old, he has spent a total of 9 days with his son. I have learned not to count on him for anything, he lives in washington state and we live in Ohio, so I do it all on my own and I feel that it is better this way. The only thing that bothers me is that my son loves his daddy and never gets to see him.

Marie - posted on 03/20/2009

i was with with partner we were engaged i fell pregnant then a month or so after finding out he left me & caused alot of stress for me. my daughter will be 7yrs  in may and has never seen her dad. i dont get anything off him no money nothing. I have brought her up on my own but with the help from my mam.

Sue - posted on 03/19/2009

hi katrina :)

ur lil girl is gawjuzz just like her mum, as for the daddy well its hard coz as u say he has just offered verbally to help out to me i think its his responsibilty just as much as urz to support ur lil girl ask him wat help is he offering eg buying nappies or clothes stuff like that i suggest talk to him and ask him wat is he prepared to do i wish u the very best of luck sweety hope it all works out for u

and if he dont wanna be part of ur lil girls life shes still got her mummy :D

Zurina - posted on 03/19/2009

Hi Katrina, congrats to you. I found myself more or less in the same boat. I tooo want so much for him to be a part of my little girls life, but he chooses not to be. What i can suggest is that you do take him for child support, it is her right to have that, besides it's not easy being a single mom. On day when he grows up (if they ever do) he'll realize that he has a beautiful little girl out there. Just be the best you can be...Guilt will eat him alive...

Cheri - posted on 03/19/2009

Hi! My son's father left when I was pregant and the one thing I have learned is to not count on him to be there. You need to go to the child support office and get all the paper work you can from them on what he needs to be doing for you. If he says he wants to be part of her life (by the way she's so pretty!) then he needs to start by paying for her and what she needs. They may have to do a test but once that happens he will either realize what a great thing he has and be there or he will just end up paying and never show up. I agree every other weekend isn't so bad but if he's not a daddy, you will end up not seeing him. It takes any man to be a father and just lay down and make the baby, only a real man is a true daddy! it's going to be hard, I won't lie but you can do it and get all the help you can from friends and family for emotion support, you'll need it!

Dorelle - posted on 03/19/2009

Fisrt of all, congratulations! Second of all, is the father's name on the birth certificat? If so, you might have to share custody if he ever demands legal rights. My daughter will be turning 6 in a month and I too was alone through out the pregnancy. Her father found out 2 weeks after she was born that we had conceived a child togheter. We did a paternity test and then he saisd he wanted to help and had good intentions. We've been sharing custody for 3 yrs now and, it was hard at first for me. Letting go of my baby once every two weeks:( Unfortunetaly, her father an I don't see eye to eye so, personaly I'd rather not have to deal with him but, I also have to accept the fact that he is indeed her father. I am now expecting again. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs but we split up recently :S. This time it is different though, I left him because he was verbally abusif and I guess expecting a child made me finaly realise that I didn't want to live this way nor let the baby suffer through constant fighting. He would make big promises but would never follow through (kinda like you said: actions speak louder than words...and his actions weren't!) So with this baby, I am not going to let the dad get involved. (For logical reasons!) It's a hard decision to make, I know. You have to evaluate it yourself. My best advice is to be smart and for you to go and get legal custody ASAP of your daughter. This way he won't be able to demand it. If you think he would take good care of your daughter, you can maybe offer him later on to see her every other week ends. I'll tell you, it's a though question to answer cause it's your decision that counts and you will be living with it for the rest of your life. In fact, if you do include him, you will have to have him in your life for the rest of your days...I know my answer did not clearly give you an answer but i hope it has given you insight;) BEST OF LUCK:D