Im Having A Lot Of Trouble Wth My Sons Behaviour

im having a lot of trouble wth my sons behaviour

Tami - posted on 05/12/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

my son is neallly 3 he goes to sleep at 7.30pm but lately has been waking up when i get in to bed to sleep what is going on? He also refuses to listen all he does is yell at me when i try to be firm he will kick and punch me and i am at a loss i have tried time out, please help

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Sarah - posted on 05/13/2009

3 is a really difficult age, not a child but not a baby.If he is still in your bed it's time to get him into his own. When my daughter kept waking up when I went upstairs I tried loads of things. The main thing I did was to put a radio in her room, just on low so she was sleeping with some noise. I made a rule that her lights didn't go back on once she was in bed and that she never got juice or milk when she woke up, just water. And also that she never slept in my bed, no matter how tired I was. It took a while of being very firm but she got over it, then when she went to school it tired her out so much that I didn't have that problem any more. As for his behaviour, my son went through a biting stage at about that age. I started by making it clear, in a firm voice that it hurt mummy and he wouldn't like it if I bit him and then if he didn't stop I would bite him back but not too hard. I know you shouldn't hit children but a reminder that he is hurting you is needed. Also you can't try to be firm, you set the rules, if he thinks that you are going to give in when he yells for a while he will do it more. If you yell so will he. Get down to his level and hold his hands when you tell him to do anything. Eye contact and tone of voice are very important. If he kicks or thrashes around, hold his foot or lay him on the groung and tell him to stop, if you are in a place where you can do it, walk away and tell him he can come for a cuddle when he has stopped, then carry on with what you were doing.Give treats and lots of praise for good behaviour, raisins and carrot sticks in a freezer-bag are good to carry around. I really hope this helps, it takes a while to get going but being consistant and not giving in makes it quicker. Also a mums and tots group may help.Good luck!!!!!