Tara - posted on 08/20/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )
ok quick recap, i was with my sons father for 2 1/2 years before i got pregnant upon the positive pregnancy test his immediate response was to abort,he refused to even consider or discuss other options, so at 7 1/2 months pregnant i got on a train and traveled 500 miles back to my hometown, taking the clothes on my back my pillow and one extra change of clothes.
after i returned home my "donor" became more involved oddly enough in my pregnancy, I'd call him during my prenatal checkup's so he could hear everything going on, he called me in the hospital while i was in labor, he suggested our son have his last name, and that i use his grandfathers name as a middle name,
After our son was born everything was great for a few weeks, he was in contact and taking an interest in our son's development and health, had admitted to friends that he had no doubts as to my son's paternity, he had not however informed his parents that they had a new grandson.
then suddenly he developed doubts (due in large part to the trailer trash girl who used to live across the street from us, who spent 6 months tryin to split us up, that he is suddenly talking to again) so i took the initiative and informed his parents, he freaked out and started trying to accuse me of cheating on him last summer, saying that was when my son was concieved, the incident he was talkin about happened august of 2009 my son was born july of 2010. I'm not part elephant, but nice try,
my question Yes i do have one, is this, I'm planning to return to the area next month to retrieve my belongings and to allow my ex's parents to meet their grandson and his kids to meet their brother, do i need to file custody papers to keep the creep from tryin to take our son?? his name is not on the birth certificate, I'm currently living in oregon the "father" is in california, i did start proceedings to do a paternity test and start a support order, he wanted me to have my son's blood typed, to alleviate his doubts, i figure if knowing the blood type would answer his questions a dna test should be no problem for him,
any input would be very appreciated, as i need to go get my things but wont risk my son to do so,