Lauren - posted on 07/18/2009 ( 83 moms have responded )
I want him to be involved with her if he wants to be and as it stands he is on sometimes and off sometimes. Here is the scarry thing though, I don't trust him or his family to leave me alone forever, especially if Evey (the baby to be) has his last name. I kinda felt it as a moral delima, and my last name doesn't really mean that much to me because my dad just dropped off the face of the earth around 5 yrs old. But I just don't know what to do. What will I tell her one day when she asks "mommy why?" And I deffinately don't think he is fit to have her himself and with the mental issues his family has I don't want them to try as well. My family has reassured me that no matter what this won't happen, and if it does we will win. But I don't want to fight for her, she is mine, and I am a more than fit mother, people have told me for years what a great mom I will make.
So the question is if he is there for the birth, should I give her his name? Or maybe I should not have him there and just give her my name?
I have made my decision, she will have my last name. thank you for your help and comments. if anyone has any legal advice about anything pertaining to this topic feel free to still comment. I have gotten a lot of great tips from you guys.