Is it wrong for a mother to leave children with father for 2 or more days for relief?

Nadia - posted on 05/21/2009

hi, i honestly think "NO", IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO, and he should have a part with his kids, u should't feel guilty at all, all single mums need a break at times because its more than a full time job....

Lisa - posted on 05/20/2009

NO!!!!! If I did not have my x-husband to help I would go nuts! It is normal! I really need a day every now and then to go to the bathroom without my son knocking on the door!

Samantha - posted on 05/20/2009

had to comment im all for mens rights they have the right to help make them well by golly they get the right to stay home/worry/stress/refree/and ect. we do i gave my 2 oldest grls that thought dad was santa to him for 6 months and i was the typical male lol not liked by my ex but hey i enjoyed my vacation

Lynsey - posted on 05/15/2009

are you joking. Erm excuese me it took not just you to make ur child it took him as well and its about time these fathers learned what it is like to be a single parent even if's its only for 2 nights. Hunni dont you dare feel guilty about having a break you deserve it and if he is a decent dad then he also deserves to be able to show his children that he wants them not just for a sunday dinner but that he loves having them with him.... dont worry love please if i had a decent father for my daughter who was willing and able to care for her needs then i would also let my daughter go to him for 2 days its not like you going on a world cruise is it? enjoy ur child free time xx

Linda - posted on 05/13/2009

When my son visits his Daddy he stays for a week! It's hard on me to have him gone that long but Daddy needs his time too! Also, its nice to have Mommy time! Pamper yourself! take a really long hot bath! (something you probably can't do with the kiddos around!

Brooke - posted on 05/13/2009

Also keep in mind that a father is still an important person to their kids, so ur kids will love you for it....see....that way you can think of it as helping your child's happiness rather than thinking ur just bein selfish (you'r not ofcourse...but i bet u were thinking it!!)

Brooke - posted on 05/13/2009

just remember that you are usless to your child if you are rundown and exhausted. you're just as important (i know it's hard to remember and apply that). take some time out and give yourself a little "me time". the only time u shouldn't leave your child with their father is when you're not sure s/he won't be exposed to any emotional or physical abuse or ofcourse if s/he quite simply won't be looked after properly. good luck!!

Laura - posted on 05/12/2009

oh gosh no not at all!! we as mothers need our break from the children at times too!!!!
dont feel bad at all! we need to have an adult life too

Robin - posted on 05/12/2009

Not at all, he is their parent as well, and he gets his time off, raising children is stressful at times and when your flying solo it's ten times as hard, you need to put yourself first sometimes or you are no good to your children. enjoy your days off and don;t feel guilty

Aishah - posted on 05/12/2009

no not all, we all need a break at some point! lol i am soo lucky to have my mum as she babysits every other weekend when i go clubbing and feel soo refreshed for the next 2 weeks!

Angela - posted on 05/09/2009

No, Not at all!!! If he's a good father, there's nothing wrong with it. As a single mother you need a break a lot more than he getting. Let him help out sometimes.

Samantha - posted on 05/08/2009

I have 50 / 50 shared care with my daughter and while it was hard at first i enjoy having the time now... She loves her daddy and i think its important for everyone

Kathryn - posted on 05/08/2009

No Girl! do what u have to do to get u a break.

Arvi - posted on 05/07/2009

no its nt , if dy r independent n do der basic work lyk bathinn cleang themselves..

A - posted on 05/05/2009

absolutely not! I do it all the time!! Whenever you get the chance, you should do it b/c when you feel better you will be a better mother and provider. I feel guilty sometimes but in the end, im glad that i did it. I need a break too and we all do!! However, it also depends on the father. If he is a good dad, yes for sure!! Go for it!

LaShawn - posted on 05/05/2009

Not at all!! We all need a break once in a while.....It gives you the opportunity to have adult conversations and connect with friends.

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2009

I think as long as you trust him to care for her properly, bathing, feeding, dressing etc.. take the break!!! My ex used to send her home smelling like pee and in the same clothes i sent her in, I had to stop overnight visits, but everyone misses them. think of when they are older.. are you going to NOT send them to overnight camp? If you trust your ex it's basically the same thing. Enjoy your time alone, take a bubble bath, read a book, go out with friends you haven't seen in a while. DON'T stay home and mope. You need the break, there's nothing wrong with that

Vicki - posted on 05/03/2009

As long as you trust their Dad and his skills JUST ENJOY the time you get to re-charge, dont feel bad about it. My kids Dad lives in the USA and we are in New Zealand...would love to have your concern LOL. Hope all goes well.

Lisa - posted on 04/30/2009

i dont think its wrong. everyone needs a break. but when my daughter is gone for more then one day i miss her and get seperation anxiety, lol.

Jennifer - posted on 04/29/2009

heck no baby if you don't recharge you battery you won't be giving your child/ren what they deserve!!!! NOW IS THAT FAIR TO THEM???

Melanie - posted on 04/29/2009

you are definetly not in the wrong for wanting a 2 day break. i wish i could have just a couple of hours now and again 2 recharge myself and feel human again. i know if my childrens father was around i would have no problem having time 2 myself, but as hes in n.y and i'm in england its impossible at the moment. take the opportunity while u can, and enjoy the break. god knows we need it. dont feel guilty about it,ur children are not with strangers so u know they'll b ok. u need some me time. woteva u plan on doin have a good time.

Caz - posted on 04/27/2009

its hard being a single mum, and we all need time to our selves, if it wasnt for my job i wouldnt get a break as my daughters dad wont have her for me. so if you have the chance to have a couple of days on ur own, take it. good luck with

Candice - posted on 04/26/2009

it's scary, i know, when you've been with them so much, to let them go for more than a day. I am soing to deal with a 2 day away situation this month...and i'll miss her like CRAZY! but i have to remember that i need to recharge, and she'll live through it. and we'll all be better for it when we come back to eachother.

Heather - posted on 04/25/2009

Deffinantly not everyone needs some time away. I have had times where I need some RnR, silence and to unwind so I don't take my stress and problems out on my kids. Most everyone has a time in their life where it seems like all the weight is on their shoulders and they are frustrated, angry and maybe even snappy and they say we have a tendency to take it out on the ones we love the most and the ones we spend the most time with!! So if you need a few days take them and enjoy them plus it gives dad some one on one time with the kids and let him expierence the single fatherhood feeling!!! Good luck and enjoy your time

Samantha - posted on 04/25/2009

I do it sometimes with my baby's father. you need time to your self or you will go crazy I think its ok just call and check on them every now and then and you are fine. but that's just my opinion

Alisha - posted on 04/25/2009

No Not at all, I know how it feels when I need a break, last weekend my son was with his dad from sat. night till mon, night. Joint custody means 50/50, the children SHOULD be with him as much as he is with you.