is it wrong to ask yourself all the what if questions and to second guess everything??

Rebecca - posted on 05/05/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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lately i've been second guessing my decison to have my daughter. things were going so good and all my goals/dreams were falling into place before i got pregnate. my daughter is now two years old and it seems like these years have been nothign but one broken dream after another.

not sure how to keep going and how to stay positive!!

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JuLeah - posted on 05/06/2010

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You are second guessing your second guessing .....

Our kids come to us, in my opinion, 'cause they are meant to be in our lives - part of the greater plan and all that.

Depression can follow birth and can last, if untreated, for a few years. Have you been feeling like this for a long time?

It is hard to be where you are at. I hope you have a support system, good friends and family.

There are support groups that meet for play dates and conversation.

Do you have hobbies you love?

Maybe you could find a professional to speak with. You are not alone. Many parents feel this way and work through it.

Good luck

Julie - posted on 05/06/2010

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You will have days like that and it's ok.. I was the same way with my daughter. ( She's 10 now and I have a 5 year old son) I still sometimes think what if... matter of fact I had this discussion with my brother the other day... but then in the end I think about it and say now .. What would I do with out my kids... Even the few hours I don't have them when my grandmother takes them for me... I think what do I do ... I miss them.. Just remember .. Who is the one that makes you laugh and what would it be like if you did not have the giggles , and sticky finger prints on your fridge. I realized that this is the plan for me and that I could not live with out the 5 year old funnies and the 10 year old girlie stuff.. I have alway said what would I be doing now if I never had kids .. I think we all do.. It's not wrong and don't look at it like one broken dream after another.. look at it as new dreams happening.. Dreams don't always turn how you want them too but then other dreams come along... I hope this helps ...
Just remember when things feel like they are too much for you We are here to listen and help as best as we can...

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