Marisa - posted on 02/11/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )
Quick background...I got pregnant early in the relationship. When prego he was in Afghanistan. He came home and was around on weekends (due to the Army) then was off to Iraq for a year. Came home from Iraq and moved away to FL. I am in NY with our daughter. Up until last year we had no problems with him willingly helping me out with money. Last year he missed out on paying about $3,000. Finally i was done being nice and filed for child support in Dec. Went to court yesterday and judge ruled a decent amount a week for child support. Then she asked if i also wanted to go for help on childcare. Well of course i said yes. So on top of the child support he also is ordered to pay 58% of babysitting.
After court he calls me and pretty much bitches me out for almost 20 mins. One thing he said that pissed me off was that he should now have a say on where she goes to babysitting. He has never been around to take care of her and her sitter has had her since she was 4 months old (she is almost 5). My sitter only asks for $25 a day and i dont have to pay if we dont need her a certain day. He had the balls to say that is too much and i am getting ripped off. i want to mail him brochures of day cares to show him how lucky i am to have the sitter i do. Then he complains about with i needed to ask for child care money too. Saying all i needed was the support. WTF is wrong with him? He has NO NO NO idea what it costs and how much it takes to raise a kid.
Thanks for letting me vent.....i am so frustrated....oh and i forgot to mention. He then told me he is quitting his job and moving to another state so he wont be working for a bit. idk what to do now...