Love Hate And Miss Ur ex just the same?

Berryessa - posted on 11/26/2010

OMG tell me about it! my daughters father treated me like crap most of the time but i still loved him more than ever and when i go bring her to visit or when we have good conversations through texts i start to remember "us" but i also can never forget why i cant stand him

Jennifer - posted on 11/25/2010

WOW at this very moment. I truly believed that I was alone. My sons father asked me to leave a shelter, come back to his home. Only to leave his son and me for 8 days. And then show up with this chick. And yes I went insane and cut up everthing that he owned. But he also has beat me for five years. And yes am still totally in love. (Why) And was a dummy even after he brought her home the first time. It took 3 more time after that. And sleeping with him. He still calling me his wife. OHHH! I was an idiot. They are living together now. And I am living with my mom. (Very temporary) but prior to that I was in a shelter. I have been completely blacklisted from THE FAMILY that once was the only family I had. And yet he still text me every night, telling me that he loves ME and his SON. What do I say? My family says leave the SOB alone and get on with my life. But my heart say that I have his son and we are not kids and we have a connection. And there is something that we both still need from each other. But it hurts that I am out and still in love. Why does he keep telling me that he loves me when he clearly isn't with me.

Jessica - posted on 04/28/2010

Hey gurls!
thanks just wanted to know theres ppl out there who know exactly how i feel my ex cheated got drunk and fought with me every single day was hard it ended with me getting arrested and as bad as things got and were i still just wish i could go back to the time when we were just happy u ever hear that saying ur my addiction i see it as him being my addiction i search for the high we once had. but i want my son to grow up and respect women not treat em as bad as i was treated.. hurts like hell having to leave him everytime but i know my son will be a better man for the choices im makin now..

Rose - posted on 04/27/2010

I know what your going through. I am still totally in love with my ex but know at least at this moment in our lives we cannot be together if I want to keep our kids, as for the hurting and stop loveing them part all I can say is it does get easier but he will always have a special place in your heart. Surround yourself around your closest friends for support thats what I do.

Christy - posted on 04/27/2010

i know what u r going through to a T im still married to my sons father and he lives in nyc with his parents and i live in tn with my mom and we go twice a year to nyc to visit my sons father and oohh being with him is soo nice and i miss him soo badd and getting on the plane to come back i cry every time
BUT!!! you have to remember why you are not togeather what in your relationship caused you to break up and stick to that reason of why you two are not togeather my reason is that my sons father i dont think he was ready he still wanted to go to school and didnt want to wait until our son was a little older and more stable to start going to school and also he didnt help me with taking care of my son he is 2 now and in 2 years his father has given him 3 baths so im not with him because i want my son to have a father who wants him you have to be strong and stick to what you believe and its hard believe me i know but would u rather her having 1 strong mommy or 2 parents who fight constantly?
good luck and god bless

Heather - posted on 04/27/2010

I know exactly how you feel. My daughters father lives in another state and when they met for the first time a few months ago, it was the first time i'd seen him since we split up. It broke my heart when he drove away. I still love him with everything in me, and I know I won't have a second chance to fix things. (he got married to someone else). I don't know if it gets easier, but I sure hope it does, because it hurts. I don't have any advice, just wanted to let you know someone else is in the same boat. Good luck girl.

JuLeah - posted on 04/27/2010

Hi

:( The heart wants what the heart wants :)

I have heard of couple that split for very good reasons, each worked on their stuff, each resolved some of their issues, each learned better tools for communication ..... and each wanted to try again a few years laster.

You never know what is around the corner

And, regardless of what he opts to do or never do, you have a chance now to work on your stuff. Rebuild your life, create a life that makes you happy. Find your many strengths.

You will meet someone new and have a relstionship healther then you ever dreamed (God bless the broken roads and all that)

Or you and he will find your way back to one another

I heard it said from people I know in healthy relationships that it took all they learned from past relationship to have the one they have now .....