My 4 year old daughter has to have surgery on her tonsils and I am so nervous.... Is this normal??? Has anyone gone through this??? Am I freakin out for no reason???

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Chandler - posted on 11/10/2013

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Thanks for the comforting words my four yr old son has swallow tonsils and the doctors say he needs to have them pulled out what is one thing I can do to prevent the proceedure?

Tara - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hi, it is completely normal to "freak" out, that's your baby. I hope I can reassure you when I say that your daughter will be calmer than you. I assist in surgery as a living and when both my children had surgery I was a complete wreck, all for naught. My advice is to be strong for her, don't let her see you upset, bring something to keep you busy in the waiting room. FYI, the procedure itself take less time than it does to go to sleep and recover.

Pati - posted on 01/18/2009

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Hi, dont know if she has had teh surgery yet or not, but I have fought hte drs on my kid having her tonsils out since she was 3, she is 17 now and still has them, I still have mine too, and my dad who passed in 97 at 84 yrs old ahd his too. The sore throats were a bit of a problem and sometimes still are, but I chose to keep them.

Margie - posted on 01/18/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

My 4 year old daughter has to have surgery on her tonsils and I am so nervous.... Is this normal??? Has anyone gone through this??? Am I freakin out for no reason???



yES  Melissa you are worrying for noyhing ,your daughter proberly suffers with a lot of sore throat's and maybe even suffers with her nose or adinoids this procedureis common really in children but it is more of a worry for adults so i would say have it done now while your child is youngdont leave ittil she's older when it will cause problems. I HAVE HAD THE SAME TROUBLE WITH MY 3 CHILDREN  and they have all had there tonsils outand there adinoids to ,the doctor does give you an option but get it done.It sounds scary the way the doctor explains it but honest it's a simple procedure withlots of ice cream to look forward to afterwards lol .i've allso had mine done  its nothinb to worry about HONEST .

Barbara - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hi Melissa:) My daughter had her tonsils and adnoids taken out at 3 and I worried so much! The best thing I can tell you is what to expect, Day 1: She was really sleepy and did just that all day:)Day 2 she still wanted to sleep but I made her get up and atleast sit with us for movies and other calm relaxing stuff, she hardly ate anything! She started looking really weak by the end of day 2. Thats when I freaked! I called the doctor and was hysterical they told me that i should bring her in the next day around 3 to check her make sure she was healing ok. The 3rd morning after her surgery she woke up in the best mood with an enormous hunger and was ready for food. She started off really slow cause it still hurt a bit, but ate everything i gave her:) Within mins her color was coming back and the dark circles under her eyes vanished! We went to the doctors at 3 they said she looked perfectly fine and it is normal for little ones to not eat at all after this procedure for the first and sometimes second day.

I hope this helps! Our babies go under the knife and we as mother naturally loose it:) But with things like this maybe it'll be a little easier for the moms to come:) We'll keep her and you in our prayers! Good luck Mamma:)

Stephanie - posted on 01/13/2009

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Yes it's normal to be nervous. My daughter had hers taken out when she was 6. Her grandmother & I put up a very brave front until she went in for surgery & then we cried like babies. She'll need lotsof TLC afterwards. I spent alot of time coloring w/my daughter, reading to her, & watching cartoons while she was recouping at home. Good luck! Everything will be fine.

Emily - posted on 01/12/2009

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I have a five year old little girl.  I have taken her to the emergency room a couple of times, and although she hasn't had surgery, I think the trauma/anxiety to me of these other things is the same. With surgery, at least she'll be under anesthesia, and they will probably have her on pain meds/gurgling* some type of numbing liquid. If my daughter was going through a surgery I would probably take one xanax to stay a little calmer through it. She'll be fine. Good luck with everything.

Beth - posted on 01/11/2009

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Mine had his out at 16 months due to an infection in his throat that was putting pressure on his tonsils. For me, the removal of the tonsils were the least of my concerns, but I will say that he recovered very easily and we have no had problems since. There was one thing that was a surprise to me...his inflamed tonsil had put pressure on his ear drum and he had a loss of hearing in one ear that lasted about a month. We saw an ENT doctor for awhile after that...it may be something that you may want to ask about or at least pay attention to after surgery. On the positive side, I think that most parents whose children had them removed at an early age and their children are older now would probably tell you that over the years, their child was noticeably less sick than a typical child exposed to childcare, school, etc. So that is a great benefit. One other person mentioned not having to deal with strep throat. This is true. My son is 9 now and has never had strep throat. However, when he has been is heavily exposed to the strep virus, he does acquire a different form of it which comes in the form of a body rash, otherwise known as Scarlett Fever...sounds scary, but it is much easier to deal with because they are not in pain or coughing because the strep does not get caught in the throat. It has only happened twice. With the exception of this surgery, my son has had to take antibiotics only 4 times in his life, twice for the strep, and then once for a sinus infection and once for an ear infection (his only one ever, which is practically unheard of). His pediatrician said at his last checkup that she thinks that he is the healthiest patient she has in her entire practice. I have always attributed this to the removal of his tonsils, so there is a lot of good to be had. Your daughter should recover well, she'll milk the ice cream for meals that comes with the recovery, and hopefully you too will have a virtually illness free child in the years to come. Good Luck!

Quinette - posted on 01/11/2009

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Oh yes its very normal to be nervours, my 3 year old son just had his adenoids removed and tubes placed in his ears in November and I was a wreck. they gave him medicine so that he wouldn't remember the whole ordeal and although it made him really confused after the surgery, I'm so thankful that they did it. It's a bigger deal to us than it is them, just go with the flow cause they can sense your anxiety. good luck!

Zoe - posted on 01/01/2009

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i have a four yeaqr old boy also due to have his tonsils and adnoids removed - it is nerve racking - but im jus trying to think of the major benefits it will have for him. its better while they are younger they are so much more resiliant - i had mine out as an adult and had major problems - but children bounce back much quicker - its a short op and in most cases they are out the same day or poss jus one nite, dont worry - altho if ya like me u you'll be more worried than the children!!

Haley - posted on 12/31/2008

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I am an OR nurse. So I see mom's going through this every day. You are very normal. She is you baby and it is scary. I would be scared too if it were my daughter but I know that there will be people like me taking care of her. Believe me they understand how you feel and will do everything they can to make sure she is safe and comfortable. You will both get through this.

Rhonda - posted on 12/30/2008

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All 4 of mine had to have the surgery. I cried too. The worse part was when they were waking from the anesthesia, they cried alot...not in pain but it was just the way all of the kids in recovery reacted..it was heartbreaking. Just have lots of popsicles at home to keep their throat moist, it's most painful when the throat is dry. And give them the pain medicine around the clock.

Amy - posted on 12/30/2008

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My son was 2 when he had his tonsils out and it was a breeze for him he recovered very quickly. My 12 year old had his tonsils out and it was a total different story. it took him two weeks to recover. The younger they are the quicker the recovery should be.

Kathy - posted on 12/30/2008

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Hi there. I'm Kathy. Even though I haven't had to go through this with my kids - I had my tonsils out at the same age as your daughter. It really is no big thing and to tell you the truth, my ex-husband never had his out and has had years of trouble with strep throat. And now the doctors won't take them out unless he gets strep throat at least 4 times in one year. I think it's better to go ahead and get it done - saves a lot of sickness down the road.

Denise - posted on 12/30/2008

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This is how i felt when my son had an operation. I cried more than he did, i think it is because we are letting other people take care of our babies. I was a reck and the whole experience is horrible but once its over it is easier to deal with . Good luck

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