Patricia - posted on 10/07/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
A few months back, my son was "friended" by his father on fb. There were some pictures of him bare chested(no head shots, just his chest along with some other "provocative" poses) and all these men were commenting saying how "hot and sexy" my son's father was. My son flat out asked him,"Are you gay? I mean if you are, I have no problems with that, but all these men are commenting on these pics saying you're "hot and sexy".
His father responded,"Eeew, no! Gross! I would never be a "faggot"!!!!"
Well my son is big on truth telling and found out his father lied. He refuses to call him,"dad" and of course my ex is being a dick to my son telling him,"Well I don't want anything to do with you til you're done being crazy and get some professional help!"(My son is only 12 and of course his father acts like a jerk to him instead of being the adult and instead of explaining stuff, he says nasty stuff to my son and of course he has his WHOLE FAMILY "snowed" thinking he's the angel and my son is some kind of gay hating demon...)
Can anyone give me some type of advice to help curtail this extreme anger my son has towards his father? If his father wants to be immature and a jerk, that's his problem, but my son is very polite and sweet except when it comes to the subject of his father. I know he's hurt. His father has lied to him several times over the years("Oh I'll come out to see you over xmas break, spring break, etc...Oh I'll mail out your xmas present on such and such day! I PROMISE!~Then of course he doesn't follow through...)
Sorry this is sooooo long. But I'm tired of making excuses for my ex!