Erin - posted on 02/15/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
I was with my son's father for about three years when I got pregnant. He started to get physically abusive when I was a couple of months along--he didn't know I was pregnant yet. Although we fought every single day, he didn't hit me every time. He was stubborn, irresponsible, and immature. I (naively) thought that would change when he found out I was pregnant. Wrong! I left him when my son was about six months old. He was in my son's life (meaning he would 'babysit' him when I had to work or go to school) until he was about a year old. And then they went from seeing each other twice a week, to once every few months.
He has never paid any child support.
Now I'm engaged and my fiance is like a father to my son. He even wants to make it official by adopting him, so I asked Colin's biological father to relinquish his rights. Now, suddenly, he wants to see him often and even have him spend the night.
I don't want my son modeling himself after his biological father. My biggest fear is that he will be like him in any way.
I don't know what to do.