my three year wants to kick and hit me all the time

Melissa - posted on 10/02/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




my three y.o. is into fighting all the time and now he just walks up to people and me and kicks them or me and hits. what can i do to stop this?

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my 5 yr old was doing it up until she was close to 4. She finally stopped because I kept raising my voice telling her it is wrong, that she cannot do that. I was really firm about it and I guess she got it through her head that it is not the right thing to do.

Billie - posted on 10/03/2009




When he hits play time is instantly over. You look him dead in the eye and tell him VERY firmly that hitting is not acceptable and whenever he does it he has to go sit by himself for ten minutes. For that time you completely ignore him. When the time is up you him tell him he has to apologize to whomever he hit. If he refuses give him another ten minutes of time out. Keep doing it until he apologizes. Also keep him from watching violent television programs and video games even if other people are playing them. When he behaves himself acknowledge that he's done well, but don't go overboard with the praise so he's not constantly trying to get the thumbs up from you. Give it time. With some consistent and firm discipline, he'll get over this aggressive phase. Good luck!

Danielle - posted on 10/02/2009




This is pretty common. I've gone through it with all four of my children. The best tip that I have is to not respond with aggression. It's important for him to know that it's not acceptable from anyone. Stop, pull him aside, and firmly tell him that he cannot do this. Make him apologize to the person that he hits or kicks. He'll be embarassed enough that he won't do it to many more times before he gets the hint.

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