Lisa - posted on 01/07/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
I left my husband two years ago after 7 years of verbal and some physical abuse, after the divorce my ex moved thousands of miles away and severed all contact with our 9 year-old son. He has received counseling and has more good days than bad but still has trouble with the abandonment. He has severely attached 2 me in such ways as crawling in my bed in the middle of the night, he won't sleep over at anyone's house anymore, calls me all night long if I'm out, and shows all around concern for me like a parent would for their child. This still goes on after 2 years and I don't know what to do to make him see that I am not going to leave him, that he needs to be the child not the parent, and get past some of these habits that are not normal for a 9 year-old (especially sleeping with his mom). Does anyone have any suggestions or is anyone in or has been in a similar situation that can offer advice? I am desperate to get my son on the track to feeling and being as normal as possible before these habits cause him damage!!!! Please help!