Need Some Advice

Amy - posted on 02/27/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

To make a long story short..My sonis now an 18 month old but wasa 33 weeker, with many health problems (gastro, eczema, epilepsy, broncial problems).. His father (who is 26!) has just now finally had a paternity test done(i've been trying to have him served his papers since July, he has given me false addresses, cities and all!) and didn't want to see him for the first time until we go to court this wednesday (March 3rd)...Well my sons gmother and gfather wanted to see him On friday the 19th and my sons dad lives with them. I took him over there and he actually had something to do with him and played with him and all. He ended up lying that night saying he had to work 3rd (coal mines) shift and left. He did not work that night!! That Saturday I heard NOTHING from him, but his gma went an bought everything Payton needed for their house. That sunday me and my sons gma went shopping (I've known her for like 10 years) for my son and got him anything he needed. That Sunday his gma asked to keep my son (and she has seen him many times since he was 11 months old!) I allowed her to keep him, my son was very comfortable in the environment, he even told me bye momma, waved and blew me a kiss and normally when I leave he cries, so I felt comfortable leaving him as well. His daddy was putting up the baby bed and playing with him Sunday when we returned from shopping to their house. Monday morning I wnet to college and took my test, and then went to their house to pick up my son, his daddy who woked 3rds and KNEW i was picking him up before 10am was already in bed..Instead of staying up with his son for 2 hours he slept!! When I picked payton up he had a temp and breathign a little rough so took him to the dr, long story short he's been sick all week and ended up having RSV and in hopsital. His daddy only asked about him every other day..wasn't asking if he needed anything just asking how he wasa nd would say ok when i told him..Now his dad is talkign about fighting me for Joint custody first (which I was going to agree to originally but seeing he isn't attempting to build a relationship with my son I am not)...he now has a lawyer to fight me for sole custody (I live in KY)..I do still live with my aunt..my son is very well taken care of, and I do not have the money to get a lawyer to fight him for anything.. I'm so stressed out..My son has anything and everything he wants/needs, I've never had CPS called on me, I've made sure all his drs appointments are made, or arranged, and I have taken him to every appointment. He (my sons father) has even asmuch as told me when I took my son to the dr on monday of this week that I should have taken him sooner (friday we had begun breathing treatments bc he was alittle wheezy, but NOT bad enough to go to dr/or emergency room) and his dr told me to beign breathign treatments.., Monday he was diagnoses with Asthmatic bronchitis, tuesday he was worse took him back to dr, he had bronchial pneumonia, wednesday we tried to wait out for antibiotics/steroids to work, and thursday I took him to the ER where we found out he had RSV and they admitted us. He never came to the hospital, never called, just sent a text message!

Do you think he has a chance with Sole Custody?
I need advice on a lot of things. This is my first child. I do not work bc of his health problems, but I go to college at a community college Full Time, and I also am taking online course for Bridal Consultant, as well as I have a home based business I am starting up...I'm at loss of really WHAT he can do by law in KY. I have been told that he has a different girl around him every few days and i do not want my son around that. I have had my son around one male and that after we dated 6 months and I moved in there when Payton was 6 weeks old..