Beth - posted on 05/18/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
My ex's family won't acknowledge my girls unless there is contact on a regular basis between my ex and my girls. My ex hasn't contacted my girls for about 2 years now, and from the looks of it is unlikely to resume contact in the near future.
I messaged my ex FIL over FB asking if he was still interested in having contact with my girls. The answer was yes, but not until his son, my ex, had contact with the girls at least once a month. Also I don't think any of my ex's family will have contact either with my girls unless my ex has contact. It is rare that they'll even ask me how the girls are over FB, even though some of them are friends with me on FB.
My ex did have contact with my girls for about 4-5 months 2 years ago now, but stopped. The only reason that I can see was that it wasn't going as fast as he would have liked it go have gone. My girls knew that they could choose when they wanted to start writing back to their Dad, just as they were warming up to the idea and seeing that it was a regular thing he stopped. Even though he knew that my eldest had done something, he never bothered collecting it. Basically he wanted to see/meet the girls after a few weeks of contact after three years of nothing. Also when he did see the girls on visits, he would change plans/let them down at the last minute.
Any ideas? I would like to leave the door open for the ex's family to contact me over FB, but on the other hand, I think they've lost the last best chance of being in my girls' lives. They haven't seen my girls for over 7 years now (it'll be 8 years just after Christmas this year).