Amie - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
My situation in a short explanation: Was with My babies father for 6 years in a very bad domestic violence situation (Him hitting, abusing and threatening me) i fell pregnant we seperated when i was 15 weeks pregnant. When he found out that i was pregnant he told me to abort it and when i refused he threatened me. When i busted him cheating i used it as my escape (i had tried leaving him many times but was threatened etc- long story) he held me against the door hand around my throat punched me in the stomach and tried to run me down with his car. i ended up in hospital. I did not hear from him through pregnancy, let him know after baby was born, he came to hospital to see baby when she was 4 days old (he is on birth certificate and paying maintenence- again long story basically i seeked advise on not having him on birth certificate but had to plus his dad works at centerlink so yeh) anyways did not hear from him again until baby was 3 months old and had to meet uyp with him at a cafe where he physically abused baby and deliberately was hurting her to wake her up because "he wanted to hold her" he was squeezing her hands and fingers very hard to wake her and cause her to scream out plus he was verbally threatening me (I had my brother there as a witness and took photos of marks he left on my daughters body and went straight to police station to report it). He was arrested for aggrivated assult and i have now got a restraining order for myself and my daughter against him for 2 years. I have a lawyer and am going to apply for full custody. His girlfriend is now writing on face book comments to my friend and to everyone that they want to get custody of baby and make me look bad etc and rah rah rah. So my question is, (I know i have my dauighter protected for now from him and his violence as he is a very violent person) but what can i do to ensure he does not get access to her in the future- i cannot allow my daughter to be exposed to this and considering on his first proper visit with her since birth he already was deliberately hurting her IN public just to wake her up, i am concerned if he gets access to her what will happen behind closed doors!!! can any one recommend anything? please i am so concerned for my daughters welfare and although im sure things will be best in my favour to get me most access i have had alot of people tell me that law is very strong for fathers being in childrens lives- which is fine in some situations but i believe it certainly is not in this situation.