Should I be feeling this way?

Kristi - posted on 07/20/2012

It doesn't matter if you "should" be upset or not. If you are upset then that is what matters. If it were me I'd be pissed and hurt. It sounds like your husband needs to cut the apron strings. You and your unborn baby should be top priority, even if things were "normal." IMO, under the circumstances, it's ridiculous that he even considered going that far away and with unreliable cell sevice, to boot. Your MIL and your husband should both be ashamed of themselves. I know you must be totally stressed out already, but if you think you can handle it, an important, sit down conversation with hubby is due. If you and your baby are going to play second fiddle to his mommy something is seriously wrong and that needs to be addressed, sooner rather than later. You don't need to be aggressive but you do need to be firm and completely honest about your feelings and what your expectations are. Kristen is right about men needing things s-p-e-l-l-e-d o-u-t for them, even when we think it should be obvious. I wish you and your family well. I hope hubby turns it around. Good luck with your delivery, I hope it all goes smoothly and mommy and baby will be happy and healthy when all is said and done. Blessings.

Shanna - posted on 07/10/2012

Yes you have every right to be upset, no matter what your husband should be there for u in this time not on somw stupid camping trip that could be postponed till after the baby is born. He needs to put his mother in her place..

Kristen - posted on 07/06/2012

Yes I had similar issues my entire pregnacy with my ex fiance finding his family and children from a previous marriage were more important. I am sure since you are married there is love there and its hopefully not an intentional situation. However, I have learned that some men need it spelled out in black and white exactly how you feel to understand the magnitude of how you are dealing with the situation. Most guys can't understand the emotions behind pregnacy and it makes it harder on you being emotional on top of having to explain everything in black and white.

I would say your mother in law doesn't understand the situation at hand at all. If there are complications with the baby that should be the first responsibility not the vacation. I can't imagine any grandparent I know that wouldn't understand the situation. It sounds like she is a very self centered person and doesn't care how she effects the people around her.

I personally would sit back and think about the relationship you two have together. I would possibly even sit down and talk with her about the issue as she is family now and this behavior on a constant basis could present problems.

Erin - posted on 07/06/2012

Yes you should. Your safety is number one. It might be ok if he had excellent reception and was only a few miles away but still if you felt uncomfortable mommy should butt out and your husband should have let the kids go and stayed home with you.

Christian - posted on 07/02/2012

Yes. You mother in law is being rude and inconsiderate. I am a single mom. I went through my pregnancy/birth alone. I did it because I had to. You have a husband. You should not have to risk that you may go into labor and that he won't be there.

You husband's relationship to his mom is important too, but this should not cause World War 3. They need to reschedule the trip or be okay with your husband not going. If she gets upset, have him get her flowers or do something sweet to make it up.

What's the point in having a husband if you have to go it alone during the stressful times?! What city do you live in? I'm sure there is an amusement park or something else very fun and closer that doesn't involve an overnight stay that the kids can do with your husband.