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Should I move my child away from his father?

Bianca - posted on 07/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am going to be getting married soon to someone in the military. He will be moving to Japan in a couple months and I want to go with him. The only thing holding me back is that I have a one year old son who has a very active relationship with his father. Even though we would come back every few months to visit, I am afraid of what this would do to my child. I am deeply in love and would love to have the opportunity to move. It would also be a better living situation. But my child is my world and I need to make sure I am not hurting him with the move. What should I do?

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Julie - posted on 08/10/2012

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I am pretty sure you can not legally move your child out of the Country without the permission of his birth father. If he is active in your child's life than it is likely he will NOT sign off on your moving to Japan with his kid. This should make your decision much easier.

Ashley - posted on 07/22/2012

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Skype! Skype can be your best friend! My future SIL's son skypes with his dad almost everyday that he can! She's married to someone else and her ex (my nephew's dad) is Navy and got stationed in NC (they're in FL) and my nephew skyps his dad and grandparents constantly. They even play board games and such. It's what we plan on doing with my daughter when we move to Guam (my soon to be hubby is military too.. but my daughter's dad is NOT at all involved. his choice.)

Kristi - posted on 07/15/2012

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Have you talked to your ex about what is going on? You're son is pretty young so he would surely adjust, but may come to know your new spouse-to-be as his dad and wondering exactly who he is visiting every few months, if indeed you are able to travel back and forth between the US and Japan that often. Tough call. You have the right to move on with your life and do what you think is best for you and your son's future.

Blossom - posted on 07/12/2012

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Have you talked with your childs father about it? Maybe you can work out an arrangement for joint custody. i'm glad the father is around, if he has a relationship with the child, talk to him about your plans, he may be willing to make changes to keep his child in his life. I hope it works out for you!

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