Sibling fighting

Sierra - posted on 01/11/2010

i dont think fighting has to be something acceptable. i NEVER fought with my siblings and my fiance NEVER fought with his. it just wasnt nessesary. our parents encourgaged us to be vocal about what was bothering us instead of physical. my daughter throws temper tantrums if she is bored and wants attention and unfortunately that applys to almost ALL children. once boredom sets in beware. i sugest finding the root of the fighting. i.e. solely boredom or your son teasers your daughter, or etc. and limit the situations where that can occur. keep the kids busy in their own activites.

Monica - posted on 01/10/2010

My kids are 8 and 11 and do the same thing. As long as it's not physical I stay out as much as possible. Like Renee, I noticed mine do it more when they are bored. But I honestly don't think there is a way to completely stop siblings from fighting, just try to minimize it whenever you can.

Lynda - posted on 01/07/2010

Siblings do fight it's just what they do. My kids now 19 and 13 did and I know that I did with my sister. My son would push my daughter's buttons to make her mad because he thought that it was fun and he was bored. My daughter would quietly instigate fights with her brother to get something that she wanted. When your kids fight is it yelling or physical? Is there a date or time that it happens more? Have they had a certain food prior to the fight? Try to write down when it happens and maybe talk to each of them separately. My son was about 6 when he told me that he thought it was fun to get his sister mad. Just ask them why, you may find out the answer and then be able to prevent the problem.

Lisa - posted on 01/07/2010

My youngest 3 are 11,9,7 when they fight its like world war three. I stay out of it unless the youngest one is in physical danger. I think it is a part of life and they have to work out their differences them selves without you sometimes.

Claudia - posted on 01/05/2010

My kids fight and argue all the time too and the competition, oh the competition. They are 7 and 10 (boy and girl). I think it is just the age. They play really nicely at other times though. For the most part I stay out of their fights until it gets too loud and they need to be separated.

Renee - posted on 01/03/2010

I've noticed my kids 8 and 10 (boy and girl) fight when they are bored. I can now see it coming and try to offer something interesting for them to do before the fight breaks out. It's also usually right before we eat dinner, they're hungry and a little tired and probably getting cranky, that's when the fun begins. I try to run interference but they are going to fight sometimes.