Marissa - posted on 05/18/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
I found out that I'm pregnant on Mother's Day. I was on the pill and my ex said for months that he was sterile. We broke up the week prior to finding out and when I told him, he said I needed to get an abortion. I'm pro-choice, but I came to the conclusion that I'm not going to give it up. After I refused to have an abortion, he said he was going to sign his rights away. I said that's fine, because I truly wasn't going to ask him for anything, my family and friends are being super supportive. But now that see how much a baby costs, I've got to admit to myself that a time might come when I do need his financial support as well as the fact that my baby has a right to know his/her dad.
Now I'm kind of worried.. Can he just terminate his parental rights because he doesn't want to pay and thinks he isn't ready to be a father? He's not the best guy in the world and we've had our issues but I do honestly believe he'd be a good parent if he tried. Also, he called me the other day and said it costs like $1000 to sign away his rights and that he either needs help paying for it or I need to sign a contract drawn up by his lawyer saying that he has no responsibility whatsoever.
I'm really not trying to drag him down. He swears I got pregnant on purpose. And he still wants to be friends and hangout and maybe see the baby after he terminates his rights... But is it fair for him to get to play daddy only when he wants to? It sounds like he's just trying to shirk the monetary responsibilities. Idk. I really don't know what to do. This is my first pregnancy and I'm scared.