Leanna - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
I've only just turned 20 and my son is about to turn 1, but a lot has happened within the last 2 years. Just a short summary, I got pregnant right after I got out of high school. I left the guy I was seeing because he was extremely immature and him and his family started calling me a whore and other hurtful things. I then started dating my ex fiance about a month into my pregnancy. I was really surprised and happy when he stayed with me when I told him I was prenant. A few weeks before my son was born, he cheated on me with the woman he's dating now. I waited for him when he went to Army basic and he wrote me wonderful letters about how much he really wanted a family and a house, etc. He ended up breaking up with me shortly after he got back last September. I learned right then and there that I really was on my own to take care of my son and that I can't rely on anyone else, even a man who supposedly "loves" me and my son.
Now I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost two months and he has been very patient and understanding with me as I'm still trying to pull myself together. I was surprised he still wanted to date me when I told him about my son but it didn't bother him. He is AMAZING with him. I really like him but now I have a dilema. He is in jail. It's nothing too serious, mainly just miscommunication between him and his stepdad because he was drunk. He's been in there for a week and a half because noone has the money to bail him out. The thing is, I've NEVER dated anyone who's been in trouble for more than a speeding ticket. I don't want to back down on my principles, but I don't want to abandon him when I know I'm the only good thing in his life. (His family life has never been very good with his mom marrying several times and being an off and on meth addict and his friends thinking there's nothing more to life than drugs and alcohol.)
I just don't know what to do because I'm finally doing things on my own for my son and don't want to be dragged into that lifestyle but I know that if I don't help him, he'll be stuck in that lifestyle when he's tried really hard to get out.
Any advice? I'll take it all, good or bad. :)