Kayla - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )
My son is 11 wks old and has just started seeing his father when he was 7 wks old. He wanted nothing to do with my son when he was first born. His dad and I split when I was 6 months pregnant and I didnt hear from him again until he decided he wanted to see my son a few weeks ago. He has a new girlfriend as well, has since before he left. He is not on the birth certificate because he didnt come around the hospital either. But thats just a little background on what is going on. What I have been wondering about is if its hard for other single moms to take their children to visit their fathers? When I take him to visit I don't leave him there I stay with him the entire time. His dad isnt comfortable with him crying and always hands him off to me as soon as he starts. The hardest part is I know that I am over him but I still can't help but wonder what it would have been like if we could have worked our problems out and made a life as a family for our son. Just seeing how good he can be with him and how much he loves him makes me think that maybe I should have tried harder. I had many reasons for us breaking up (cheating, lying, I was supporting him working 2 jobs while he stayed at home in my apt on the couch even though I had a very difficult pregnancy) so I dont regret that decision I just wonder a lot, especially since I always told myself that I wasnt going to put my child through the split parent situation since that is what I grew up in and didnt enjoy a minute of. Wouldnt it be great if there was a button we could push to just see what our lives could be like if things would have worked out the other way?
Also is it hard to for anyone else to see the new girlfriend hold your baby and see the three of them interact as a "family"? I know the first time my babies dad handed his new girlfriend my son I wanted to fly across the room and deck him then take my son and leave.