Jennifer - posted on 02/12/2010 ( 34 moms have responded )
I kicked my daughters father out 2 days before christmas because he started drinking again and had not contributed financially in months. since then i took her to see him 3 times (an hour drive each way) He kept saying he was going to get sober and would help with money as much as possible. Well he hooked up with another woman decided he wanted to keep drinking and hasnt called to check on our daughter in a month, and of course no money sent at all. My daughter is a special needs baby. She is an albino and is visually impaired. She is going to have a harder time in life than others. She is going to turn 2 in april. My question is if he is going to be this unreliable isnt it best for him to just stay out of her life. I really wanted them to have a relationship which is why i kept bringing her to see him, but I feel like I should not have to be the one to put in all the effort and gas money to make it happen. Especially if he cant even call to check on her. Another thing is I dont trust him to take care of her he has driven drunk with her in the car one time, and threw himself out of my car going 40 miles an hour while he was sitting right next to her, while he was drunk. That is why I told him he he even so much as drank a beer I would end our relationship. Which i did. I feel like she is going to have things hard enough without him being screwed up and a bad influence on her. His family insists that he should still be a part of her life. I honestly wish he would just disappear. Am I wrong for feeling this way?