Andrea - posted on 03/20/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )
Recently my daughter went with my sister and she ended being at a cookout with her father present. (she hasn't seen him in 2 years). When she first walked into the house, he said "Who's that?" She said it was "me Khyla." A month or so ago she got her hair cut. She went from having long hair to a "Halle Berry" style. Her dad made comments to her about her hair and that she should have called him to get permission and it looked funny. She came home and was very upset. She said he always tells her he can't come to see her (an hour away) but he can go other places the same distance. She said he spent all his time with the kids he sees all the time and that he had very little to do with her. She was crying and told me that she never wants to see him again. She decided to call him the next day and express her feelings to him. When she spoke to him, he just told her to shut up and said that I was putting her up to saying the things she was. She told him she didn't want to see him because all he does is lie to her. If she doesn't see him, then he can't lie to her and she won't feel sad.. He ended the call by saying, "Are you done? I'm going back to my nap." I told her I will support her with whatever decision she makes in this matter. Did I do the right thing by letting her say she no longer wants to see him?