why are men willing to take care of other men children,but not their own?????
Maleunta - posted on 09/19/2009
simple..they saw there fathers do it and so passes the bulshyt...i cannot understand that myself..yes yr kids has you but they need the dad..i say fight every day mentally for the use of him in your kids life insult his azz..talk about the situation let it be known to him he has your kids and they come first...it is sick..find out his past wt his dad and go from there i reccomend never stop fighting for you kids dad..they unless he is abusive...spirit mom..
Billie - posted on 09/18/2009
Obviously each situation isdifferent, but I've found that in many cases I've seen up close and personal, a lot of men tie there attachment to the woman up with their attachment to the children. In other words when he's in love with the woman he's attached to the children. When he moves on from the relationship with mama, he leaves the babies behind too. Not all men are that way, but many are. One of the reasons behind the instituation of marriage was to give the man a stronger tie to the woman and children. Every year the number of single mothers increases. Can't blame it all on the men. We ladies are making some bad choices. The only thing we can do to offset the damage done by the absentee dads is to teach our sons and daughters to make better choices in their lives than we did. Good luck!
Tamiko - posted on 09/18/2009
you know wat.I said the same thing.but wat a man fail to relize is these kids dont stay kids 4ever.And when the time comes,and they are all grown up,their gonna remember,momma was there,but where were you,when she had hard times with me..And the kids really want have anything to do with them...Like i say about Demetria's father,Shes gone be the one you need,so i just sit back,I used to raise hell,and that didn't get me any where,and at the end of the night,i am still momma& daddy
Priscilla - posted on 09/17/2009
i have wondered this same thing.. my man take care of his baby but before i met him an everthing i was wit dis man who neva even seen his own kids except christmas but he was takin care of his ex's kids (they was his stepkids) he did erthang for those kids.. i think men jus feel bad bout not bein there for their own kids an they want to make up for it by takin care of someone elses.. or they jus wanna impress tha momma
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