Jane - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Looking for a bit of advice girls - I'm sure alot of you must have been in this situation. My 3 year old started seeing his father in August. (He has been in his life a couple of times, but never quite managed to sustain regular contact). We spent alot of time together, but I'm sure you'll agree, if daddy hasn't been around from the start, that bond isn't there straight away. I let him spend Christmas with us, which was really nice and my little boy loved having him there. However, a couple of days after Christmas, he visited, and my son ended up very upset - his dad was hard on him, and when he was asking for me, his dad was saying "you're not getting your mummy".... not a great visit and both of them were a bit annoyed. However, I received a text on Hogmanay, saying he'd decided it best to leave seeing my son until he is alot older and understands better that he is his dad. I can't force him to visit him, but I am stuck as to what to say to my 3 year old. He has asked a few times, and so far I've just said that his daddy is busy working. That will only last so long though. Any ideas?