Samantha - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
My son is adopted. I got him when he was 4 months old and met my now husband when he was 6 months old so he has never known any different. He is starting to ask a lot of questions. He is the oldest grandchild on my husbands side but my nephew was born before I was introduced to my husbands family so some comments have slipped out about Jake (my nephew) being the first born grandchild but my son knows he is the oldest (not good). Then he has the lovely realization that me, my husband and my daughter(bio) all have blonde hair and blue eyes and my son has brown hair and brown eyes and is half hispanic. He has been going around making a big deal about the fact that he is "mexican". Here's the kicker....my son is biologically my nephew. This will be good in the sense that he won't have to hunt down his herritage but bad in the sense that I have all the answers to the questions I am so dreading. My sister was/is a drug addict and I will have nothing to do with her but what happens when he's old enough and wants to meet her. I have bought all kinds of books on talking with children about adoption but nothing prepares you and I need to have "the talk" soon. Can anyone relate, has anyone been down this road (or is going down right now). Support is the key!