can anyone help?

Beth - posted on 08/08/2012

Jennifer,

Don't hesitate to email me if you like....it's listed with my profile. :) Beth

Beth - posted on 08/08/2012

Hi Jennifer,

My fiance' went up to ND in April to be apart of a new company. He hasn't been home since as it takes time to feel things out and make connections. They are just now working steady with a company Prostar who seems to do well there. I am hoping my fiance can come home next weekend...fingers crossed. We have had many disappointments when it comes to home time as you can see. Once established you can make good money, but it is at a cost. Meg was right about thinking about a therapist. I am considering one as I have many times fell apart and wonder if I should be with someone else because I am not one who wants to live alone, but then I am giving up someone I love more than anything. Finding a place to live is hard, I would have him look at some of the "Man Camps" there. Google it and it will give you the best idea of what that is all about. My fiance and coworkers have been living out of their trucks...the fields they go to are so far out and remote there isn't any place to stay. The money seems to be worth it to him so I am trying to stick it out.

Please let me know how things go for you and your family. If there is anything I can do to help or if my fiance' can help him out please let me know we are happy to be there.

Beth :)

Meg - posted on 08/01/2012

Has your husband worked in the oil field before? The only advise I have for you is prepare yourself for culture shock! I grew up in rural eastern Montana. North Dakota is not too much different. It can be very very difficult to find friends both because of lack of population and such things as religious views, political views, and interests. If these things are important to you then do yourself a favor and figure out if you can continue living where you want to live and have your husband travel to and from his job and home. Lots of oil field workers have good schedules. Some can even work a month on month off! If he can do this consider yourself lucky. I highly recommend taking care of YOUR needs too. Money is important but it will NOT make you happy. If you have never moved anywhere away from family and friends you might have a difficult time with this move. I wish I could tell you that you and your kids won't get lonely but unfortunately I think it takes a special type of woman to not be bothered by their husbands being gone. My mother-in-law did it for 17 yrs and loved it. However, she was in New Orleans and had an amazing support group. Plus she grew up in the south so there was no culture shock. Oh yeah and she is a non-emotional robot. So if you are like her you might be fine. But if you are like the rest of us oilfield wives/moms you might need to start seeing a therapist. If your husband has had a very difficult time finding a job in this economy then you might have no choice but to suck it up and do it. But you don't necessarily need to move to ND yourself if he can travel.