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Do you feel like your husband/Bf personal assistant sometimes?

Samantha - posted on 09/07/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I am now been with my bf for almost 2 months and I will admit when times are great it is amazing but sometimes I feel over-whelmed like I am his personal assistant. He works crazy hrs sometimes 60-80 hrs a week and it sucks, When he comes home all he wants to do is have a cold drink and relax and sleep. I do not blame him my bf is a frack tech.

I do everything I clean,cook and up keep the house and the bills, Now I have a couple job interviews set up and will be working soon. I do not want to stay at home. I do not have children but I would not mind having something to do when he is away, Plus he is in the middle of a divorce and he is paying the lawyer off and from his lawyer advice. Be on her good side till it is final. I hate her texts so bad she always asking for money for this and that saying it is always for the baby. He is a good father and I respect that about him. I even send her money also from our joint account when he is not able to send any. She knows he has moved on and I am with him. I even bought his daughter a couple gifts that I sent today. I just feel over whelmed but right now he is gone for 8 days and this is day one and I just wish he was sleeping next to me tonight :(

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Kathleen - posted on 10/11/2012

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My husband works in the oil field as well. He is gone ALL the time lol we are talking 30days out 5days home. So with the kind of work he does naturally I take care of the home front so to speak. Its hard work and more often than not a completely thankless job. Most men from what i have heard from other wives are very blind to the effort that it takes to maintain things all on your own. It sounds like he might have gone from having his exwife to take care of things to now having you to maintain his life for him. This is great and all but only if its a job you signed up for. Being that you have only been together for 2 months I can tell you that in the first two months of dating my husband he was in the oilfield but he and i kept bills and living arrangements separate. It gave us more freedom to enjoy dating and getting to know each other rather than jumping into the "wife" duties. As far as his ex-wife txting for money for the baby... its a fact of life for this man. He fathered a child with this women and is doing the honorable thing by taking care of his child's monetary needs. It can be a hard thing to except when the man that you love has a child with someone else and you are now stuck fronting the bill so to speak but you have to keep in mind that he has an obligation to his child and that it was in the picture before you got together. The baby had no choice in this and deserves the best from its father. Best of luck to you!

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