I'm really scared..

Trista - posted on 12/11/2011

He is going to be in vernal/naples... 8 more days!! ahhh. But I found out he should be home for christmas :)

User - posted on 12/06/2011

what city is he going to be in

Sarah - posted on 12/06/2011

That's the other hard thing. No One understands where your coming from! The closes thing to anyone who understands other than this website is military wives. They like to say their life is harder, but its the same maybe our husbands arent' gone for months at a time but some are and there is a huge risk for being severally injured depending on what they're doing. The risk for a service company like Halliburton or Schlumberger is slim compared to those who work in offshore or on a big rig. Look at the BP spill and how many lives were lost there. I believe its dang close to the life of a military wife! I have close friends that know what my husband does but for the most part I keep quiet b/c when something happens with gas prices or the economy or with politcs its the oil and gas' fault! lol People tend to look at you different or judge you like how can we stay with a man whos' never home and what kind of father is he being to your child if he's never home! Just prepare yourselves, I've dealt with quit a bit! lol NO ONE understands this life better than another oilfield wife/mommie! I know no one in this area really that i can talk to and it sucks! My friends that i had said I acted different b/c my husband started making good money and we were able to provide better for our kids and ourselves. I'm the same person I always have been i think they're just jealous or something. I don't know. People that I've known my whole life are the ones that has stuck by me! Maybe its just me but I get the reaction from people that when they find out what my husband does they look at me like i should look different or be wearing clothes off of rodeo drive or something! The only way it gets brought up though is they wanna know what i do for a living I'm a stay at home mom and their automatic reaction is what does your man do? I used to say he works in the oil field but now i just tell them he drives a truck..lol I know it sounds horrible but i hate the reactions i get! I'm not any different that someone working a factory job or retail! Just be ware girls! :)

Trista - posted on 12/06/2011

Oh wow that will be hard if they don't let him come home when they say! You guys are strong women! I hope I adjust as well as you have.It is a lot better knowing that I can talk to somebody if I need to, I dout my family would really understand what it is like. Thanks.

Sarah - posted on 12/06/2011

Your welcome anytime! :)

Kelli - posted on 12/06/2011

Thank u ladies u r all very supportive and sweet! Its just scary bc he's the love of my life my other half and I no I'm g2 miss him sooo much.

Sabrina - posted on 12/05/2011

my husband works for halliburton here in PA. been doing this since . . . 2008 with 2 girls and we are expecting a boy in Febuary. its the same as everyone else has said. its hard and some people believe it isnt worth the money some people are okay with it . with good friends and support i find the weeks he is gone easier to deal with, but i do have my days that it just seems like it isnt worth it. i think of the wonderful things our family has because of his work and he likes the work because he has always been one to work with his hands. you learn to love them mr and more :) and we are all here supporting and encouraging you. my husband use to kid around about coming home and it seemed like a second honeymoon we were all lovie dovie lol. just know we are here and you are not alone.

Sarah - posted on 12/05/2011

You'll be okay, I'm here if you EVER wanna talk..I don't mind to give you my number either if you want. I really think their should be more support groups for us Oil wives like there are for the military. You get used to them being gone and you get into your own routine and find things to keep you distracted and once they're home the first 2 or 3 days is like your honey moon all over again then he kinda gets in the way of you doing your daily stuff and throws you off schedule but its all well worth it. How long is he supposed to be gone for? My husband worked for halliburton in Ar and alot of times (just to warn you) they didn't get to always come home when they were supposed to. Something ALWAYS delayed them coming home on their days and then they had to stay that much longer until their 2 or 3 days came back around. Make sense? Like for instance when my husband worked there he got say Monday and Tuesday off well come those days he couldn't come home the riggs were delayed for some odd reason so he had to wait until monday and tuesday rolled back around before he got his days off..he would be gone for a month at a time with that company before he ever got a day off. Then it was just that A day. Just prepare yourselves he may only get to come home one day a month...things happen that's out of peoples hands and can't be controlled. Its hard but you learn to deal with it. It gets easier too. My husband worked out in PA for 2 weeks then would come home and work 2 weeks but be gone out of state for 2 or 3 days then come home and go out again so he never really had a steady schedule. The first week he was gone in PA was so depressing but the second week went by fast b/c i knew he was getting to come home soon! (that was with a different company) Let me know if you have any questions or just wanna talk..look me up on facebook if you'd like! :)

Kelli - posted on 12/04/2011

Ya I think I'm goin to cry a lot too! How is it when he's home?

Trista - posted on 12/04/2011

Thank you! He will be working for Halliburton in Vernal Ut. We plan to move there in april once I am finished with my associates degree. but for now it will just be him going . I am scared for him, it can be a dangerous job so thank you for the tip about not distracting him. I have not thought about it that way. I know we will not have to worry about bills but it will be really hard with him gone... So I just have to share, we had a pretty corny but sweet moment last night. I was worrying about this again, practically crying because his start date is so close. I told him that half of my heart would be gone because he wouldn't be here. He told me that he will be leaving his whole heart home because he will be away from me and our 2 year old daughter. That made me feel so bad because i didnt realize how hard it will be for him as well. (i know kind of selfish but i for sure realize it now).

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2011

Girls I've been an oilfield wife since 2007 and it is tough!! I still cry, but I'm not crying b/c i can't pay my bills or stressed out b/c collection agents are calling harrassing us! I cry b/c we miss our daddy/husband! That part of it is hard. You have to remember and be STRONG for them otherwise it makes it harder on them. I've learned and have to remember that it is just as big of a sacrafice for them to be gone away from us as it is for us to be away from him! You basically do whatever you can to keep him focused on his job and not on anything else, you don't want his mind somewhere else while he's out and take a chance on him getting hurt! Its hard i know, I want to call my husband and grip about the kids and how they're actin up in stores and stuff but you can't..least not til he gets home. You gotta tell him your fine when your really crying yourself to sleep! My husband found out i was pregnant while he was out b/c i couldn't wait til he was home. I did make sure he wasn't working though and he found out the sex of our baby while he was away. It was the worse time ever for me! He did manage to make it home though for the birth! :) I have 3 children under the age of 7 and its hard but its a scarafice he has to make so that i can stay home with the kids and not have to put them in daycare and worry about whos doing what to them. I'm here if you guys need anything! Where do you live and who is he working for?
Is this his first oil/rig job?

Trista - posted on 12/04/2011

That is what I wonder. No matter what we are stuck for a year with this job. I have a feeling I am going to be crying a lot.

Kelli - posted on 12/04/2011

I'm in the exact same place, were doing this to better our lifes but its scary. Is it g2 b worth being without him??I ask myself that everyday it comes closer