My husband has been home for 3 months and is driving me crazy!

Janet - posted on 10/07/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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We live in Canada but my husband works on oil rigs mostly in the UK but also has worked in many other places in the world. I am so used to him leaving that now when he's home for a longer period of time than normal, I go crazy. He has been out of work for 3 months and he is up all night and sleeps all day and does nothing around the house. He says it's because he is so used to working nights that he finds it hard to get his body back to a normal schedule. We have a 17 month old son and sometimes I think he is just making excuses because he doesn't want to help out with anything. He loves our son and plays with him, but he just becomes a lazy lump when he's home. Has anyone else experienced this?

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Hdlb123 - posted on 12/31/2009

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Wow, 3 months, I have a hard time with 5 days in a row. I couldnt do month, I'd go insane. I love my husband, but he throws off our schedule when hes home.



And as to the sleeping all day and up all night thing...tell him to suck it up. He can take a day or two and get his body readjusted to being up during the day and sleeping during the night. 3 months is a long time to be using that excuse.

Brieana - posted on 10/25/2009

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I love this conversation. Lol. My hubby was a toolpusher, and I would only see him when I would drive out to the rig. He really couldnt ever leave location, and didn't have a relief pusher (small company). When he worked real far away, we would visit him on breaks, like spring break, etc. Summer vacation we would live in motels with him. I actually enjoyed the traveling and he was always at location. He was laid off 14 months ago, and found a job 13 months ago that has him home every night and weekends. Obviously with the pay cut and extra laundry I'm not thrilled. That sounds horrible, I know. I love him very much, but he needs to go drill in ND or something (we live in ok where it's not booming right now). And yes I tell him that too. Lol. It's actually gotten easier, for those of you wondering if it will. Glad I'm not the only one that enjoys the hubby being away for work.

Kathy - posted on 10/23/2009

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My husband drives me nuts too...and now while he has been laid off for 3 months he has had an unfortunate basketball accident and has to have surgery to repair his ankle. So not only is he off but he cant do anything at all and he loves to tell me what and how i should be doing everything like he's my supervisor or something! Actually, I have to clarify, when he has two good legs he's a better housewife than I am. I work full time too and when I get home after work and dealing with dinner, homework, baths etc. frankly i'm just too damned tired to really care if there are a couple of toys on the floor or a left over ice cream bowl in the sink! When he can he helps a lot but it's really tough on him and us because the money is tight and he feels helpless now...I think things are all around better when he's on the road too....hope his leg heals and the work picks up soon!

Crystal - posted on 10/22/2009

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Ha, My husbands been home since January and still hasn't fixed or finished any projects that he started while he was working! But he still manages to find time for all his football games and play on the internet!

Tonya - posted on 10/21/2009

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My husband has worked in the oilfield most of our married life (27 years). I think the hardest part about him being home this time is the money cut, we have lost 1 car, about to lose our house, and we are only paying the bills we have to to survive. Yes, he drives me nuts but I think alot of that comes from him and I worrying so much about the bills. He will be going to work in PA soon. I can't wait. I'm tired of worrying.

Nicole - posted on 10/12/2009

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Yes I have!!!! My husband was out of work for 6 months and OMG!!! I work too, so while he is gone I worked, take care of the house, kids (3 of them) and there sports. When he was laid off getting to help was an arguement.... But now that he is back working, I enjoy him gone. I feel it's better with him being gone and me taking care of all this by myself, then him being here doing it by myself. We would get in arguements about all that I do and I'd ask him when do I get my weeks off or even a day off. But his reply was "when you start working on a rig". So you are not the only, I feel for you!! I hope he gets a back in the field!!!

Casandra - posted on 10/12/2009

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Good news! Things are supposed to be picking up. My husband has been off for about 4 months and will be back at work come November...sometimes I cant wait for him to go back, but most times I just enjoy the time with him cuz I know when he does go back it'll be months before he has a day off again. Just tell you man that you need some help, I did and he was like O ok, I had no idea. They dont pick up on hints very good, so just be blunt and straight forward. If that doesnt work go on strike! lol!

Leta - posted on 10/09/2009

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Yes! I feel the same way! My husbands works 14&14's. & those 2weeks thats he's home-drives me crazy!! He throws everything off-the house is always a wreck! Really? You can't just help me out a little bit?? Does anyone count down the days until they leave? Because sometimes i do!! We love them but can't stand them sometimes! LOL!

Crystal - posted on 10/09/2009

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You ladies are not alone!! I feel the same way. My husband works for schlumberger and even though I hate seeing him so tired and sore working long hours and days, when he is home he drives me NUTS!!! I love him but he can be such a pain in the ass!

Jennafer - posted on 10/08/2009

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oh your not alone. my husband helps in a man kind of way. and i'm so ocd that i have to just go behind him or treat him like my 10 year old and tell him how to do everything, which drives us both crazy. can't wait for the 26 th which comes with yet another big move(Texas to New York). but he will be working and out of my house. This is my 2nd marriage to a oilfield man guess i like my alone time ha ha.

Merri - posted on 10/08/2009

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Oh wow, I thought I was the only one that felt this way! My husband has been home about 3 months now too, and it is driving me crazy. I am so used to having things done a certain way around here, and when he is home it throws everything off. He is up all night, then falls asleep in the recliner in the living room, to where we hear him snore all day. He does help out, which of course is most welcomed, but he is still making me crazy!!! I am just glad to know I am not the only one that feels this way. I thought that there was something wrong with me for feeling like this.

Jennafer - posted on 10/08/2009

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Yes!!!! My husband was laidoff after working in the oilfield for 12 years ( so there where times we did'nt see him for months). I use to cry to him that he loved his job more than us, never again will I cry. He has been home for 3 months, I don't think he was ever off for 3 days in the past. He is going back to work on the 26 I can't wait! I love the man but looking at him on the couch all day watching sports center is driving me crazy.I have 3 kids but wow he is more work and more needing than all 3 put together. Hang in there there r others out there that feel the same way.

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