Offshore

Sarah - posted on 11/13/2008 ( 115 moms have responded )

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Hey! I am new. Just wondering if there are any offshore wives on here? My husband has done both offshore and land rigs. He's been back offshore for 8 years now. I'm 31 (almost 32...shhh!!) and have two kids ages 14 and 7 - boy and girl. I have been an oilfield wife for 14 years and our schedule has been everything from home every night and most weekends to home only on weekends, and now 14/14. We are in Louisiana (USA) and it's good to connect with other moms who know the joys and sorrows of the oilfield. I would love to get to know all of you. Hope everyone has a good week/weekend!!

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Demetrish - posted on 06/29/2013

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I met a man online and we immediately fell in love. He was already working offshore when we met and we had chance to spend some time together until he had to go back to work. He works 28 days on and 14 days off. He has no kids but adores my 16 year old as his own. I have thought of so many ways to communicate with him but most of the time I am unable to do so. This frustrates me because we just met and I don't want to miss but I do so much. I speak with him if he gets a signal which is not many times but I text him all through the day with hopes that he will get one of them. I also write in a journal everyday we are apart. It's like my love letters to him so he will know everything that was on my mind everyday we were apart. I am in Mississippi.

Tiffany - posted on 09/27/2013

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I recently began dating an off shore worker out if Houston. I really feel like he is the one for me but my fear of being lied to haunts me. He was gone fir 2 mths and we talked occasionly he call from satelit phone ir use tango on computer but he came home for a weekend and left again and communicate has been zero he says ni internet or cell usage and he is working 12 or 16 hr midnight shift is this normal am i being paranoid for no reason this is soo hard

Stacey - posted on 05/17/2013

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My husband just accepted a job working away from home(and across the country) on a vessel, details are still fuzzy but it seems as though for the first 3 months he will be gone. He will then be home for a few weeks & then gone again. Looking for moms in similar situations, also, has any had a baby while the hubby is working offshore? We have been planning on having another in the next year & Im not sure if I want to wait because I believe this job will be around for a while. Are there any type of groups out there for all us moms?

Kelly - posted on 03/01/2012

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My husband has been working in the Gulf for many years now; it sucks having him gone for 28 days, but the time he is home is great! He works out of Louisiana/Texas and awhile back worked out of Mexico. We look at some of our friends who have the "normal" lifestyle and we think we are the happiest of our friends. We just value our time together more, and thankfully my husband is good about communicating and taking over alot of the responsibilities I have when he gets home.

Julie - posted on 11/14/2013

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Hi Stacey, there is a new website just launched this weekend called rigbaby.co.uk Its for offshore or oil and gas workers and their wives. Hope this helps!

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Eileen - posted on 07/16/2014

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Christine - posted on 03/22/2014

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I am new here and in need of advice and support. I have been dating a guy who works offshore. We started chatting when he was offshore for more than a month. I lived in Singapore and he lives in Malaysia, when he is off work, I visited him and we had a great time together. Then it was time for him to work again. He is onboard 3 weeks now, This is the first time I actually feel his absence, I am not sure if I can handle this relationship, the missing him part is such a challenge and sometimes there's no signal and many hiccups that I didnt expect. Please advise.

Shakira - posted on 02/27/2014

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Any page for offshore wives im d same here hello sarah hello all is gr8 to communicate our way of living

Courtney - posted on 02/04/2014

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Im new to the mommy see, I just had a baby almost two weeks ago. My fiance was called back to work and I feel like sometimes I'm by myself. Knowing that you cant really leave the house with the baby all the time unless going to and appointment. I just wanna cry most of the time because he is not here I know he is working for us to be able to get a house, but sometimes he works 28 days on 2 weeks off or two weeks on two weeks off. I was ok with it before when I was pregnant, because I had my families help with anything I needed. I still have thier help but the only thing they cant give me is the spousal support from my fiance, because I never had to go through this before this is my first child and since his gone back offshore how deal with him being gone and taking care of a newborn?

Monica - posted on 01/20/2014

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my fiance wants to work on an oil rig but cant be contacted by email. cell phone only. any ideas what he should do. send me an email to anthronia1@gmail.com. thanks

Sarah - posted on 12/16/2013

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Hey Nisha! It depends on the company policy and how strictly it's enforced. My Freaky's rig in the gulf had a policy of 15 min at a time. If there aren't a lot of people waiting then it's not a big deal. Now that he's overseas there isn't a lot of competition for the phones like in the gulf so he can pretty much stay on as long as he wants. He should also be able to call back later after it thins out if y'all wanna talk some more. :)

Nisha - posted on 12/09/2013

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Hey i am new my husband leaves for offshore next week I have been married 10 years and we havent been apart for more than a week I have heard I can only talk to him 5 min a day I dont know how i am going to do this how does everyone else do it

Roxie - posted on 10/13/2013

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I am not a mommy but my Boyfriend and I just moved in together across town from where we both use to live... We now live on HWY 6 in copperfield which is in huoston. He works 3 weeks on 3 off, and the first day we moved in together he stayed for 3 weeks was gone 4 came home for 2 he is laving for 4 and coming home for 1 week... then he will go back to his 3 on 3 off, but I have moved an hour from all friends and family and i am all by myself. I am dealing with being super depressed lately because usually when he left i would be busy with my friends and family and my photography on the side, but now i have nothing to keep me busy and its driving me up the wall. the other thing is since i have more time i try to talk to him more but as you all know they work long hours and when he gets off he wants to relax so we are having trouble connecting while he is gone. Any advice? He isnt much of a talker and he doesnt like to talk on the phone or talk when someone else is in the room. it is really hard. Looking for new friends around this area too to keep me busy... maybe start a bunko club or just get together and have a glass of wine. God know we all need that! LOL

Rachael - posted on 09/20/2013

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Hi carol, I'm only 45 minutes from you heading south on 49. My husband is a truck driver, comparable to offshore, and I'm on Facebook if you want to add me.

Maria - posted on 09/16/2013

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Hello my name is Maria, Im currently living here in the UK coz my husband is British. He works offshore as well, 28 dAys work 28 days off. its driving me insane for the fact that he doesnt even have enough time to talk to me on the phone. He keeps on saying thatnhes earning a good money, But I really feel that Im loosing him as my husband. We have been married for 6 yrs he started his offshore job last 2010. Its hard enough that I dont drive, but its also a lot harder that when he s at home he is physically here, but his mind is not here... Its like his mind is floating in the middle of nowhere. When I tell him about I feel everytime he calls,,, he just throw everything to my face by putting all the negative things to me. he only have few minutes on the phone to speak to me. No skype or YM as its not allowed in the vessel. When theres no phone cgnal, i put up with the irritating intermet connection they have. But aside from that,, everytime we talk on the phone, we dont have anything to talk about,,, if there is,,, if I tell him something,, he gets mad or refuse to say something. I do feel that his job offshore is having a negative impact to my family... And its not helping at all! Anyone who can give me some advice? I cant work either because I have no one to look after my 3 year old girl. Though she goes to school but its very limited to find a part time job to fit her school hours..PLS HELP!

Tanie - posted on 08/30/2013

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oh my im so happy I found this site..im not a wife as yet but im going to start a serious relationship with an offshore guy...I am from the Caribbean and he is from the UK...he works in Caribbean waters with 6 months offshore and 6 months on land...but he has to split up his time to be in my country and still go home to the UK...hopefully I will not be overwhelmed and we would have a family one day....

Michelle - posted on 08/30/2013

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Dear Andy M. I was so sad to read your post. This kind of thing can happen a lot because they are very isolated out there and they crave being with people when they get back home. Still, that really doesn't excuse his behaviour inexcluding you from everything. You and his child should be his first priority and unfortunately it is obvious that you are not. It is a tough situation but it's not going to change unless HE wants to. I went through a similar experience although my husband has never told me that he did not hink of me or miss the way it used to be. My advice to you is to try talking to him calmly and logically (when he is sober) and then try see whether he still wants to be married. You don't want to be wasting you life, missing him while he is gone and then to be treated like that when he is home. I know it is difficult but try thinking with your head and not your heart when you are talking about everything. I wish you the best of luck. I know it's a tough situation but you must do what is best for you and your child.

Shelby - posted on 08/14/2013

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I live on the MS Gulf Coast. My son will be two in October. DH works 28/14 out of Louisiana.

Andy - posted on 08/05/2013

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Hey guys. I'm a new mom... I have a 3month old and a hubby that works offshore.... Usually 14/14 or 14 days on, 7 days off. I'm here because I really feel I need some advise and from a mother/wife that can understand my lifestyle. I have known my husband for 10 years now and we've been married just a year now after being together for 4. I feel like after having my baby grl it has all gone downhill from there. I feel as though I've had to change so much and all the conversations we've had prior to me getting pregnant means nothing. We both had expectations and I feel I have fulfilled mine. I'm a loyal wife nd mother... I've given my life, my body and my sanity to my new family.
So here's one of the issues. He comes from offshore and immediately begins to make plans to go out with his buddies... And this happens for the majority of his stay. He tells me I'm supposed to kno that he has been offshore and needs to relax and see his friends. I try to compromise with him and understand his needs, but at the same time I wish he would see how much I need his help and support right now. My mother passed away 4 years ago and I'm essentially doing this on my own. But since I've had the baby our relationship isn't the same... I afraid he's no longer interested in me!!!
We no longer hav an intimate life.... No kissing, no hugs... NOTHING.. unless i initiate it. And its hard enough mustering the energy to take care of my LO and physically as well as verbally, let him know i think he is as handsome and irresistible as the first day i met him.
I try to communicate wit him and verbalize my issues but I feel like I'm always having to talk and I don't wana be a nag. But at the end of the day how much time does an offshore wife get to share and express the important issues in our relationship???
He goes off with his friends and I don't hear from him... He comes home drunk enough times to piss me off and I'm here wondering what I got myself into.
Everything he does now is what we use to do TOGETHER. Now he does it all without me while I'm at home with my new nasty post pregnancy body and he is out doing god knows what. I don't feel good about myself and there is nothing he says or does that makes me feel any better.
HOW do i balance our relationship with our lifestyle. What expectations should I have? I know he loves me but I feel like he isn't in love anymore. I feel like he is settling for what he has (me) and sooner or later he is going to dispose of me... I've served my function and being with me is no longer fun or exciting... my function is finished.

I asked him if he ever misses me when he's out doing all the things we used to do together.... His reply was a shake of his head indicating a heartbreaking 'No'
He loves music and use to serenade me (although he is a terrible singer lol).. But it use to melt my heart none the less. I asked "do u still think of me wen you hear these love songs"..... His reply was "no not really, sometimes I may get a flashback".
Maybe I'm going totally crazy but this isn't who we use to be.... I feel like after leaving that hospital and gaining my little bundle of joy I lost my husband.
Am I supposed to expect my husband to stay home and support me more than he goes out? Or am I wanting too much? Am I on the way to loosing my marriage slowly but surely?

But it sits in my stomach, this feeling of total rejection and isolation and loneliness...

Katja - posted on 06/12/2013

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Hey...we are in Louisiana and my husband works 14/14 and its driving me nuts especially when he gets home and my schedule is all messed up and the worse part is that he does not care... I have 5 kids (4years old, 3years old, 19months and twins 1 month old) and I need a schedule or I will get crazy...I try to talk to hem but he gets offended and do not want to talk to me at all...he rather goes to he's parents house which unfortunately they are our neighbors...I know some of you going to say I am nuts to think that about he's parents but u know what when they would be walking in your house without knocking or even when you try to have a nap with your kids and they are banging on the door you would know how I feel...Its not just them its the whole family (he has 7 sisters and a brother) and they do the same thing...so after the twins were born I need to put the sign on the door and lock the house that I can breast feed in peace and even that is not enough sometimes...The worse part is that all my family is overseas and I wish I would be there but then I think that our family would fall apart, but should I be unhappy all my life???

Sonya - posted on 06/07/2013

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Hi ladies, I am new to this group my husband works offshore. I work as well so I'm really not lonely or bored. I just love to talk to him because he's my best friend and motivation when I have an issue with something. We have a 4 and 11 year old boys. They keep me busy and there is never a dull moment. So surprised to see a blog like this one and I'm interested in keeping in touch. Especially with the ladies in Houston. I'm on Facebook as well.

Elisa - posted on 06/07/2013

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i have been dating a great guy for the last 6 months who works off shore. he works 4 weeks and then is home for two weeks. We currently live together and have talked about marriage. i live in Long Beach, MS and boyfriend works off shore off coast of Louisiana. Anyone else from my area? I am a single mom with one teenage son age 14 about to be 15. Would love support group mainly for weekends as i work full time in the Navy.

Jessi - posted on 06/04/2013

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I am 25 with a almost 3 yr old. Her dad has been working as a rig builder for the past year and has only been home for 3 weeks in the past 4 months :( me and addie are very lonely..We live in the small town of smithville tx and have been here a year and we have no friends at all. I am having a really hard time being lonely and i have no one to talk to except when hubby calls once a day..I have family that lives 45 min away but they talk to me when they feel like it and NEVER come to me i always have to go to them..Im just looking for some body to talk to..going crazy over here

America - posted on 05/10/2013

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Hi im new here. My husband just started offshore, I'm 28 i have a 6yr old daughter and a i'm expecting now and due in November. I've never been away from him more then the weekend and with this being his first child i'm scared, nervous, and very emotional! If anyone has any suggestions or advice i would love to hear them! Thanks!

Brea - posted on 04/24/2013

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Anyone in Houston area? Add me on facebook Brea Anne. Breaanne@hotmail.com. My fiance works in iraq 8 weeks on 4 off. I really need to find some women in the same boat to talk to and get advice and insight. Anyone available?

Carol - posted on 04/15/2013

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Lindsay, I am in Hineston La. which is between Alexandria and Leesville in the country. I go to Alexandria/ Pineville area all the time.

Sandra - posted on 04/14/2013

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Hi! I'm new here. My husband has just started working offshore this month, 28/14. I am a 33 year old stay at home mom to our 5 month old daughter and step-mom to 3 boys and a girl. We live in south Louisiana and it looks like there are a lot of other moms from this area. Looking for any tips on how to pass the time until hubby gets home and how to keep the kids busy too. Thanks in advance for the advice ladies!

Amy - posted on 04/13/2013

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:( I can imagine ... and yes I think a reality show would do just fine lol but for now youtube...

Christine - posted on 04/13/2013

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We need our own reality show, because we have very interesting lives....my husband works 30/30, so by week 3, I am sooo lonely and missing him. When he was gone for 2 months, I was pulling out my hair and going broke shopping...LOL

Christine - posted on 04/13/2013

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Hello, my name is Christine and my husband and I have been married 4 years. He works 100 miles off the coast of South Africa. Life can be very lonely at home. I have a 17 year old that keeps me busy and we are in the process of adoption-in the waiting period. I am soooo happy to find a blog of other related sisters per se.

Amy - posted on 04/13/2013

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I live in Alexandria its about an hour and half... but will be dropping my husband in Laf...

Amy - posted on 04/13/2013

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My husband is about to start an offshore job for the first time. We are married now 5 years and I have always had him home where he just goes to work and comes home... But then we moved to Louisiana last year and he was laid off now he is hired with a company that he will be gone 2 wks home 2 wks. I know its a great opportunity I just know it will be so different specially with our 3 year old son and our new baby due in July. I am nervous a nd exited all at the same time.

Kaity - posted on 01/16/2013

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So glad I ran across this page. I have been an oilfield wife/girlfriend for 6 years and these past few hitches seem to be the hardest. I am a stay at home mom for 7 days my boyfriend is gone and the other 7 I am by myself. I'm an hour away from my family and not any friends where we live now. Anyone have any ideas of things to stay busy?

Amber - posted on 01/14/2013

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Hi Amelia. My husband works offshore for Franks Casing Crew. We live in Lafayette with our 1 year old daughter. I am not on Facebook which is starting to look like I need one but you're welcome to email me anytime at amber.prudhomme11@yahoo.com.

Tiffany - posted on 01/14/2013

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Hi Amelia, my hubby works for Baker Hughes out of Broussard too. We live in Madisonville. If you wanna look me up on fb it's Tiffany Bell :) we have a 3 month old baby girl so I understand what you're going through :)

Amelia - posted on 01/14/2013

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Hi there! I haven't gotten on circle of moms in forever but I just moved to Lafayette and I'm trying to meet new friends. My husband works for Baker Hughes. He used to be in the navy but I've never had him go offshore. And now with a 1 and a 2 year old its going to get pretty interesting. I'd really like to make some new friends and have a support system. I noticed a few posts from Lafayette. Feel free to look me up on fb! Just tell me who you are, ha ha! :)

Olga - posted on 01/09/2013

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Hello ladies, I am new too... I just saw this site....oh wow you guys are very lucky that they come home often... here up in canada my husband works on land rigs, and sometimes he is gone for 2-3 months at a time... where we can barely sneek in a skype call or phone call.

Amber - posted on 01/07/2013

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Hi Ashley! I really haven't been on here in a while so I'm pretty late responding but I too live in Lafayette and my husband is also an offshore worker. I know exactly what you're talking about with the friend situation. We are originally from Lake Charles but we have been here for almost 6 years. I went to ULL and started a life here so I am pretty familiar with things around here. Feel free to message me here or you can always email me at amber.prudhomme11@yahoo.com. Talk to you soon.

Amber

Kimberly - posted on 01/06/2013

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hi i would like to find out if any offshore wives are stay at home moms and what do you do with the time? im a mother of 3 and my husband works 14/14 and its hard for me to work a job with three kids and no family or friends around to help. any advice?

Amy - posted on 01/02/2013

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Hey Sarah i am new too. I have two kids a boy and girl 6 and 2. My husband has been offshore for 5 years and he is 7/7. We live in Alabama.

Ashley - posted on 11/28/2012

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Anyone live in Lafayette area?? I just moved here from Texas, and it's been harder than i thought it would be making friends here... especially friends who understand why you disappear for weeks at a time when hubby gets home...lol

Tiffany - posted on 11/12/2012

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Carol we live in Madisonville, LA. Hubby's office is based in Lafayette but he goes out of Fourchon and Galliano mostly. You?

Carol - posted on 11/12/2012

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Sarah, I am right out of Alexandria, You can find me on facebook https://www.facebook.com/carol.watts.313.

Tiffany - posted on 11/12/2012

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I'm an offshore wife and have been since I met my hubby 4.5 years ago. We have a 5 week old daughter. He currently is in the Gulf, on call for 6 weeks and home for 10 days. Just looking to meet some wives that are offshore wives too, to relate to. It's a different ball game now that we have a baby!

Carol - posted on 11/02/2012

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Tammy, mine works for Nabors. He has been out there for years. He is a crane operator for them

Carol - posted on 11/02/2012

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Tawny Coulter ,What part of Louisisna are you located. I am in Louisiana my hubby works offshore

Calli - posted on 10/09/2012

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Hi..I googled offshore support groups and came across this.... Im an Offshore girlfriend( more like housewife lol) for going on 3 years and I hate it !!! I moved 820 miles( Illinois to Southern Louisisana) away from my family and friends, to spend more time with my boyfriend, you would think after 2 1/2 years dealing with him coming and going id get use to it, thats not true. I get homesick, because I hardly have friends down here and my boyfriend doesnt understand how i feel. He will even go weeks without getting ahold of me when I know he can call me, It drives me nuts!!! Hope everybody is having a great week :-) !!!

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