Sarah - posted on 06/14/2009
my husband has worked oilfield the whole time we have been together. (16 years now). my kids are used to it and so am I but it seems like anything that can go wrong will... when he's gone. The kids and/or I get sick when he's gone. he gets sick when he's home. I sprained my ankle really bad a couple years ago - when he was gone! It's really hard sometimes, but our favorite reminder to ourselves (him too) is this: where else can you make this kind of money and only work 6 months out of the year? It leaves time to do what we want. I know not everyone has a steady schedule, but that's our big thing to remind ourselves that it could be worse. not the best help maybe, but just know that I (as well as the other wives here) understand the trials and tribulations of the oilfield wife. :) Hope you had a great weekend!
Gina - posted on 12/21/2008
shelia I agree with what you said, I have 3 chldren 7 and 3 year old twins and I too have early bedtime, they go to bed at 7:00 and watch tv until 9 quietly and that is my time to decompress and get my stuff done in quiet, some days I am counting down to bedtime, it is stressful and tiring but when he is home it is great and he is a huge help, usually week 2 and 3 are good, he is in my routine and we are working togther, week 1 he is in my way and week 4 is upsetting cause I know he is leaving me soon, but I cope.
Michelle - posted on 11/10/2008
I totally agree. kids r asleep at 8:30 with or with out him home. Talking on the computer all the time.. and when he's home, having a great time too. Especially when I'm getting spoiled. It's about time. I need the break, while he's home, he helps cook & clean and takes care of kids, age 3 & 10 both boys 2 cats 1 dog we take turns. We do buisness. Team Work. Love. Responsibilitys. Trust.charish. So what if I can't spell. I also have epilepsy, alot of supports, and were happy together as a family. Enjoy the time alone, with him it's much better.
Ellen - posted on 11/06/2008
I agree with you guys, I feel like a single parent, get into my own routine - and then when hubby comes home we all have to re-adjust! The first day is usually good, but the second and third can be tough, the next few days are usually pretty good, the last day sucks cuz you know he's leaving and then he's gone again! Sheila, that's so good that you have MADE that time for yourself! We have to take breaks too as moms, and get our own stuff done! and actually have the house quiet :) Anything to keep us sane, cuz if we loose it - no one else is around to pick up the slack :)
Sheila - posted on 11/03/2008
I hear you. Our kids are 5, 6 and 9 and most days I feel like a single parent. My husband works on the service and completions side of the business and there has never been a schedule and it is sooo FRUSTRATING! And then when he is home, it throws our schedule in a tizzy and you never know how long he's even going to be home!! One of the best decisions I ever made for myself was EARY BEDTIME!!! If I don't have him around to help me all day or to pick up any slack, at least the kids can go to their rooms and have quiet time before they go to sleep. This is SERIOUS at our house. 7:30 is quiet and lights out. period. end of story. Then I can finish up what I need to do without interruptions and have some quiet time to myself. We don't have family support as we live far away from them, so this has been my salvation. But I completely understand where you are coming from, and I don't even have a toddler to chase after anymore. It does get easier as they get older and more independent, though. Sort of. Until hockey... or soccer.... or swimming...
Wendy - posted on 11/02/2008
As your kids get older it's easier to get into your own routine... then he cramps your style when he is home!
I enjoy the time to myself. It makes the time with him sweeter. I think couples who are always together, always same routine... sometimes it's easier to take each other for granted.
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