Marlene - posted on 02/02/2009 ( 52 moms have responded )
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Just curious, I wanna know what they have for entertainment or to socialize, I know mine plays card games...I would go crazy! Do they tell you all the details of their life away from home?? My husband wants to know everything about us, but I've been doing so much talking I never thought to ask him what he does all the time! ha ha
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Coralee - posted on 04/05/2010
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When my husband is away he usually works very late, has tons of paper work. I do know he gets the TV to himself and quiet time to read.
Coralee - posted on 04/05/2010
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oops responded to the wrong question
Coralee - posted on 04/05/2010
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I work with an International Inc 500 Wellness Company - I help other moms earn and income from home - www.workathomeunited.com/fhhc
I retired from Interior design after our 4 big move with my husbands work, needing to add to our income and allow us to pay off all our debt including our house I went looking for something that would allow me to work around my husband being out of town and the kids ...oh and the moving. It has been the best 5 years of my life :-)
Diana - posted on 04/02/2010
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It sounds like most of the hubby's do alot of the same things. Mine works a "12+" hr shift--when he gets up early enough ; he will try to go visit our grandsons and do his grocery shopping - grab something to eat. Sometimes I get a little jealous cuz he is gets to see the boys more than me but I know he needs some down time away from the rig so it is really okay. LOL-- He likes to play card games w/his $500.00 "deck" of cards. I am very lucky that he calls me everyday/or night--his last words everytime--"luv you" I am a very lucky woman.
Jessica - posted on 03/31/2010
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Wow, Katie! How does your husband have energy to work out after a whole day at work?! I wish I had that energy, I could really use it!...My husband does laundry and then goes to dinner then calls me and the kids on Skype. Sounds boring but it works for us and cuts down on the drama we had before when he would go to the bar LOL.
Katie - posted on 03/31/2010
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My husband got a gym membership and works out with his crew every night after work.
Sarah - posted on 03/31/2010
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Like most of your husbands/boyfriends My boyfriend Rich also works 14-18 hour days. Although there is the odd evening when he goes to the pub that is located in camp, he is usually too tierd to do anything! After he eats dinner he showers, calls home tells us he loves us (Layla and I) and goes to bed! I think there is a lot of wemon who take for granted the kind of work these men are doing, They work very hard! It must be so hard for them to be away from there children and wives. I know Rich is struggling a little right now, Layla is ony 3 1/2 weeks old he saw her for two days after she was born and went back to work. I love him for what he does and for supporting our family. As Jennifer said above there are some asses out there who would cheat on there spouses, but every relationship is different, as for me and Rich we trust each other!
Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2010
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I have read through some of the other replies and I understand how some men can act, but just want to assure some of you that I know some very strong, FAITHFUL men who work on these crews. My husband works on a land rig that is usually close to our home and MOST of the guys who work with him come over just to get away from work. I take food to them on location and am there frequently, so I do hear, see, and know more than a lot of women in these relationships. They talk about missing their wives or girlfriends and their children, and yes, even their mommas. There are some idiots in every crew, but you can't judge them all based on 1 or 2 guys' behaviour. After all, would we want them to assusme that just because a certain woman was cheating, we all are? I trust my husband... and believe that it is sad how many people think that is wrong.
Kali - posted on 03/26/2010
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My husband is a mudlogger and he is currently workingin oklahoma which is one man mudlogging crews so he has to work 24 hours a day stuck in a little bitty travel trailer BY HIMSELF for 2 to 3 weeks at a time. I feel sorry for him because all he has is the internet and tv...he doesn't get very good signal so when we talk we talk online mostly. He is always telling me about everything that goes on with the boys who are drilling. I have heard some CRAZY stories about the women that come out to the rig, I think a lot of things happen that they don't tell their girlfriends/wives (I guess I would just rather not know) when they are away because when you get a bunch of guys together by themselves for weeks a time no telling what they will do! I am just glad I can trust my husband and a part of me is glad that he can only leave the rig to run to the grocery store and has to go right back.
Connie - posted on 03/26/2010
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I have read every one of your storys and if you all think that ur husbands er boyfriends jus eat, shower, watch a lil tv, n then go ta bed......ur men have ya all fooled! I know this is what youd like ta believe but i stay with my boyfriend atleast one weekend outta every month ta month and a half and ive seen 1st hand what the guys do after work. As soon as they get outta work, they unload er get ready for the next day n then head straight to the bar and act like they are single men with noone waitin fer them at home. The shower n eatin comes after the drinkin n actin like assholes! Id like ta believe that 'Mine' dont act like that when im not around but i aint no fool. Its like what you dont know wont hurt ya, but really deep down inside,,,,,You know!!
Cassie - posted on 12/08/2009
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My husband works about 14 to 15 hours and when he get's off he eats, calls home to say goodnight and tells us he loves us and goes to bed to start the day all over again.
Christi - posted on 12/07/2009
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Quoting Tellisa:
To tell you the truth Marlene..I'd rather not know. Might sound terrible..but sometimes when I call him hes sitting in a loud restaurant/bar...I hear people laughing..it bugs me. So if he goes out to eat with the other guys..or whatever..I dont want to know!! A few times hes been able to go to NHL games in Dallas...that kinda erked me too...but then I think about the concerts Ive gone too..and I guess it all evens itself out!!! Most of the time hes sooo tired anyway..he can barely get back to his room..shower..call me and then its ZZZZZ time. Sometimes we forget the long days...12 hours of working..not to mention some of them have over an hour drive each way to the rig....and my husbands not a spring chicken anymore..he needs the little bit of sleep he can get!! I know the young guys like to go out and hit the strippers(Yes..my husband does tell me everything the other guys are doing) and get drunk...but they are young..and living the riggers life!! I have to remind my husband of that sometimes...he gets mad when they are out all night drinking. I tell him they are young guys and thats what they do..lol!!!
Lol... You are the 1st one that has said anything about going to bars, strippers, loud restauants, so on so on.... I have 15 years of being a oildfield wife. And let me tell ya i've been there, seen that, done that, and kicked alittle butt inbetween, lol... The old saying " what u dont know won't hurt" well, until you find out...
Shasta - posted on 12/06/2009
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My husband gets off at 6pm, paperwork, safety meeting, eats, showers, and then gets on the computer with my son and I around 7:30pm. Sometimes we talk to 10 or 11!! Then I reckon he goes to sleep, lol!
Caroline - posted on 10/28/2009
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my husband plays W>O>W after work. he can play for hours. His boss also plays
Tahnee - posted on 09/09/2009
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my husband worksk on the gas rigs, they stay in a camp and as far as i know after work a majority af them stay up till the wee hrs of the morning getting piss drunk. kinda dumb but what ever
Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2009
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Usually after doing his paperwork, and the safety meeting, my husband will usually just shower, eat and be ready for a quick bit of conversation before passing out. He works a minimum 12 hr shift so he is ready for bed, no funny business.
Kellie - posted on 07/19/2009
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My man is working in west virginia directional drilling, he is so bored there he gets to the camper showers plays around on the computer calls home 2-3 times before bed and does the same thing over and over till its time to come home. he does have an few beers with his buddies once in a while. but it also depends on the state and town he is in then my son and i will go with him.
Rachelle - posted on 07/19/2009
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Go eat, watch TV, swim, talk to us on the phone,do alittle shopping.
Billie Gail - posted on 07/16/2009
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My husband does not have to go out of town very often, but when he does he just goes out to eat and then goes to bed after work. I have one of the most boring husbands on the planet, but I love him that way. lol
Sadie - posted on 07/12/2009
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My husband is the driller and youngest on the crew so he likes to just get back to camp, eat, shower, call me and go to bed. He figures he has to be some what of an example to the other guys. Although his crew now is all drillers since things are slow so most of them do the same thing. They go out to dinner on Friday since its hump day for them. Thats about as exciting as it gets for them!
Angel - posted on 07/11/2009
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when my husband is off of his regular job he is working with his side job...he is never away...i am very blessed to have him here with me...there was a time he stayed out of town alot, but the job he has now put him at home with his family
Charlean - posted on 07/10/2009
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Quoting Sabrina:
Quoting Julie:
my husband works 12 hr shifts sometimes they go out but not to often as far as I know anyway. I know one time he was in Dallas and went to DD1 school and he and 3 other guys went to some major strip joint, blew 1,000 dollars and needless to say pissed me way off!!! So, ever since then I have my feelers out!!!
wow! hope he learned his lesson! to see naked women its not worth that much! i would kill jacob if he ran off and did that!
he was telling me about a strip club the other day that a bunch of the guys went to that when they charged the card it came up as a bait and tackle shop instead of the strip club. so one guy for his birthday his wife bought him a bunch of fishing stuff, he was really confused cause he hates fishing. she said that she noticed this charge on the card at the bait and tackle shop that he spent so much money there that she thought he would love it!
Can you imagion lol
Hi Julie! And Sabrina. Yep, I'm pretty sure that would have cost mine BIG! We have a standing agreement. Whatever he is permitted to do, I am permitted to do. If he decides to run off to strip clubs and look at the meat case. . . .I am allowed the same privlege. He's just jealouse enough to fear that his territory may be infringed upon. I'm just ornery enough to insure that it would be. We have been happily married for some time now and I know where his every penny is spent. Funny thing is that whatever I may be interested in is probably going to be free for me. . .'cause I'm a woman. serinaded here. .. You know the song..."I can bring home the bacon.. .." Anyways. I hope I lightened someone's load for awhile; however it will cost him endlessly. : )
he kept his mouth shut
Sarah - posted on 06/27/2009
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mine showers then either goes and eats or he eats at the rig talks then goes to bed
Heather - posted on 06/26/2009
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After my husbands off tower, he goes and gets a shower, something to eat, works out, then he calls me and tells me how his day went...explaining to me every detail of what they did the entire 12 hours he was on tower. He always asks me about my day and how things are going. We're only supposed to talk for 15 minutes, but we end up talking for at least 30...it's hard to just hold a conversation with someone for 15 minutes when you haven't seen them for 14 days.
JoDee - posted on 06/24/2009
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My husband is on a rig in the middle of the ocean in Australia, he doesn't go out at night. He usually plays on his laptop or plays playstation or something, but he calls me everyday! I worry about him traveling and having an extra night in Australia, but other than that one night, he's in airports the whole time. I am a stay at home mom of our 3 wonderful children, and I wouldn't trade it for the world! I don't go out at all, and if I do go somewhere, it is a family place because I take all 3 kiddos. They worry about us just as much as we worry about them...trust each other!!!
Venus - posted on 05/08/2009
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Mine works on a land rig. Most nights he showers, we talk for a bit or he watches some tv and then goes to bed. It's pretty boring.
Kelli - posted on 05/02/2009
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well i would really rather not answer this question....so i will ask one.....IS GOD IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND IN EACH OF YOUR LIVES..if not then yes the horror stories are true......drinkin...sex....strippers....bars....lies.....and they really don't care what the women at home think.. because they think we are stupid and would never find out but one thing i have learned and so has my husband...even if it happens half way across the world, everything comes home.. so all you husbands out there that think your wife will never find out...WRONG. it may take a while but they eventually find out..and for the men out there that aways think the grass is greener on the other side..well it is probably artificial turf that most likley has had alot of chemicals to kill the bugs that dwell in it. ha ha h a ha ha!!!
Sabrina - posted on 04/26/2009
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its a matter of trust all right. and the fear i put into him if i ever catch him doing anything or anyone :p lol
Melissa - posted on 04/26/2009
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Quoting Tellisa:
To tell you the truth Marlene..I'd rather not know. Might sound terrible..but sometimes when I call him hes sitting in a loud restaurant/bar...I hear people laughing..it bugs me. So if he goes out to eat with the other guys..or whatever..I dont want to know!! A few times hes been able to go to NHL games in Dallas...that kinda erked me too...but then I think about the concerts Ive gone too..and I guess it all evens itself out!!! Most of the time hes sooo tired anyway..he can barely get back to his room..shower..call me and then its ZZZZZ time. Sometimes we forget the long days...12 hours of working..not to mention some of them have over an hour drive each way to the rig....and my husbands not a spring chicken anymore..he needs the little bit of sleep he can get!! I know the young guys like to go out and hit the strippers(Yes..my husband does tell me everything the other guys are doing) and get drunk...but they are young..and living the riggers life!! I have to remind my husband of that sometimes...he gets mad when they are out all night drinking. I tell him they are young guys and thats what they do..lol!!!
atlast, some good old fashioned honesty! I feel the same way! It's hard not to wonder a little if and when they go out but then again i'm sure it eats them up just as well wondering what we are doing. Especially when they are stuck on a rig in the middle of the ocean as my husband is. My husband is the same way, he tells me everything the guys do. I was shocked to hear what some of them are up to. Even the ones who's wives I know and thought they were such "good family guys". Truth is ladies, we don't know what they are doing, we only know what they tell us. But again, that works both ways, it all boils down to trust.
Julie - posted on 04/24/2009
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Quoting Sabrina:
How funny!! Sometimes I think these guys are real stupid...Well, it does not take to many brains to figure these things out.... This is just too funny! I would have done the same thing, this took place right before christmas 2 years ago and yes he is lucky he still alive! Never will I forget! I think he knows that to!
Quoting Julie:
my husband works 12 hr shifts sometimes they go out but not to often as far as I know anyway. I know one time he was in Dallas and went to DD1 school and he and 3 other guys went to some major strip joint, blew 1,000 dollars and needless to say pissed me way off!!! So, ever since then I have my feelers out!!!
wow! hope he learned his lesson! to see naked women its not worth that much! i would kill jacob if he ran off and did that!
he was telling me about a strip club the other day that a bunch of the guys went to that when they charged the card it came up as a bait and tackle shop instead of the strip club. so one guy for his birthday his wife bought him a bunch of fishing stuff, he was really confused cause he hates fishing. she said that she noticed this charge on the card at the bait and tackle shop that he spent so much money there that she thought he would love it!
Can you imagion lol
he kept his mouth shut
Julie - posted on 04/24/2009
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Quoting Sabrina:
Quoting Julie:
my husband works 12 hr shifts sometimes they go out but not to often as far as I know anyway. I know one time he was in Dallas and went to DD1 school and he and 3 other guys went to some major strip joint, blew 1,000 dollars and needless to say pissed me way off!!! So, ever since then I have my feelers out!!!
wow! hope he learned his lesson! to see naked women its not worth that much! i would kill jacob if he ran off and did that!
he was telling me about a strip club the other day that a bunch of the guys went to that when they charged the card it came up as a bait and tackle shop instead of the strip club. so one guy for his birthday his wife bought him a bunch of fishing stuff, he was really confused cause he hates fishing. she said that she noticed this charge on the card at the bait and tackle shop that he spent so much money there that she thought he would love it!
Can you imagion lol
he kept his mouth shut
Sabrina - posted on 04/19/2009
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Quoting Julie:
my husband works 12 hr shifts sometimes they go out but not to often as far as I know anyway. I know one time he was in Dallas and went to DD1 school and he and 3 other guys went to some major strip joint, blew 1,000 dollars and needless to say pissed me way off!!! So, ever since then I have my feelers out!!!
wow! hope he learned his lesson! to see naked women its not worth that much! i would kill jacob if he ran off and did that!
he was telling me about a strip club the other day that a bunch of the guys went to that when they charged the card it came up as a bait and tackle shop instead of the strip club. so one guy for his birthday his wife bought him a bunch of fishing stuff, he was really confused cause he hates fishing. she said that she noticed this charge on the card at the bait and tackle shop that he spent so much money there that she thought he would love it!
Can you imagion lol
he kept his mouth shut
Julie - posted on 04/18/2009
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my husband works 12 hr shifts sometimes they go out but not to often as far as I know anyway. I know one time he was in Dallas and went to DD1 school and he and 3 other guys went to some major strip joint, blew 1,000 dollars and needless to say pissed me way off!!! So, ever since then I have my feelers out!!!
Sabrina - posted on 04/18/2009
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my husband gets teased about how he is when they are out. they started having to room together instead of having their seperate hotel rooms and we talk via webcam. the things i see and hear i dont want to know what they are doing lol. my husband goes out when they eat. i told him to go to the bar with them so he can stay in the loop with what is going to go on and he ends up as the desinated driver :P i wait til he calls me lol
Brandy - posted on 04/17/2009
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who knows
when they are in the water , well who knows then either
Angelia - posted on 04/16/2009
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My husband works for Edison Chouest Offshore out of Louisiana. He works for 28 days and gets to come home for 14 days. He works 12 hr shifts and when they are docked he can sometimes get internet the rest of the time he watches movies or sleeps alot. I have never met someone that can sleep as long as he does. Even when he comes home he sleeps like 10 hrs grrrrrr-----I got better things to do than sleep. lol
Carey - posted on 04/11/2009
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My husband is the barge captain on the Ocean General off the coast of Australia. He doesn't really have any extra time. He has to review paper work and make sure all the inspections are taken care of. He has to do paperwork for the main office on top of cement jobs adn working in with the welder. He is over almost everything on that rig. He makes time to call our daughter and I on the weekends. Other than that he is only emailing as I am sure the rest of you do also. I wish he had some free time. He goes to the gym on the rig when he gets the cance. He also does safety meeting and fire and abandon drills along with being the fire team leader. I am pretty sure he is a way over achiever but that is what we love about him
Kyla - posted on 03/29/2009
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When my husband works away he is in camp. According to him other than work he eats, shits and sleeps. Not my words. I guess after 16+ hour days and the isolation of being in camp there really isn't much for him to do.
Charlotte - posted on 03/15/2009
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Quoting Tellisa:
To tell you the truth Marlene..I'd rather not know. Might sound terrible..but sometimes when I call him hes sitting in a loud restaurant/bar...I hear people laughing..it bugs me. So if he goes out to eat with the other guys..or whatever..I dont want to know!! A few times hes been able to go to NHL games in Dallas...that kinda erked me too...but then I think about the concerts Ive gone too..and I guess it all evens itself out!!! Most of the time hes sooo tired anyway..he can barely get back to his room..shower..call me and then its ZZZZZ time. Sometimes we forget the long days...12 hours of working..not to mention some of them have over an hour drive each way to the rig....and my husbands not a spring chicken anymore..he needs the little bit of sleep he can get!! I know the young guys like to go out and hit the strippers(Yes..my husband does tell me everything the other guys are doing) and get drunk...but they are young..and living the riggers life!! I have to remind my husband of that sometimes...he gets mad when they are out all night drinking. I tell him they are young guys and thats what they do..lol!!!
Sometimes I don't want to know either.... I get jealous that he can go out and have fun but I am with the kids 24/7. Most of the time he calls us watches a movie and heads to bed. I hear all the stories too. The young guys just blow their cash on booze every night. They are in a camp with a pub, trying to make it easy I guess!
Tellisa - posted on 02/17/2009
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To tell you the truth Marlene..I'd rather not know. Might sound terrible..but sometimes when I call him hes sitting in a loud restaurant/bar...I hear people laughing..it bugs me. So if he goes out to eat with the other guys..or whatever..I dont want to know!! A few times hes been able to go to NHL games in Dallas...that kinda erked me too...but then I think about the concerts Ive gone too..and I guess it all evens itself out!!! Most of the time hes sooo tired anyway..he can barely get back to his room..shower..call me and then its ZZZZZ time. Sometimes we forget the long days...12 hours of working..not to mention some of them have over an hour drive each way to the rig....and my husbands not a spring chicken anymore..he needs the little bit of sleep he can get!! I know the young guys like to go out and hit the strippers(Yes..my husband does tell me everything the other guys are doing) and get drunk...but they are young..and living the riggers life!! I have to remind my husband of that sometimes...he gets mad when they are out all night drinking. I tell him they are young guys and thats what they do..lol!!!
Heather - posted on 02/14/2009
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mine gets called out goes to the job, maybe gone 2 or 4 days. comes home. takes shower, might sleep . eventually eat and play his game on the computer.
Stephanie - posted on 02/13/2009
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My husband works in a camp surrounded by electric fences for bears! So there's no going to the bar for him! He doesn't have time to do much of anything working 12 hr shifts, he mainly watches movies, eats chocolate bars and talks to me!
Shannon - posted on 02/13/2009
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My husband is a pipefitter on the pipeline. He has alot of paperwork to do. By the time hes gets back at night, showers, eats supper and does his paperwork, it is a call to home and bed. If he gets back early enough he might go out to supper with one of his friends and have a drink or two. That is if he is in a hotel with a lounge.
Lynn - posted on 02/12/2009
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My husband is a welder offshore and when he gets of its safety meeting, eat, shower time, call me and chat for a little while with me & our kids and then bed time. He never know if something will break in the middle of the night so he doesnt really sit around much.
User - posted on 02/12/2009
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My husband is on the platforms in the Gulf, so he doesn't get to come in after his shift. He likes to read and just got an xbox for Christmas, so he spends his evening doing one of those two things.
Cassie - posted on 02/11/2009
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My boyfriend goes to the bar for a couple of drinks before heading to camp to get showered up and get a quick call in to me before bed! :)
Marlene - posted on 02/10/2009
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Quoting Alisa:
My hubby has been stuck in Louisiana for 2, going on 3, weeks. They stay in a hotel, but since they work such long hours all he has time to do is get dinner, shower, and call for about 1/2 hour before heading to bed. He's been working non-stop 7 days a week for the last two, going on three weeks, so he's really tired lately. I really miss him and am not used ot him being gone so long. The last company that his crew worked for had him working on three weeks off one, but he got to come home for the weekends. That place was 2 1/2 hours away, and they would stay in apartments. Now that business has slowed down they are catching jobs wherever they can, and Louisiana happened to be the place he was sent to this time. The bad thing is that if he's not here by Thursday, he's going to miss the ultrasound where we find out the sex of our second child. I'm dissappointed, but I just look at it as he's making a good ammount of money being gone so long. We definitely need the money. Anyway, I know that was WAY more than what he does at night, but I needed to vent. lol
Alisa, i'm sorry he'll miss this important u/s, perhaps you can have someone videotape it? I try to tape or take as many pics of our boys and send them at the end of the day to him, i know our husbands don't like to miss all these important event but like you said, the money is good and that takes a lot of pressure off our lives specially now with the economy. He is sacrificing a lot, we need to show we appreciate it too, and keep them posted.
Tanya - posted on 02/08/2009
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My guys does a lot of hanging out in his hotel room. If he is working with a good crew they might go out for a few drinks at the end of the day. If he is in the mood he will head off to the casino if there is one around, but not very often thank god. He is the supervisor on the job, so he usually has a good amount of paperwork at the end of the day to take care of and have in before they do morning meetings at the office. He does do some on-line gaming as well to pass the time. Other then that he calls home every night.
Alisa - posted on 02/07/2009
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My hubby has been stuck in Louisiana for 2, going on 3, weeks. They stay in a hotel, but since they work such long hours all he has time to do is get dinner, shower, and call for about 1/2 hour before heading to bed. He's been working non-stop 7 days a week for the last two, going on three weeks, so he's really tired lately. I really miss him and am not used ot him being gone so long. The last company that his crew worked for had him working on three weeks off one, but he got to come home for the weekends. That place was 2 1/2 hours away, and they would stay in apartments. Now that business has slowed down they are catching jobs wherever they can, and Louisiana happened to be the place he was sent to this time. The bad thing is that if he's not here by Thursday, he's going to miss the ultrasound where we find out the sex of our second child. I'm dissappointed, but I just look at it as he's making a good ammount of money being gone so long. We definitely need the money. Anyway, I know that was WAY more than what he does at night, but I needed to vent. lol
Cindy - posted on 02/05/2009
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My hubby works a 12 hrs shift ( not sure what shifts the other hubbys work), so when he is done with work he gets cleaned up, gets dinner, talks with us and he's ready for bed. Sometimes he takes his laptop with him to watch movies and play games and he reads alot. He is not one to go out to the bars, so that is good. Every now and again he'll go out with some of the guys for dinner or a drink. Working a 12 hr. shift doesn't leave much time for anything but sleep!
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