Where does everybody live?
Rachel - posted on 01/07/2009
my husband just left again... my 4 1/2 year old is getting pretty used to by now. But my son who is 2 1/2 is having trouble wit it looking for his Daddy everywhere and asking when he is coming home. I have no idea when he will be back cause the company he works for is so disorganized! Usually we circle the date on the calander and the kids count down the days till he is home... think this year is ganna be really tough!
Penny - posted on 01/06/2009
We are going through the daddy not being at home in the evenings thing right now...we have been dumped on with snow since the beginning of December and part of my husband's job is making sure all the rig roads are clear for the crews to get in and out...so he leaves at 5 am and is getting home after 7pm and our kids bedtime is 8pm so my oldest who will be 4 on Sunday is going through Daddy withdrawals this last month...I know it isn't as hard as those of you that do 7 ons and stuff like that...but it has a tough adjustment.
Shauna - posted on 01/06/2009
We live in Cleburne, TX. My husband works 7 on and 2 off but in those 7 days there is no set schedule. One night he could be home to give the kids a hug and kiss goodnight and then they may not see him again for a couple of days and it is hard to explain to them why he is gone for so long. When he is gone they ask for him all the time it just sucks that they don't understand where their daddy is and why he stays at work for so long. I am just glad that my family is close and they help out ALOT. I don't know what I would do without them to help me.
Penny - posted on 01/06/2009
We live in Eastern Montana, My husband actually builds rig sites, he drives from Sidney MT, to Tioga, Stanley and Newtown ND almost daily hauling to the sites. It is long days but he is home everynight so far, he has been doing it for 3.5 years.
Renee - posted on 01/02/2009
Shannon, Marina and Jessica, I totally agree with you all. My hubby was in the military we got out to be together more and to be near my family, only for him to go work on the oil rigs. Even with my family near by it is hard. I feel bad asking for help. I feel like I ask to much. My hubby has no set schedule, he comes and goes whenever which makes it very difficult for me and my children. The worst is if he is home in the morning when my daughter goes to school and the when she gets home he is gone with no warning. My daughter is fully toilet trained but when he is gone she starts wetting the bed at night. My baby boy is extremely attached to me. I can't even leave the room without him screaming and following me, he is so much worse with this when dad is gone. I often think it would be easier to be a single mum at least you aren't expecting anyone home and the kids would be used to it being just us. It feels so good to be able to get this out since this isn't something you can just tell anyone about as they don't understand.
Patricia - posted on 12/17/2008
I live in Red Deer Alberta Canada. My soon to be hubby works with Isotope for Cor lab(with the fracers) in the oil field. unfor. I start day dreaming a bit when he starts talking about work becasue if I am not there seeing what is going on I have no idea what he is saying haha.
Jessica - posted on 12/16/2008
Shannon, i can totally relate to you! My oldest is almost 3.5 and every time he starts adjusting a little with his daddy gone my husband comes home for a few days and poor Alex has horrible panic attacks because anytime i leave the house he is terrified i won't come back. Its very hard because my husband Derek was home on disablility for the last 11 months so the boys got used to him being around all the time and now he's gone for sometimes 3 or 4 weeks. My poor kids are so confused and i'm rundown and my house is a disaster. My family has all moved away within the last year as well. It is definitly very hard to get help when i need it, and i hate that i feel like i need help but its sooo overwhelming sometimes.
Shannon - posted on 12/10/2008
hello my name eis Shannon, I so know how you feel there are many times I think and wonder if this life is for me it is so darn hard at times, I sometimes cry myself to sleep wanting so much more. My oldest daughter is almost 4 and everytime her daddy leaves she starts to pee her pants, then I have to start from square one all over again, I have family where I am but they don't really come around much. I often wonder if I expect too much from them I just need help sometimes. I have tried for years to get my hubby to change his career, but no such luck he really enjoys his job and I think alot of it also is the money, which is the money really worth it? I try to be as supportive as I can be, but at times it is sure difficult, I am 26 and he is 30. He has done the rigs since he got out of high school, he says he doesn't know anything different plus I think he is scared of change. Two years ago he moved me two a little town in BC and I thought I would enjoy it but I was alone and had no friends or any family all my family lives here in AB, it was hard, and then finally I broke down and couldn't take I decided to look for a place in edmonton and found one and told my husband I was leaving and asked for him to join me, he almost didn't it hurt I was so lonley and wanted much more then what I was getting at the time, Now we moved to just outside of Edmonton and I like where I live but I don't really have anyone to hang with or help me out. I try to be strong but sometimes it is so hard, I feel for you Marina, I totally know what you are going through, this life isn't what I had exactly in mind either. I often even wonder how woman did it back in the old ages? I wonder if back then it was more community based, where your neighbors help and all the woman are there for eachother? now days it seems like everyone is so busy trying to make it in this world, I have wanted to give up so many times. if you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you hun!
Marina - posted on 12/09/2008
We live in Southern Ontario Canada. Paul works in Hinton Alberta. We see him about every 2 months for about 4 days at a time. I'm thinking this life isn't for me... My boys are 8 and 9 and they miss their Dad incredibly. Working full-time, raising two boys who are very involved in hockey and are both on travelling teams is getting to be too much....
Shannon - posted on 12/09/2008
It is like being a single mom but in some ways alittile easier, I now have great respect for single moms, My hubby works for Nabors Drilling canada and is atoolpush, he loves his job which I am greatful for cause not too many people out there can say that they are happy to go to work, I sure miss him dearly when he is gone along with his two daughters. My biggest worry is the drive expecially in the winter, it scares me half to death but he always makes it safe. I have great respect for my husband he works his butt off and even though he is tired from along hitch he still tries his hardest to be there for his family, it wasn't always like that but, he has learned throughout the years that family matters.
Lilly - posted on 12/09/2008
We moved back to Newfoundland from Alberta 1.5 years ago since then my husband who is a service rig consultant flies from here to Alberta to work.He is usually gone 7-8 wks and home for less then a week.........we have 2 children ...it sure is tough.It is like being a single mom.
Shilo - posted on 12/09/2008
I live in Oklahoma. My husband owns his own drilling rig so he gets to stay close to hm. the farthest he has gone from us to do a job is about 2 1/2 hrs away. So i have got real lucky. Even if hes not a roughneck hes still ALWAYS out at the rig helping his employes,taking them breakfast lunch & dinner. He even took fierworks out on the 4th of july after we did our family thing. He will even help trip pipe if hes out there.So i too know how you girls fill about missing your husbands.
Rachelle - posted on 11/23/2008
We live in Fort St John,British Columbia, Canada. My husband drives tanker truck. My Dad and brother work in the Alberta oilpatch. They are millwrights. I am due in March. Exciting but lonely, I don't know if your husbands all work as much as mine, but I only see my guy once in a bluemoon!!
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