Would you move if it meant your husbands being home more?

Sarah - posted on 02/24/2011 ( 34 moms have responded )

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My husband works for a well service in Arkansas and is gone for 2 weeks then home 3 days then gone 2 weeks. It seems like he's never home. He found a company in North Dakota(20 hours from here) that's willing to pay him almost double what he's making here. He'll be working 12 hour shifts and won't have to work as hard. We've been talking about moving for a while now. I just never thought it would ever happen. I'm really nervous to just pack up and move. We have 3 children all under the ages of 6. I know absolutely nothing about North Dakota except that it gets extremely cold! lol I'm just curious to see how many of you would just pack up and move if you knew your husbands would be home more. If there is anyone that can give me a little information about Ross or Belfield North Dakota that would be helpful. I know they are both small towns and thats about it. We would be willling to even move to the next town over too so just any info you can give would be helpful. Thanks for your input.

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Kelly - posted on 03/08/2011

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You will love it!! I'm from eastern ND and my husband is from Mississippi and he actually misses ND (we are in Iowa now for my school) It does get cold, but you just stay inside or dress warm ;) And there are a lot of fun things to do in the winter!!! ND is amazing and the people there are great, it definitely is a small town state though, especially in the west, but it is gorgeous over there with the black hills. I hope you decide to try it out...if I were in the position to move for my husbands job in PA I definitely would (except he hates it over there and doesn't want to live there) I hope this helps! if you have any questions about my home state let me know!!!!

Raychel - posted on 03/04/2011

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Ratliff Oil Services
It is hard at times because we are close to our families...I mean his is crazy and I just have a big family (Im one of six kids) But I talk to my parents every week and we video chat and facebook. So its not that bad. Bad thing about the snow I dont know how to drive in it bc I'm from tx and we dont really get snow but like twice a year and everything shuts down. It felt like I spent all of jan and feb inside but now its warming up and getting to be real pretty outside.

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Sarah - posted on 12/26/2011

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Dang Egypt! That sucks! We had some issues with transportation getting him to N.D he made it to Kansas and our vehicle messed up on him, he called the company and scheduled another date but they never sent the paper work he needed to take to the dr. and have the physical and drug screen done. He's called them several times and they never returned any calls. He just took that as a sign and decided to take a job closer to home.

User - posted on 12/25/2011

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YES, YES, YES, I WOULD! My sister lived in ND for 8 years and it gets cold there for sure. There are small towns there like Minot. They think it's a big town but they're small. It will feel like you are standing under the sky in the open areas away from the cities. The stars are beautiful and the skies are clearer. I would go to Alaska to be with my husband. I don't even have a the choice to go to Egypt.

Sarah - posted on 05/17/2011

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Thanks Vicky, how old is your son that's in school? How did he adjust? I have a 6 year old and there's a chance that he may have to leave in the begginning of the school year and switch schools. I worry about his transition. Thanks again to everyone who has responded!

Vicky - posted on 05/15/2011

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I did !
I live the uk and my husband lost his job the recession here got quite bad and a lot of large companies folded and my husbands company was one of them.
I now live in a city hours away from all my family and friends and moving and being alone with no family was hard but we got to church and my son is at school and i have 2 more children aged 2 and under so that is help in meeting people.
We are better paid here and the job is very flexable and we have our moments of missing home but are happy here. we have been here 2 years now and its starting to feel like home but YES it was the right thing to do!

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2011

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Good luck Cinzia! Where exactly are you moving too? Let me know how it goes and how well your kids adjust!

Cinzia - posted on 04/16/2011

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I am in the process of doing that right now. I have never lived anywhere else and now I am up and moving 2 hr away from everything i love. I know our son needs dad around more so he will have him home everynight . I just dont know how I will do.He knows tons of people there but I know 2 people. 3 if I include him. Everything happens for a reason so here I go. Good Luck

Sarah - posted on 04/07/2011

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I worry about job security as well, but I'm really concerned about the cost of living there compared to here. I worry about being able to afford the needs of everyday life. He's supposed to make double there than what we're making here, but if things there are far more expensive than here then we really won't be making double; it'll be about the same right? Therefore, its like making what he's making here and it won't benefit us to move. I mean the work here well...there's not really any, but we're making it. He still has income coming in. I just don't want to move all the way up there and it not be any different financially then here. Like it won't be a pay raise b/c of the cost of living I guess is what I'm trying to say. I worry too much about things i have no control over and won't know until i get there really. I really do appreicate everyones help.

Kelly - posted on 04/07/2011

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Sabrina, I feel you girl. PA was a big disappointment for us too :( Luckily we left and my Hubby now has work in WY, N. Dakota and CO. Refresh my memory, what does your Husband do again? Mine is in tubular services, and had been with the same company for 3 years. After moving 3 times for them, they screwed him over so he now works for Weatherford. I know that Weatherford is starting up in Longmont, CO.............. and they are in N. Dakota too. They are having a really hard time finding qualified people with experience.

Sarah, N. Dakota is going gangbusters, so I don't think you will have the worry about finances. PA just didn't take off like they thought it would, and the pipeline as well as the rigs are running into issues with the State government. The East Coast sucks!

Sarah - posted on 04/06/2011

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Sabrina..I'm terrified that we're gonna struggle financially! Like that's my biggest fear! He swears we'll be fine, but still a worry! Did you guys end up moving back? Sorry you had such a bad experience and when we move I'll keep you posted!

Sabrina - posted on 04/06/2011

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my family moved to PA with the promise of better work and him being home a lot more. we got here and it was a complete flop and we were struggling so bad to just get by. so he had to go back to this sch. where he isnt home again. PRAYING THAT YOUR TRANSFER WILL BE OMAGA BETTER :)

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2011

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Thanks Girl.. I think it'll be better. He'll be home during the day and work 12 hour shifts at night.

Lorraine - posted on 03/28/2011

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I would definitly do it! my husband just started a new job and him not being gone for a week at a time is wonderful and not just for me my kids are extremely happy too! go for it girl!

Colleen - posted on 03/26/2011

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Hi Sarah. Stanley is about 15 minutes from Ross. Housing is really tight right now but if you have a real estate agent it will be easier. Like I said if you have any questions I will do my best to help.

Sarah - posted on 03/26/2011

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NO I haven't moved YET! LOL They have man camps up there but they don't have room yet so we're gonna try to save as much as possible and not wait on the camp. It will only house him any way and there is no telling how long it would take him to find housing on his own. He's still employed with a company here so it shouldn't take long for us to find something. I think he said too that the company in ND gave him some information on contacting a real estate agent so they can be looking for us. How far is Stanely to like Belfield or Ross area?

Colleen - posted on 03/22/2011

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So Sarah I am curious if you moved. I moved to Stanley North Dakota about 2 months ago. Stanley is about 15 minutes from Ross. I know it is very hard to find housing here, but not impossible. If you need any info on buying a house I know a real estate agent here. I have a 13 year old and a 7 year old and I really like the schools here. Stanley has a grocery store, a hardware store, drugstore, clothing store, a few restaurants and an indoor heated and outdoor pool. We moved here from Utah a little over 1000 miles away. I have noticed that milk is more expensive here and housing has gone up because of the oil boom. If you can shop in Minot it is cheaper. Milk in Stanley is almost $5 a gallon but I got it at Target in Minot for $3.60 a gallon. People have been really friendly and my kids have done well fitting in so far. Let me know if you have any other questions.

Heidi - posted on 03/17/2011

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Depending on where it is, I would moe.
Mine works in Angola at the moment, so I would not move because of the Malaria risk to my kids, but if he got work in the US, I would move! I would not move to the UK (too grey!!)

Kelly - posted on 03/10/2011

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Don't let snow driving scare you too much...just don't use cruise control and don't slam on the brakes (my husband had to adjust because it is different then driving in the hurricanes down there!!) It is not expensive to live up there at all...we lived in fargo and the most expensive place we rented was about $700/month and that was a two bedroom, split level townhome with garage. I have never heard of anyone complain about the cost of living there at all. Even though some think it (my husband was included in this)...we do not ride around in covered wagons and we do have TV and cell phones! LOL. The schools are pretty great I think...no metal detectors at the doors...at least not when I went! If you like the country and outdoors I'm sure you'll love it here! Maybe you could wait and rent a place up there before school...and just wait a month or so for your husband to get up there?? then you can move in the summer (which i would suggest!!!) moving in the winter is not a great experience ;) How old is your son??? you'd be surprised at how well kids can adapt...I'm sure it will be fine! (We are a military family and will have to be doing the same type of moving around as well) Hope you figure it out! Moving across the country is always a little scary...but if you don't like it you can always move again! :)

Sarah - posted on 03/10/2011

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So They called him and said that they wanted to hire him and the pay was what he wanted so...HE ACCEPTED!! Looks like I'm moving to ND! Only downfall is he's gonna have to wait 6months b/c he has no where to live and their man camps are packed full and they said the maxium waiting time is 6 months :( . On top of that it'll be around September and I'll have my son starting back to school. I don't know if I should pull him out of school and just move when my husband finds something or wait until the school year is over? If I wait that'll mean 5 or 6 more months without seeing him. He works for Superior Well Services now and will be working for Missouri Basin. He works outside now as it so that won't be a big deal to him. Might be a weather shock compared to what he's used to but he used to work in PA so I think he can handle it. I do have some questions for those of you that do or have lived in ND...What are the schools like there? Is it expensive to live there as far as housing, buying or renting? Whats the food cost like? I'm just trying to figure out if we're gonna make more there or here basically. Erica ND sounds awesome!! I love the out doors and have been begging my husband for years to move us out into the country. I love fishing and 4 wheeling and horse back riding. The only thing is driving in the snow! It scares me, but was told that they keep the roads pretty cleared. When it snows/sleets here everything pretty much shuts down because we're not equipt to get it cleared. Thank you guys for all your help! Man I'm so nervous about moving...I won't know anyone! I'm more nervous about my son and what to do about the school thing...he's really shy and I wanted to be able to come in the summer so maybe he could make some new friends and feel a little more comfortable moving to a new school with totally new people. I'll keep everyone posted! Thanks again.

Erica - posted on 03/10/2011

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Hello I am from the NW side of ND, I live about 1 1/2 hours max away from Ross and Belfield. I lived her my whole life but through my husband i have learned ND is different from a lot of states. There are perks but also downfalls. The downfalls are the cold and the low population,. A big city in ND is between 10,000 & 100,000 and there only about 6 in the state in these sizes. There is a lot space between towns you may go an hour without a town in between. Mostly the state is filled with towns only few 100s or 1000s. For some it is a lot because you may to drive a half hour just to go to a store (this if you live in one of the really tiny towns,) and there is somewhat lack diverse culture some aspects, for example food.

The good note is if you want to do something in ND you go get to any part in the state in 6 hours tops. Oh yes it gets cold and for some it makes them leave. I think all little things that add up in the winter such as making trips and planning around the weather, starting, plugging in and warming up the car, dressing warm every time you go out, shoveling and having to stay indoors due to the snow or cold some have hard times picking up on. But even in the cold we still do things like ice fishing and snowmobiling. To me the winter give a chance to be close to friends and family and catch up on hobbies/ projects indoors.The good news yes there are lots of perks. Its very safe here: I leave my house unlocked, you can leave your cars running while in the stores. Of course crime does exist but is petty 99% of the time with things such as vandalism or breaking into someones car. The worst crime problem is probably drunk driving. The crime rate is major low, there were 10 murders in 2009 in the WHOLE state and only about 30 in the last 10 years. You don't have to worry constantly about muggings, being in a bad neighborhood or being scared walking at night alone (of course you still use come sense when it comes to crime.). There is so many outdoors things to do: fishing, hunting, 4 wheeling, biking,camping, horse back riding, swimming and the list goes on. I think here on the west side we live for being outdoors. The air is clean, the skies are bright and clear, full of amazing scenes, animals. sunsets and stars at night. The summers awesome are long sunny and warm (it can easily get into the 90s). There is a sense of calmness here and tranquility that the other states miss. You don' t have to worry about traffic jams and running errands is a breeze because getting through stores and traffic is usually effortless. You can go through any town in 15-20 minutes tops.People are very friendly in my opinion; they don't think you have motive or are afraid of you. If you break down on the side of road someone will almost always help and you wont wait long at all. The 2 places you are looking at are very small. Maybe a few hundred for Ross; there is if maybe a bank, a bar, a post office maybe one restaurant ans that is it. Belfield is bigger, 800 with actually a little downtown shopping. However both towns are located about 30 miles away from one of the larger cities, Minot, which is about 40,000 people. There there is a zoo, mall, lots of hotels, restaurants, a university and any shopping needs.To the west 1 hour is my town (Williston) about 20,000 where there is shopping, a college and entertainment also probably one of the biggest oilfield town. If you go 2 hours south of Ross/Berthold there is Bismarck the capitol which is even bigger( 60,000.) North Dakota has a huge lake (Sacajawea), which provides a lot of entertainment for western ND. West ND has more diverse landscape than east (i have lived on the east side too), there are rolling hills, lots of golden fields, badlands, wildlife galore and a national park. Hope this is not too much but I figure it could help. By all means I don't think ND is perfect; it is for some and too much of a different attitude/lifestyle change.



I wish you luck with your hunt :) I'm open to any questions/ help.

Kelly - posted on 03/08/2011

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Williamsport PA, he is more central and north. He works for ensign drilling (Anadarko)...it was ensign in ND too, I just think someone else signed his rig on in PA. I hope you hear about ND...he might not have as much fun working outside...(don't let him get frostbite like my husband did..hahaha) I do miss it up there though...I hope he hears back from the rig! Let me know how it goes! What company does he work for?? Who is he trying to get a job with??

Sarah - posted on 03/08/2011

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Thank you guys so much! He hasn't heard back from the company yet they were supposed to call him and set up a time to talk more about what they were gonna pay him and when he would want to come up. We haven't heard from them so I don't know if they changed their minds or if they got too busy! I'm really looking forward to moving out of Arkansas.


Kelly who does your husband work for and what part of PA does he work in...my husband goes up there on 2 week stretches and works in and around Pittsburgh and in all the little towns around there. Just curious.

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2011

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We don't really have a good relationship with our families...Always too much "family" drama with my family and his family well are crazy. We both need to venture out away from them. Not saying that we're not gonna miss them but that we need to get away from them telling us what we need to do and be so pushy! We believe we would benefit tremendously by moving. I'm not looking forward to the snow myself,but they have beautiful summers! lol We plan to visit as well. I'm just scared I guess, I've never lived out side of Arkansas. I'm looking forward to it though. What company does your husband work for Raychel?

Raychel - posted on 03/03/2011

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My husband took his job back in August. We are from texas and the job was going to be in AK for a couple of months and than would move him up to PA. That would mean he would only come home for a week every 6 months. We have an 18 month old son and when he took this job it was for the better he has been bouncing from job to job and I was working and taking care of our son. But when he accepted the job we knew it would mean us be without him or us move with him. So in Dec we packed up our things and moved to PA. It is a BIG change from tx and I have NEVER seen so much snow in my life. Down side is that all of our family is back in tx but like planned we will visit every 6 months.

Sarah - posted on 03/02/2011

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Thanks you guys! Its just gonna be hard my son started Kindergarten this past fall and will be in 1st grade next year. I'm scared that the job won't last and we'll have to move back to Arkansas. I'm kinda done with living here, I'm ready for a change. I want a stable home for my children and don't want to have to move so I hope that if we do move and he gets laid off that its easy to find more work up there. Y'know? I think that's what scares me the most.

Kelly - posted on 02/26/2011

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Absolutely I would do it. As a matter of fact, we moved 4 times last year for my husbands job. Our oldest is going to start kindergarten this fall so we decided it was time to settle. We just bought a house in Cheyenne. My husband goes to N. Dakota a lot for work. He is possibly going to start going there for 2 months, and then coming home for a week. We chose Cheyenne because it is pretty central, and it is only 8 hours to his shop in N. Dakota. I don't know much about it up there, it is definitely cold, and will be quite a change from Louisiana. Good luck to you!! Don't be afraid to move. Home is where the heart is, and you can make a home anywhere. In the long run it will be worth it if your hubby can make more money, and see you more.

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