any one out there with little ones 11months apart??if so id love to hear how u are coping??...

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Mine are 11 months apart!! It has gotten easier for me with each day. I've just had to learn how to not sweat the small stuff. My house doesn't have to be perfect!! What has really helped is how I get my 15 month old son up about 30 min. before his sister (4 months old)
That allows me to get him fed and get the mess he made cleaned up before she starts screaming!! If I can just get that first hour straight, the rest of the day seems easier. Also, when I'm feeding my daughter I always have my sons toys and books around me so I can play with him and feed her at the same time. You learn quick that you can't make them BOTH happy all day, so you have to just roll with it and do what you can!!

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My two are 13 months apart and we're living in a bedroom in my parents' basement. It might feel easier if we had our own kitchen and a playroom down here, but we're hoping to get a house by the end of this summer. He's 7 weeks and she's 14.5 months and as long as he sleeps while I get her day started I can get through the morning. I work 11:30 to 8 or whenever the pedi office closes, so i miss most of their day. My husband works a 16 and a 24 and picks up overtime so our mothers do a lot of babysitting between their work schedules. If I could be a work-at-home mom I'd do it in a heartbeat. I feel like I don't give my one-year-old enough attention and my infant isn't getting the play and tummy time he's supposed to. I know it all works out in the end, but in the meantime it's stressful (and more than a little cramped) for our family. My bottom line: one day at a time, and as long as each child is in a safe place when I feel like freaking out, or going to the bathroom, everything's okay.

Courtney - posted on 02/12/2009

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My 2 oldest children are 15 months apart all i can say is it gets easier as they get older They are eachothers best friends and have a special bond im very happy they are close in age plus they keep each other busy when im attending to the newborn

Gemma - posted on 02/12/2009

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yea i try 2 i get really lonly aswell wen my hubbys in wrk i dont find it gets easier just the challenges changes lol their gd kids well angels sometimes i just hate bein on my own with them wen they can talk tidy itll be better

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Mine aren't 11 months apart they are 12 months apart but I figured close enough.  My best answer is you take it day by day, hour by hour.  Some days are fine, others I would like to pull out my hair.  It is getting easier by the day though. 

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Susan - posted on 09/15/2012

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i have a daughter who will be 7 monthes old in two days and i am five monthes pregnant with my second child due this january. for some reason this pregnancy is harder than my first. some say cause they think this child is a boy lol. havent found out yet as i want it to be a surprise. maybe this pregnancy is harder cause my body hadnt fully healed from my last pregnancy?? not sure. but i am looking forward to having children so close to the same age.

Clare - posted on 12/21/2011

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Hey I have an 8 Month age gap between my children.. First born july 2005 and second born march 2006.. They are now 5 and 6 and to be honest.. the hard work is done.. they are both at school and I am back in work.. after the first year it has been an absolute breeze... It was tough in the beginning having 2 in nappies and 2 non walkers but was well worth it.. luckily for me i had one of each so no need to add to the bundle lol.. I would not have it any other way!

Shannon - posted on 10/04/2010

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HI Rianna, My name is Shannon I am a mother of 5 boys of which 3 of them are 11 months apart i have 12,9, 8, 7 ans 5 my 9 year old was born nov 2001 my 8 year old was oct 2002 and then my 7 year old was born sept 2003.

It was not easy all three in diapers and all three having bottles and running all over the place but now that they are older and they are all pretty close they fight like any other siblings but I love how close they are and I think it will be good for them when they get older as well I hope.

Jessica - posted on 10/02/2010

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Where do I begin? lol
I have twins that are 11 months older than my youngest. ;)
I suppose the best advice I can give is to breath....take moments to relax, and just practice patience. LOL. As Shawna said, the days are unique to say the least, but once you start adjusting to their different schedules, ...(which you will) eventually they'll be very much on the same one. So the routine will definitely become alot easier. Have fun!

Miranda - posted on 09/30/2010

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my boys are 8 and 9 years old now so i can tell you it does get a little easier as they get older. However when they were young (like newborn and 13 months ) I got my older one to help out crazy as it sounds he was more than happy to bring me a diaper and take a bath with his baby brother or help me get "his baby" down for a nap. It is definatly hard dwork in the early years to have them so close together but after they turn 3 and 4 its all down hill (or so it seems compared to what you just went through for the three years prior lol) hang in there and develope the best schedule you can and even if the house is a mess and you have a million things to do stop and tale at least 5 minutes for you nothing works well if mom is neglecting her self :) good luck

Jo-Ann - posted on 09/07/2010

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oh girl, i have two lil girls exactly 11 months apart to the day! one was born Jan 4, 2007 and one Dec. 4, 2008. They are a handful to say the least, it takes all i got to get through the day sometimes (i stay at home w/ them) cause i also have a 6 month old son. Who was born March 3, 2010. So he is 15 months behind the last lil girl. I could use a shoulder..lol some aspects seem to get better and others worse. I take it one day at a time. Would love to hear more about you and yours! good luck!

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2010

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I have a 14mth girl & a 3mth boy- getting out by myself with the kids can be hard but I always make sure everything is packed & the diaper bag is stocked the night before that way I just have to make a bottle & fill a sippy cup. Packing a variety of snacks works well in keeping my daughter occupied in the carseat or shopping cart. Also, I take a bath the night before that way all I have to do is throw myself together in the morning (I abandoned makeup a long time ago lol) Also, I try to get out late morning/early afternoon b/c my son is awake mostly late afternoons/early evenings & my daughter can stay awake until 2 or 3 before getting fussy, Which is when I try to be home by. You'll get to know what time of day is best for your kids- just plan around that. Remember- Preperation is key to survival! LoL

Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2010

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Hi my son is 17 months old and I have a 3 week old and am having a super super hard time coping. Any advice out there??

Meagan - posted on 04/11/2010

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my kids will be about 11 months apart. My daughter will be one May 23rd and I am expecting my second in 15 days (April 26th) I have no idea how I am going to do it but I know I can and thats what keeps me going everyday!!

Tara - posted on 03/01/2010

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It definitely isn't easy! My children are 11 months apart in age, with birthdays 21 days apart. It has taken a toll on me, and my doctor even said that I'm depressed. I don't know if I would call it depression, but it's definitely stress. I love having children, but it can be so hard. I'm a stay at home mom, and very rarely get out of the house, and when I do I have the children with me. I never have me time, and I think that is what is causing some of my stress. It's always nice to have a support system. We all need a break sometimes, and I'd love to have one! lol It is easier if you have someone to help you out a lot. It does get a little easier as they get older. My daughter is only 6 months, but as she gets older she is more content playing on the floor or in her swing while I clean and do the things I need to do. Thankfully, I don't have to deal with jealousy between my children, so that makes it a little easier for me. I have tried to get a routine with my children, but because they are different ages, it's more difficult. I'm still looking for advice on this also!

Nicole - posted on 02/19/2010

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I have 3 daughters. My oldest and middle are 2 years apart and my middle and my youngest are about 12 months apart. Alot of people think I'm crazy that my kids are so close in age and I'm only 23 years old but it just gives me more time to spend with them and watch them grow. Yeah they fight but they are so close to one another. When one cries the other two are there to make them feel better. I love my girls so much that I don't care that they are so close in age.

Stephanie - posted on 02/15/2010

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My kid are 5 & 4 there 13 months apart, I found it easier when they were younger then I do now my daughter and son they both get into everything, the one thing I can say is that they are best friends if anyone messes with then they defend each other. I take it one day at a time and enjoy Evey minute of it. I get asked all the time if I could would I change it and have them like 2 years apart or longer and I say no. I am lucky to have my husband who lets me get my down time when I can and a really great friend that gets me out of the house whenever I need it.

Amy - posted on 02/09/2010

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i have about 11 and a half months between mine...and it is really hard!!!Luckily, I have my fiancee(their dad), and my mom and step-dad to help me, but it's still hard. My older daughter always wants the attention, especially while we are holding the younger one. Now my youngest(Alana) is 4 months, so my oldest(Brooklyn) is getting better. Now she likes to try to help. The one thing I've really noticed is she thinks shes being nice, when shes laying on top of the baby, and she loves the babies binky!!She will have her own in her mouth, and one of her own in her hand, and yet she will throw them down to grab the babies!!!!It drives me crazy!!!!

Dionne - posted on 11/19/2009

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IM 20 AND GOT 4 11MONTHS APART AND IM GOING CRAZY LOL NO IT EASIER THAN I THOUGHT

Sarah - posted on 11/10/2009

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My kids are abuout 11 months apart. My son was born 8/1/05 and my daughter was born 07/06/06. It was really hard the first few years (mainly because I was working as well as being mommy) but now that they are getting older its getting easier. They do fight, but they are very close. One doesn't like to be away from the other. All said and done I wouldn't have done it any other way.

Diana - posted on 11/06/2009

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I TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME, I HAVE A BOY AND A GIRL, THEY FIGHT LIKE CATS AND DOGS. I HAVE THEM DO WHAT EACH LIKS INDIVIDUALY, KEEP THEM APRT LONG ENOUGH TO MISS EACHOTHER THAN LET THEM PLAY UNTIL I HAVE TO BREAK THEM UP AGAIN. IT KEEPS ME ON MY TOES BUT KNOW THAT THEY R 7 AND 8 BIRTHDAY ARE BOTH IN AUGUST, I HAVE PUNISHMENT LIKE HELP MOMMY CLEAN THE STOVE AND THEY TRY TO KEEP EACHOTHER OUT OF TROUBLE.

Christina - posted on 11/02/2009

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my kid's are 11 months and 2 weeks apart my oldest was born 10/22/08 and my youngest 10/5/09 it gets hard because even tho my boyfriend and I are together we dont live in the same house so he comes ova before he goes to work in the mornin and before he goes home after work the only days hes really here all day to help me with the kids are his days off but I am really tryin to keep from goin crazy with a newborn and a year old because I cant split myself into two and give them both my attention but I'm takin it one day at a time

Michelle - posted on 10/25/2009

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My kids are 10 months apart...and it's pretty difficult when they are infants. But as they get older, it's not as hard. Hopefully, you are not in my condition, however, as I suffer from short-term memory problems. I used a palm pilot when they were babies to document when they were fed and who got a bath on which night, when I gave medicines if they were needed, etc. But in just a few short years, one will be going to school, and then both of them will be. I must have been one of those lucky moms, because they both slept through the night after the first few weeks.

Just make sure you get a break here and there so you don't go completely insane. Have your husband keep the kids for a few hours on a Saturday and go to a movie with your friends, or go have a manicure.

Jenny - posted on 10/03/2009

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hi i'am a mom of two kids 2mths and a year ..the newest is a girl and oldest is a boy i find it so busy now with two kids and being so close in age i never knew how many diapersb you go thru between the two at first it was really hard with the oldest (colten) he was into everything trying to get attention that he was losing but after the first month he has calmed down so much he loves to help with his sister and has become very protective . now to prepare for the youngest to start moving lol

Denise - posted on 09/14/2009

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Hi I have 3 kids & 2 step kids. Mine are ages 17 1/2, 9 & 8 (12 mkonths 6 days apart), and my ex-husband's kids are 18 1/2 & 17. Needless to say its been quite interesting over the years. The sibling rivalry I think is greater because they are so close in age and for the most part everything better be even otherwise "It's not fair". I think the two youngest because I had the responsibilty mostly by myself were the hardest to deal with. It's like having twins except one is heavier than the other. Also, the younger of the two trys to act like the older one and the older one wants to be babied like the younger one. They are both girls. As for the older ones the tension wasn't there because the 2 17yr olds are both girls but they didn't live together so they were good friends and the oldest is a boy so he was always in a category by himself (most attention from Dad). What's the funniest thing is that they are the same size and yet they don't want to share clothes. LOL I keep telling them it's like having double the attire but they don't care. Now that my 17yr old is my size we love to share clothes and shoes with each other. The young ones will get it eventually.

Amber - posted on 08/29/2009

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i don't believe my mind ever really stops thinking ......... they keep me very busy.!! I have a 7,3,2,1, and twin girls 4mo. so 5 under 3yrs my kylee 7 helps me a lot i am not sure what I will do when she goes back to school!! :(

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My children are ages 5, 4, & 2. It's getting a little better being that the two oldest are going to kindergarten & pre-k soon, but it's been a struggle. Three different personalities all wanting 100% of my time & energy. I just try & keep a daily routine & make one on one time for each of them as well as having family time with all of us together. Even with my husband around it gets stressful because they all come to me first even if he's closer!

Kimberly - posted on 08/22/2009

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I Have 2 lil girls that are 11mths apart,it has been really hard and really stressful mostly becuse they are both so demanding of my attention, it was so frusturating up until about 2 mths ago as now my 1 yr old can entertain herself,there is times when i wanna rip my hair out but now i kinda take it day by day

Linda - posted on 07/15/2009

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Hi there, wow yes thats me. I didnt think there would be many others the same as me. I remember everyone used to say to me "how do you do it", thruth is I had nothing to compare it to. It got triky when they were young mainly when sick, but some days you would find they would sleep at the same time, other days it was in shifts. My bonus is that i have a good hubby, and he used to finish at 2pm. I wont say it was all smooth sailing as the 2nd son had reflux, and until he was medicated, i wanted to throw him. But we got there, they are now 3 and 4, all is good, and we now have a 3rd son 10 weeks old.

Karen - posted on 06/23/2009

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Hi my youngest 2 kids are 12 months apart. I have 5 kids g15,g13,b8,b16 months,g4 months. My 8 year old has autism and ADHD, My 16 month old hasWeak muscles and heart murmurs and my 4 month old stops breathing and has week muscles. So yes dome days are better than others and yes i do feel like pulling my hair out at times lol. I have arranged activites for my 16 month old to do when i feed the baby and chores. I also try to give each child at least 20 min one on one time a day this helps with jealousy and fighting.

Carolyn - posted on 06/18/2009

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I am so glad you asked this question! My daughter is 7 1/2 months old and my next one is due December 11 of this year. I was so nervous when I found out how close they were going to be, because I had no clue how I was going to handle a newborn and a little one running around. I still have no clue but your responses have definitely helped! I tried to find some books on raising kids close in age but had no luck.

Karen - posted on 06/15/2009

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hello my 2 youngest children are 12 1/2 months apart some days are great but others are so stressful. Myd ay starts at 4:45am and ends at 11pm. when one is asleep the other is awake. currently they both have the flu and chest infections

Crista - posted on 05/28/2009

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My first was born May 31 and the second came May 5 of the next year. I have a 2 year old too. My girls are so different from each other but really close. they fight alot too but really love each other so much. i love it now that they are 4 and 5 but it was really hard at first. Feeling like my oldest was still a baby but the baby needed me and i couldnt do either one of them just right!! Take alot of deep breaths and just love em. they grow so fast and it DOES get easier. Try to make one night special for them individually every month or so if possible. Mine love it. Good luck

April - posted on 05/19/2009

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I have 2 that are 10 1/2 months apart. It is hard at first but once the younger one starts walking you wouldn't have it any other way. My two are now 4 and 5 and they are inseperable, best friends. Just keep your head up and do your best. Make sure you talk to your friends a lot and get out of the house some. Make sure you ask for help when you need it. That will help with the loneliness. Just enjoy watching them grow up together and know everything doesn't have to be perfect. THey are only little once.

Beverley - posted on 05/16/2009

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my children are 14 months apart and i found it was a lot easier when they were younger although now they play together quite well they do fight over silly things but thats kids for u .Ithink i find it harder now because i have the school run to do and i have to run after them on way hm i do love them very much and they are worth the hard work havin kids close together has its good points and its bad points i think just try your hardest every day thats all you can do

Amanda - posted on 05/01/2009

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My girls are 11 months apart and fight a lot I just take it day by day. My middle daughter and my son are 16 months and they fight a lot also, but my oldest daughter and son get along great. I think it has just has to do with how close in age the children and that they are going through a lot of the same things at the same time.

Lynsey - posted on 04/30/2009

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hi i have a little girl who will be 4 in may and twins who went 3 in april you could say it's like having triplets they don't like sleeping in they are up between 6 and 7 every morning but they go to bed at 8pm the latest and most nights they all sleep through like gemma i feel lonely a lot as their dad is at work and even when he his home they want me not dad so i never stop i should be skinny but i'm struggling to lose weight which makes me feel down. the twins start nursery in september so i'm hoping to start having a bit of time to myself and maybe get a part time job. I love them all very much and wouldn't be without them but i don't seem to have a life after them if you know what i mean you know when they are out at school and out playing with their friends what will i be doing

Michelle - posted on 04/20/2009

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My kids are also 10 months apart but it was really difficult cause my son the younger one had medical problems. I spent most of my time with him in the hospital while my husband worked and took care of our daughter.( he was fortunate to have a job that he could bring her with him to work). Now that my son is doing much better after a transplant and now he is not in the hospital alot, my kids are like best friends. It was a long road getting here but somehow i always had the strenght to continue on. My son is now 6 and my daughter is 7.

Kayleigh - posted on 04/03/2009

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my 2 are 10 months apart. yeah it's hard but you just gotta get on with it. the thing i find the hardest is having a bath or shower. my little boy never wants to be on his own it drives me up the wall. i just think as they get older it can only get better. x

Kayleigh - posted on 04/03/2009

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my 2 are 10 months apart. yeah it's hard but you just gotta get on with it. the thing i find the hardest is having a bath or shower. my little boy never wants to be on his own it drives me up the wall. i just think as they get older it can only get better. x

Kayleigh - posted on 04/03/2009

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my 2 are 10 months apart. yeah it's hard but you just gotta get on with it. the thing i find the hardest is having a bath or shower. my little boy never wants to be on his own it drives me up the wall. i just think as they get older it can only get better. x

Corina - posted on 04/02/2009

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Hi, I have 4 children who are now 3, 4, 5, and 6 and we have an absolute ball. They are the best of friends and play fabulously together, I barely see them when they are all here. I wouldn't change it for the world

Lori - posted on 04/01/2009

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Quoting Lori:



Hi There! My 2 girls are 15 months apart and there are days I have to go in my room, shut the door and just cry. I have gotten to the breaking point and just had to do that. They have fought over me and fought with eachother and it has just been days where if it wasn't one of them, it was the other and it seemed like it would never end. I had to take control of them, the structure, the day, even the moment.






They have moments now but, I can usually put an end to them by feeding them, keeping a strict routine and sticking to it, even on the weekends and keeping them busy. It is a real big job but, it is so worth it. They are my life and I know it will get easier. I know I am happier and at the end of the day, it is all good!!






Best of luck to you and I am here if you ever need to vent, cry, scream or a hug~cuz you will need to eventually if you haven't already! Bless you baby!!!





 

Lori - posted on 04/01/2009

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Hi There! My 2 girls are 15 months apart and there are days I have to go in my room, shut the door and just cry. I have gotten to the breaking point and just had to do that. They have fought over me and fought with eachother and it has just been days where if it wasn't one of them, it was the other and it seemed like it would never end. I had to take control of them, the structure, the day, even the moment.



They have moments now but, I can usually put an end to them by feeding them, keeping a strict routine and sticking to it, even on the weekends and keeping them busy. It is a real big job but, it is so worth it. They are my life and I know it will get easier. I know I am happier and at the end of the day, it is all good!!



Best of luck to you and I am here if you ever need to vent, cry, scream or a hug~cuz you will need to eventually if you haven't already! Bless you baby!!!

Robin - posted on 03/30/2009

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my youngest two boys are 11 1/2 months apart. John was born 2-12-03 and Peanut was born 1-24-04.. i wouldnt change having them so close for anything. Peanut wasnt planed but God knew John needed someone close in age to play with him. there are 2 yrs and 11 months between john and my oldest. john and peanut have always been close. when we took john out of his crin he started to climb IN peanuts crib to sleep with him and to this days ages 5 and 6 they STILL sleep together in the same bed even though they have their own bed and OWN rooms.. Its John that goes to Peanuts bed never the other way around.

Candace - posted on 03/28/2009

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my children are eleven months apart and are now three and two it gets so much easier they are like best friends most the time now i really dont think i would have it any other way. just hang in there and take a break whenever you can even if its taking a nice bath at night once they are in bed you will feel better!

Michelle - posted on 03/21/2009

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Mine are 14 months apart. Jonus will be 3 in July and Ben 2 in October. My biggest problem was them keeping each other up at night/early morning, but I started really putting my foot down and getting stern about them staying in bed at night. It got a lot worse at first, but now it's gotten a lot better since they know I'm not gonna change my mind and let them up. My best advice is try to have a routine, especially at bedtime. NOT necessarily a time schedule, cuz that just gets too hectic when everything's always running behind. Just so that they know what is going on and what to expect. Since mine figured out that after story time its always nap/bed time,and after supper its bath time, I don't have as much of a fight with them, etc. And always make sure you find ways to give them both attention at the same time as well as individual attention. You will find what works for you and them.

Brandi - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hello I have you beat mine are like 10 months apart. oldest april 22 baby march 24. They are both girls and they are 5&6. I let them be who they are trust me they are day and night. I do admit when we go out in public and I know its going to be crowded I do dress them alike. They hate it!!!! but it is easy to spot one outfit then two. It is like having twins because i always have to buy 2 of the same i just try to find different colors but now its where i do buy same color toys. so that way i wont have to hear she has mine i cant tell them apart they cant tell them apart til one tears theres up. as they get older it does get easier because like i said they are day and night the 6yr old is girly the 5 yr old is a tomb boy. one important thing teach them to share at a young age and schedule schedule schedule. it has helped me out a lot!!!! hope this helps

Angela - posted on 03/11/2009

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I have three girls...31mos, 20mos, & 1mos. 11 months between the first two and 18 months between the last two. There are the good days and the bad. Fortunately I have a wonderful husband and my inlaws nearby. Right now we are trying to get a routine down. I work full time and when I do go back to work, that is my break from the girls. I'm sure it's going to be fun when they are all teenagers!

Donielle - posted on 03/05/2009

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M boys are 15 months apart and it was very hard at first. It is still hectic at times but has gotten easier. I take it one day at a time and stick to a schedule.

Carlene - posted on 03/04/2009

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mine are 11 months apart. they are 5 and 6 now and its gotten so much easier. when they were littler i wanted to pull my hair out but life has gotten better=) My first three are each 3 years apart from each other but the littliest 2 are 11 months and they have been so much easier to raise cause they are like best friends. they always have each other. i listen to them talk to each other at bed time and it is so cute!

Andrea - posted on 03/01/2009

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I have 2 boys, 14 1/2 months apart. Before my second was born I figured out a schedule so their feeding times would be an hour apart. That way both boys were getting attention. Eventually I got them on  the same schedule. So it does get easier as they get older.  For the most part they get along very well and play together. Occasionally you get some fighting but that's to be expected.

Crystal - posted on 02/26/2009

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i have 3 boys, my oldest and middle boy are 12 months and 2 days apart, they are now 5 and 6 years old. i think it does get better with age. i find it a bit harder for me since my middle son has autism. but other then that i think it does get better once they get older. but when they were younger it was tough to a point.  i think it was harder then twins (though i dont have twins so not totally sure) but they arent the same age so they needed different things and such.

Natalie - posted on 02/16/2009

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Hi my daughter is just a year old and my little boy is 6 weeks, i'am finding it quite difficult at the moment  as you can't split yourself in 2 even though you would like too!! think you have to except there wil be times when they are both crying and you can only see to one just try not to feel guilty.  accept any offers of help and try to enjoy them as much as poss its hard work but it will get easier xx

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