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Jealous Help

Tara - posted on 04/17/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My children are 11 months apart. My son is 19 months old and my daughter is 8 months old. From the time my daughter was born until now, they have best of friends! They loved playing with each other and always being together, the morning she was born he was there and the moment he saw her he smiled! Now all of a sudden, they are so jealous of each other! I've tried potty training my son, but I can't do that while I'm holding my daughter. I can't give one of them attention without the other one getting so jealous and wanting all of my attention! I will make food for my son and feed my daughter but then my son gets jealous and pushes his way between us. He won't let me feed her, he won't let me hold her, he doesn't want me or my husband around her and she is the same way with him! I don't know what to do to show them they are both equally loved. It's hard because my daughter requires more attention because she isn't crawling or sitting up or anything, so I have to carry her everywhere and do things for her, and my son hates it! Please help!

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Tara - posted on 05/21/2010

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Thanks Krista. My daughter is actually crawling now and standing, which makes it worse. The sibling rivalry has started. I've spend quality time with my son while my daughter is napping and then I spend quality time with my daughter while my son is napping. It seems like the older they get the worse they act towards each other. My son will be laying on the floor and then my daughter will crawl to him and smack him and pull his hair so he will do the same to her. If I am getting one of them dressed or changing diapers the other one will find a way to get inbetween and stop what I'm doing. If I have my son and my husband has my daughter, my son will get jealous and go to my husband, or vice versa. It's getting more difficult

Krista - posted on 05/21/2010

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My thought is if you daughter isn't moving around much yet, you can put her down and play a game with your son. Put the girl down somewhere safe with toys and play with son for 15 or 20 minutes. Let him help feed her. He can bring you stuff. She should be starting to move a bit anyway, but you have to let her have that chance, by putting her on the floor. Let him help as much as he can, and all of you play together on the floor. Good luck.

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