Mom of 2 that are 19 months apart. Any advice?

Krista - posted on 10/06/2009

Mine are 20 months apart. It gets easier as they get older. My advice is take it one day at a time. There will be days you don't shower, or clean or even maybe brush teeth, but it's just a day. Most important is to spend time with your kids while you can. I know two little ones is hard, but it can be done. A double stroller will be your best friend. Have them on schedules as much as you can (babies this is harder with, but works great for the older ones). My kids were on an eating, nap, and bedtime schedule. Then, at nap and bedtime I had some time to myself. Don't forget you!

Good luck. As they get older, they are more self sufficient, but they'll fight like nobody's business. My two are the best of friends, worst of enemies. They love to play together, but fight like cats and dogs sometimes.

Good luck. It will all work. One step at a time.

Laura - posted on 10/02/2009

How old are the kiddos now? Mine are 12 1/2 mos apart in age, & now are newly 5 & newly 6. =) The 1st year was the toughest. My older didn't walk fulltime (as in he would walk as I held his hand when we went out =) until he was 17 mos, so I was carrying both like twins for the 1st full 5 mos. &, of course, it was a bitter cold winter. =)



I mainly would keep my sanity by asking for help if/when I needed it, & GETTING OUT almost every day. Yes, every day. Well, almost. LOL I would got to lunch w/ just me & the kids, go grocery shopping, walk around the mall, visit my family & friends, just to get out of the house, &, to prove even to just myself that I could. Many use having kids close, or even just having 2 little ones that they 'can't' get out, but, mostly, I find that just an excuse (not always, of course, just mostly =) . If I can do it, anyone can. LOL



I also stopped carrying a big old diaper bag after Belle was around a mos or so. Yes, a mos. It was just a bunch of clutter that I generally didn't need often. I would bring a little bottle bag w/ either 2 bottles or a bottle & a sippy (for DS =) , a bib, some wipes & a couple diapers. Now, I did have the diaper bag w/ all the other stuff in the car in case I would need it, but, it was annoying to lug it around. Even when I had 'just' DS, I stopped carrying the bag after he was around 6 or so mos (I was preggo again, so, didn't want anything I didn't absolutly need =) . Some will say 'I do absolutely need a big old, bulky diaper bag', but, it was just too much for me. If I needed extra clothes (which wasn't often) I'd just come to the car & grab them. =) If I did take it, it was only when I had the stroller & could stow it. LOL =)



Anyway, good luck! Feel free to ask any specific questions. =)

Jennifer - posted on 09/29/2009

Mine are 13 months apart. and it's difficult to try and balance. I would encourage some one on one time with both, and don't always do the same thing each time. Make memories that just the two of you share!

Sarah - posted on 09/25/2009

always remember dont show more attention to one child show equal atention and always praise your children when they are good.

Denise - posted on 09/18/2009

Mine are 18(stepson), 17 1/2, 17(stepdaugher), 9 & 8 yrs all girls except the oldest. It's definitely tough. Especially the sibling rivalry because of the closeness in age. Do you have any particular questions? I feel like I have been through it all. I am even a single parent again for the second time for my 3 girls (the 17, 9 & 8 yr olds).