Spanking, age and style

Emma - posted on 01/26/2011 ( 180 moms have responded )

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So does anyone spank? What age is "ok" to start? What's better using your hand or a paddle or something else? What age is too old for it? Do you have any special way or routine for it?

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Sandra - posted on 01/06/2014

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how long do you give them a spanking with the cane and how many times? do take the kids over your knees then?

Julia - posted on 02/21/2011

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hand to start with graduating to paddle, strap, cane etc as they get older. No age is too old.
Julia

Sandra - posted on 01/06/2014

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yes, i agree with you! age may differ but after twelve youngsters deserve a real good spanking taking them over the knees and giving them a heavy hand spanking first to warm up the bare bottom to be continued by a wooden cooking spoon or a hair brush or paddle for some ten minutes. this really works fantastic!

Ruth - posted on 03/04/2011

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i started with hand, but now, for teenagers i use the cane with good results...certainly on the bare

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Juliana - posted on 06/29/2017

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Did someone report this? The things being said on here are not acceptable or legal. I'm sick to my stomach. I can't believe this is real. I hope CPC comes to your houses, makes you strip in front of them, and beats your asses. This is criminal. Arr you all too stupid to raise your kids without violence, or just too lazy? I want to throw up. And as a mental health professional, I wish I could give all your children the counseling they are going to need after their awful childhoods. You should be ashamed.

Kristin - posted on 06/05/2017

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I started spanking my son when he was 7-8, and I'm not sure how long I'll keep spanking him. It mostly depends on him! I only use my hand because I want to know exactly how hard I'm smacking his boy parts. And I use the diaper position.

Geoff - posted on 05/23/2017

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Hi i cane both my daughter's bare bottom spanking with a cane works great

Hannah - posted on 04/15/2017

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We have a martinet for our boys 9 and 7, We spank them in the diaper position on teir beds. It is very effective.

Michelle_williams - posted on 04/12/2017

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Yes when I was in school I got it over my skirt or when younger was spanked over my knickers with a plimsoll. But at home my parents always insisted on taking my knickers down.

That is how my children get it. And merely the threat of the stick makes them conform.

Both my two got it on Sunday, bare bottomed and 6 of the best. Lots of tears!

Amy - posted on 02/05/2017

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Rachel, Yes - Swishy cane works quite well over pleated uniforms. As a middle school teacher at a leading co-ed institution in Malaysia few years ago, I frequenty used a swishy cane on female students over pleated uniforms for bad behaviours and for bad performances at tests. There has been significant improvements in their behaviours and performances since I started canning.

T - posted on 02/05/2017

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the stick is the answer to lazy boys bottoms and i strongly regret my mother did not cane me

Rachel Louise - posted on 02/05/2017

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Does the cane work over pleated skirts Ma'am? I usually got it bare bottomed

Katy - posted on 02/02/2017

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hi rachael how often does your father use the cane , is it a thick cane or swishy type

Amy - posted on 02/01/2017

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Hi Anthony,
Cane works well over pants or trousers when compared to wooden spoon or ruler. Not necessarily to bare bottom for canning.

Amy - posted on 02/01/2017

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Hi Michelle,
It's quite uncommon in South Asian culture to cane kids on bare bottom. Both my sister and I cane our children for serious offences over pants or trousers. We both make sure that they well remember the consequences for bad behaviour. I also cane on palms for moderate mistakes or under forming at school. That works well for both my kids.

Amy - posted on 02/01/2017

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Hi Katy,
You are welcome! Both as a mom and ex-teacher I found cane is much more effective over wooden ruler/stick. Even you keep a cane at kids visibility would significantly improve their behaviour. :)

Katy - posted on 01/28/2017

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oh poor you i had a friend whos mom was headmistress she caned , i looked at her bottom one time stripes and welts were so well placed

Sophie - posted on 01/28/2017

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No it was a domestic abuse situation. The cane was just there so he used it. It was not anywhere close to any type of discipline. Luckily he was charged with assault and was no longer a problem for my teacher.

Rachel Louise - posted on 01/28/2017

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That sounds like he caned his girlfriend but I hope people didn't see Miss Sophie

Sophie - posted on 01/28/2017

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A domestic violence incident between our sunday school teacher and her boyfriend. I don't think my parents wanted to risk reminding us of the event by using the cane. It might have been fine but I think it was probably for the best to risk using it.

Rachel Louise - posted on 01/28/2017

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Hello Mrs Collins. Yes he was very practised though at school he caned over skirts, gym tunics for younger girls or knickers. Whereas I got it bare bottom

Katy - posted on 01/28/2017

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hi rachael you dad was a teacher he must of been very experienced with the cane

Sophie - posted on 01/27/2017

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I suppose it could be seen that way but it was always just accepted that you hadn't been fully punished until you had received both spankings. I honestly don't think we had a preference of parent for spanking. We were equally sore from either parent's punishments though we never received the cane due to an incident my siblings and I witnessed as children.

Rachel Louise - posted on 01/27/2017

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It kind of means double punishment though. If I was very naughty with my mother she would ask my dad to spank me as he did it harder or used the cane

Sophie - posted on 01/27/2017

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Ha yes. That wasn't a rule I enjoyed when I was a child. I didn't really think I would employ it with my own children but it has worked wonders on my four girls.

Rachel Louise - posted on 01/27/2017

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I am glad my parents didn't have that rule

Sorry- that was for Sophie Clare. The reply button doesn't seem to work

Rachel Louise - posted on 01/27/2017

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A warning slap when I was out would be a smack on my bare leg or my skirt

Sophie - posted on 01/26/2017

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My husband and I have a policy that if you earn a spanking from one parent you also get spanked by the other. We were both raised this way and always knew our parents were on the same page when it came to discipline. We didn't originally do this until we caught our oldest trying to manipulate me to get out of trouble with her father. And I have to say nothing curbs bad behavior like a long, hard spanking on an already sore, red bottom.

T - posted on 01/25/2017

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Yes the cane works well on bare bottoms i know i had from my mother bent over the bed

Michelle_williams - posted on 01/24/2017

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Amy

I have never caned across pants or trousers. It is ALWAYS a bare bottom and a ritual lowering of knickers and underpants. That way I can monitor the effectiveness of the spanking, the marks etc.

Katy - posted on 01/23/2017

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hi amy thank you for your reply , i need to ungrade fro the hairbrush , and sounds like cane may well improve my daughter

Amy - posted on 01/21/2017

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Hi Mummies,
I am not a cane expert to provide advice on selection but I just measured the canes at my home. I purchased a dozen from a Chinese seller on Taobao few weeks ago. I kept 6 for me and others gave to my sister and my close friends as canes are not available to buy in my locality. Most of them are 6 to 8 mm in diameter and 60-75 cm long. I would say these are quite sufficient for domestic use. Not necessary to have senior canes for children as they may inflict severe pain and marks are visible for days.
However, kids can easily break/hide if you do not keep them properly. My kids often hid our first cane and eventually broke it into two pieces. (However, I managed to make two mini canes from broken pieces. Mini canes are a handy tool in my hand bag especially when my kids are at shopping mall or restaurants ) So this time I bought canes with handle so they can be hung on the wall. In my place the canes are hanging on the walls of living room, play room, study room, dining room, upstairs and entrance to outdoor play area/pool for easy access. :)

T - posted on 01/21/2017

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Katy collins
Use a good qualty cane 26 inches long 13 mill
Thick or so she wont come back fof more on her bard bottom 6 minimum hard strokes

Amy - posted on 01/20/2017

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Hi Michelle,
I cane my kids on palm or over trousers/pants/skirts. During my teaching I mostly caned students on their palms. I only caned students with severe misbehaving over their trousers.

Michelle_williams - posted on 01/20/2017

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Hi Amy,

you said you caned over trousers and skirts when you were a teachers. But with your own children do you cane over the bare bottom or underpants/knickers?

Amy - posted on 01/20/2017

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Hi Katy, I use cane on my both kids, boy aged 6+ and girl 10+. Their behaviour and studies/performance at school have been significantly improved after introducing them cane recently. Prior to that I used hand and wooden spoon but was not effective at all.

I prefer to use cane often on palm for minor to moderate misbehaviours / performance issues rather than hard canning on buttocks. This is mainly due to practices that I learnt as a teacher. During my stay in KL to accompany my hubby six years ago I worked for a leading Malaysian school which is famous for student performances and discipline. As a young teacher I was forced to maintain high level of student performances and discipline in all my classes. Like many of my colleagues I used to buy and carry my own cane to classes and punish students as required.

Katy - posted on 01/20/2017

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hi amy was interested to hear how effective b the cane works im katy mom of 12 yr old daughter katrinacollins80@gmail .com

Sandra Van - posted on 01/20/2017

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Hi everyone I spank my girls 8, 10 and 12 years old my oldest daughter I spank her with a leather belt on her bare bottom I send her to my bedroom and lay her on my bed with a pillow under her stomach then she gets the belt my other daughters are spanked on their bedroom with the hairbrush on the bare bottom

Amy - posted on 01/19/2017

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Hi Michelle, I agree that canning on the bare buttocks is more safer. I cane on palms for minor (1 stroke) to moderate (max 3 strokes) misbehaviours and on buttocks over clothing for major misbehaviours ( 3-6 strokes). Most of time (other than minor) the canning is last resort and I normally give them 3 chances and warnings prior to caning.

BTW, I was based in Malaysia for 3 years six years ago as my hubby was posted to KL as the senior operations manager at a leading multinational IT company. During that period I was working as a teacher at one of the leading schools in K'lumpur, which is renowned for best student performance and discipline. Malaysians prefer cane as the disciplining tool and teachers specially females were encouraged to cane misbehaving and under performing students - girls on palms and boys on buttocks over their trousers. I have not seen or heard any of my colleagues cane their kids or students on bare bottom. :)

Michelle_williams - posted on 01/18/2017

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Understand what you say Amy but it's safer on the bare buttocks and it is more embarrassing and you don't cane over the same lines and the child fears it far more. I can't believe it's against your culture as malaya and Singapore both cane individual delinquents on their bare bottom. I would advise you to try it you will see a great improvement in behaviour

Amy - posted on 01/15/2017

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I started spanking my son when he is 5 years old and daughter at 7. I use cane over clothing as bare bottom is not an acceptable norm in Asian culture. My kids are required to bend over and touch their toes so their bottoms are well presented to cane. If they incorporate I will increase the number of strokes.

Katy - posted on 12/14/2016

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i was a late starter i spanked at 7 yrs , i was spanked at home till i was 18

Neha - posted on 12/04/2016

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Canes r very effective, i cane my girls on naked bum, the caning has to be hard enough to leave sufficient impression.

Mickeypooh36575 - posted on 11/28/2016

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Hi my name is Robert Henderson and I am not a parent or not a woman but I want to say something I am reading all of your input and all of you are on point now if there were more parents like woman like y'all kids would have less gun and stuff like that more spankings on their buttocks will lead to less crimes that what we need more spankings because if you want your kids not go to jail then spank them when they need it they never to old to get a spanking use that switch or belt on their bear buttocks no matter if they are male or female or both if they were in trouble at the same time they can be in room at the same time and they can get the spanking in the same room at the same time

Stefanie - posted on 11/12/2016

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My daughters are 14 and 13. For a real spanking i do bare there bottoms and spank them bend over a chair mostly. If they just get a couple of warning swats if we are out then it is on a clothed bottom, i might flip up a dress or skirt

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