43 and mother again???

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Would I be crazy to have another child at 42(actually 43 when a baby would come)?

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Vernessa - posted on 09/15/2013

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Wow I am with the same dilemma. My fiancé who is much younger wants a child with me. I am 42 and if I decide to do this I would be 43 when the baby actually came. Glad to know I'm not alone in this

Robynn - posted on 04/28/2009

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I had my last at 44. She is younger than my grandchildren. I enjoy her so much. I am so much knider and layed back than I was when the older ones were young.

Stacy - posted on 03/11/2009

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I am going to be 43 next month. I have a 2 year old, and another one due in Sept.

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I had my first child, a daughter, three weeks after my 46th birthday. She is now almost seven months old, happy and healthy! She is the love of our lives and my husband and I consider ourselves so blessed. It has also forced me to look at the decisions I make regarding my own health so that I can be around for many years to come (my own mother is now almost 88 and had me at 42).

Cherie - posted on 02/23/2009

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Funny ... I'm debating the same thing! Not an easy question at our age, is it? I have a 5 year old, a 4 year old, and an 11 month old in the "nest" already. I can really feel a difference in my energy level as compared with having a baby 5 years ago, so I am wondering if I even have it in me to go through it again. At the same time, I just hate the idea of closing up the shop. I love kids. If I had gotten married earlier in life I think I would have had more.

So, like you, I'm still mulling over the pros and cons. I know that it is too soon at this point, since I'm still nursing the 11 month old, but I'd like to make a final decision before this fall.

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Mondie - posted on 03/12/2012

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I am new to this forum but already I am enjoying the postings. I lost a 5 month baby girl three years ago due to fibroid,I was 40 years old then. I've had the fibroids removed and have been given the go ahead by my doctor, but I am worried about my age. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss that baby and I have battled depression for the past three years. I think the only way I can fully recover is to have another child (I have a 14 year boy). I worry also because my husband is 54. He is not as worried as I am. I am worried about how old I will be when my child is a teenager!

Hedy - posted on 05/16/2011

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lol. Well, God had plans for me at 43! I was stunned to learn I was expecting! I had just turned 44 last summer when she was born and we've been having a BALL! Her big sister (16, almost 17) and brother (13, almost 14) LOVE her! GO for it!

User - posted on 04/20/2011

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i am 43 in a week..and i have a 3 and a half year old.I wish i had started earlier:).Do it and enrich your life:)

User - posted on 04/20/2011

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i am 43 in a week..and i have a 3 and a half year old.I wish i had started earlier:).Do it and enrich your life:)

Elaine - posted on 10/22/2010

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No...I did it and my daughter was just fine. Actually I had another one after that at age 47.

Sandra - posted on 08/25/2009

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I am 43 SAHM, with a 29 month old and a eight year old boys. They keep me young and feeling great. Both of my boys are healthy and happy. We had a few issue with my younger son but nothing that was due to my age. My doctor said all babies can have high fever before they're two. Both of my boys have speech delay but again this has nothing to do with my age. These things can happen to younger moms with their babies also. There are alot of moms with young babies on this site but at the end its your choice to make. Good luck with your decision!

Tawnya - posted on 08/25/2009

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Oh my goodness!! Are you in my head? I am with the other mothers...my energy level is not what it used to be...there are 8 years between my kids. I would love to give my youngest someone to grow up with...I think about it daily, and I notice my husband gets baby fever sometimes...but he just holds the neighbor's 6 month old and he is good for a bit. Oh well! Good luck with your craziness! ;)

Becky - posted on 07/23/2009

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I was almost 41 when I had my third son. My first two sons are 22 and 19. I had a perfect healthy pregnancy and a perfect healthy little boy. I have no regrets, whatsoever. I say go for it!

Jeannette - posted on 07/09/2009

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Nah! I'm due to havve my 3rd and I'm 41, turning 42 in October. My boys are only 3 & 2, as well.

Lynda - posted on 06/17/2009

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Paulette - posted on 06/01/2009

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Hi Jeanine, I am so glad you posted this question. I am in the same place where I would be 43 when the baby would come if we were to try. I was trying to post my own question about this and get opinions but when I clicked ask it keeps telling me to pick a community which I did of course. I saw all your question and all the positive posts. But with a little more added to the equation, me with fibromyalgia and a mildly autistic child. He is pretty good with his sister and is passing kindergarten this year. Yes! I would like input from everybody to go to MY 'profile wall' please. One of the things that I know that we need to consider is...the family history of twins (I am a twin, I have twin half brothers, maternal grandmother had twin girls and twin cousins on my husbands side) and with age the chances increase for having twins. Please respond as I have been pondering this for weeks and I would like to resolve this. Thanks so much for listening and giving me your input. Jeanine Thank you so much for posting this question and for the room to piggy-back off of your thread.

Josie - posted on 04/30/2009

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absolutely not!!!!!if you are healthy go for it!!! I am 46 now with a 3 year old and a 16 month old.....yes im starting all over again...when i first thought about it i went on the net asking the same question I could not believe how many women there were....so listen to your heart...and if it says yes DO it...

Lisa - posted on 04/28/2009

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Hi! I was 43 when I had my baby girl last year! I have another daughter who will be 18 in a couple months so it's like starting all over again! I can tell you I am having the best time! It's so great to be able to go through this and I think it will help me stay and feel young.

She is such a blessing and I have no regrets. The last 3 months of the pregnancy were hard on me, but I managed and got through it. When I brought her home and was sitting there rocking her, I had this very overwhelming feeling that I wanted another one! I know I can't, so I am enjoying this to the fullest! It's great now too that I can stay home and really enjoy it now where with my first one, I had to work full-time to support us. (her father died 4 days after we found out we were having her) So I missed out on alot of great things.

I say go right ahead...:)

Lisa

Cindy - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quoting Kathy:



I am 50 with a 3 year old. I'll be 51 next month. We didn't plan on this one, but he has been such a joy in our life. I pray that I live a long life so I can see his children some day. I don't feel 50, though. I feel young.






Thank so much for your post.  It is very encouraging :)

Teresa - posted on 03/28/2009

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I have a 27 yr old son & a 2 yr old daughter. I am almost 44. She is so much fun! I don't know of anyone whos kids are 25 yrs apart..LOL



I say, if you feel young & you are healthy & ready, go for it! So many of us are having babies later in life. They keep you young & are a blessing. I know that I am more understanding & not as up tight with my little one, as I was the first time. Being older, you realize what really is more important, keeping a perfect house or playing outside all day! Good luck!

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Cathy V.  I definately do no think you are crazy.  I love your story.  God bless you and your family. 

Cathy - posted on 03/20/2009

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I know you don't know me but am I crazy??  Had my first at 42 and a half and second at 45 and one month!! 



Both were conceived naturally and very much wanted.  I never attempted to have children before 40 and had one Miscarriage between..



 



 

Louise - posted on 03/20/2009

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Im a 43 and have a 3 year old.  I also have a 20 year old and 18 year old.   He was planned and I couldnt be happier.  This time around its been alot harder on the energy levels but I wouldnt change it for the world.  I am also going to be a grandma this year as my 20 year old is pregnant.  I didnt think I was ready to be a Gran while Im still being a mum but Im now really looking forward to it.

Kathy - posted on 03/12/2009

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I am 50 with a 3 year old. I'll be 51 next month. We didn't plan on this one, but he has been such a joy in our life. I pray that I live a long life so I can see his children some day. I don't feel 50, though. I feel young.

Lori - posted on 02/28/2009

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no you would not be crazy. I have a little 11 month old boy and I was 43 when he was born. He is the sweetest thing in the world. I call him my blessing. Good luck

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wow thanks for your input.  At least I know I'm not the only one out there.  I feel like I don't want to "close the shop" either.  I guess it is out of my hands and what will be will be.  Thank you for your feedback and good luck in the future - whatever you decide.



 

Cherie - posted on 02/23/2009

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Funny ... I'm debating the same thing! Not an easy question at our age, is it? I have a 5 year old, a 4 year old, and an 11 month old in the "nest" already. I can really feel a difference in my energy level as compared with having a baby 5 years ago, so I am wondering if I even have it in me to go through it again. At the same time, I just hate the idea of closing up the shop. I love kids. If I had gotten married earlier in life I think I would have had more.

So, like you, I'm still mulling over the pros and cons. I know that it is too soon at this point, since I'm still nursing the 11 month old, but I'd like to make a final decision before this fall.

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